AIBU to think that 35 is too old...

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...have another baby?

I had my only child at 37. Since I has believed I would never have any I was overjoyed to be pregnant in my late 30's

I think it would be for me personally but that's because I feel bloody knackered. I had dd at 22 and ds at 32 and he's 2 now and I feel much more exhausted than I did with dd ten years earlier. But that's just me... I don't think 35 is considered old anymore.

YABU, I'm 36 and expecting no.2 in a few weeks.

Surely it is up to you and your DH to agree together whether you both want another baby - perhaps he genuinely doesn't want another child and that is perfectly acceptable, maybe by saying 'you are too old' he is trying to say he doesn't want another one but avoiding having that discussion with you? .

I had my first (and last ) at 43 - that was the right decision for family.

I have never felt significantly older than other parents through school- there are so many of us!

If you are having to think about it and worry about it then perhaps you are too old.

When I was younger I always said I wanted 3 dc by the time im 30, because 30 was ancient . Luckily I got my wish however I'm now 32 and really hoping I can talk dp round to having another next year.

Im 30 and an old mum. I luckily look a lot younger so its not too bad. I was one of the oldest mums at my last nursery.

Same as you willwork I said 3 before dh and I were 30 and did it and now want more but dont want to be too old.

I don't know where you all live- I had my first at 30 and laughed at the thought I was 'elderly'.
In my area the ones that feel out of place at the school gate are the really young.

Gosh no, that is not to old. I have my children at 32, 34, 36 and 38. I wouldn't of ruled out one at 40 too but we were limited by money and bedrooms.

Depends where you live. Where my sister lives, her and her husband are very old compared to their dcs friends parents (Sis was 37 and Bil was 38 when they had their twins). Where i am now, i would be the oldest at the school gate - not because i am the oldest mum, but because most of the kids get collected by au pairs and younger nannies.

yabu. It's also not a modern phenomenon before contraception women had babies until their bodies stopped.

my great grandmother had 10. She had my gran, her third at the age of 33..... now think about that one . All born before 1925. My grandmother then had her only child at 38.

That said I'm 36 and my baby rearing is over!

YABU. I just had my second baby at 35. My first at 32.

My own mother was 36 when she had me.

Can't see a problem with it at all.

I suppose it depends if you are fit and healthy.

I had my first at 36, my second at 39.

I'm 34 and don't want another child, but I don't FEEL too old for another baby. I just really don't want one.

No but I had my first baby at 35.

I had my first with 38 and the second 6 weeks before my 42nd birthday.
No problems conceiving or during pregnancies but I think the sleepless nights would have been easier a few years earlier.

Yes and No. I'm a fairly young Grandma and I don't know where I would be without my gorgeous 11 year granddaughter.

We do so much together. She has taught me as much as I have taught her. She also has the advantage of having a fairly youthful great grandmother and she loves spending time with the4 extended family.

I had 3 in my 20s and have just had no.4 at 45

I don't feel any different now compared to then, and honestly none of my anti or post natal health care team turned a hair at my age. Those who i actually asked said it was quite common now to see women in their 40s due to the rise in 'second families' these days.

The general consensus from them was if you are resonably healthy and have no history of hellish pregnancies then your body knows what it's doing and will do what nature built it to do. I was left to get on with it more or less - seen less often than was routine in the 90s when i was under 30.

Obviously there are risks in pregnancy for - which do increase as you age - but frankly they start to rocket after your late 20s anyway - so ... if you're really going to take notice of risk assessment figures then you can consider yourself past 'optimal breeding age' by 29!!

I felt, for me, over 30 was too old

Everyone else can do as they please with their bodies

Amongst my friends, I know no one who had a baby before their thirties. Two of my friends have just had their thirds at 42 and 43. Another friend is 42 and trying for her first baby.

If you go to my DD's school, I'm viewed as a young mum and I'm in my early 40s!

Just wanted to add that I had my children at 18, 20 and 25

Had my youngest at 38. I don't think I was any more knackered, it's all a blur now.