AIBU to think that 35 is too old...

[teeththief]

...have another baby?

No way! A friend had her first at 345, second at 37, and last just before she hit 40. All uneventful pregnancies.

At 35 you would need to get a wriggle on with conceiving, but as long as there are no over riding health issues for yourself, I don't see why not!

35 that should be!

345 would be waaay over the hill!

ha ha, on my 35th birthday I was still single and childless. I'm now married with 3 DC.

You're a spring chicken :)

I was over 40 when my youngest was born. She's a toddler now and I have no problem keeping up with her.

Chrome: you're very far from too old at 33.

I am 35, and have dd(10), ds1(8) and ds2(9 months). It is wonderful, and we all adore him.

Hell no. I had my first just two weeks shy of my 38th birthday. My mum had me when she was 44 and a half!

Yanbu if it's just about your own situation, but for others it's each to their own and many people don't have a choice. They're simply not in the 'right' position at the 'right' age. Several of my friends are mid thirties and still haven't met the right man so have no option but to be an older mum. That's v difficult for them.

Otoh I know two close friends who are already 35 and happily married for several years but are still "waiting for a bit" before having children (and want two). Personally I think this is their own choice but having seen so many people go through unexpected and sad complications it's a dangerous game to play.

I also don't think it's possible to realise without having kids the impact that waiting to have your first will have on the age between your first and second. You're under more pressure to have eg two under two which can be an enormous transition for people to go through in a relatively short space if time.

I also don't ever necessarily think there is a right time because you don't know what nature has in store. One thing I do know is that I have never met a person who has regretted having children. They just might have changed the timing a bit.

35 was too young for me!
I had my dc at 37 and 40 ( through choice, no fertility issues).

And fwiw I am 34 and pregnant so will be having my second at 35 and feel fantastic for it

Physically no, as people on this thread prove! Mentally, well that one is up to you, if you feel too old you probably are, if you don't, er...fill yer boots

No. I had my first at 35 and am having my second at 37 and hope for third at 39. I can't believe it is considered old these days. Everyone i know at my NCT group and toddler groups are between 32 and 39 - however, these are all first children so maybe you feel older if you have older DC already. I would probably be more surprised at someone having a baby at 25 than 35.

No. Had my second at 47!

For me it would be, for others it's not. All personal circumstances, like anything else.

I had my last DC at 35, as did my mother.

35 is pretty common, though it is the age at which the medical profession categorises you as an older mum - less relevant when not your forst though I believe.

I had mine at 30, 32 and 35 - I have found DC3 hardest, but maybe that's just him ... actually I think its the age gap - the small baby phase wasn't so bed, apart from combining sleep deprivation with a 5 & 3 year old who no longer napped obviously, but the toddler phase is hard when the older ones are no longer toddlers and he has to be stopped from spoiling their games/ homework etc. Its like having 2 kids plus an only sometimes - though other times they do play together or the older ones enjoy looking after him.

I'd look at whether you want to combine older primary age kids with a toddler, more than your age. My older 2 are quite self sufficient in terms of play - I love DC3 desperately but no longer want to play dogs or Playmobile with a toddler some days, though I love his stories and the things he says, I feel too old, at 39, to crawl around the floor with him... I think between them they've aged me at least 10 years though - I feel an old 39 aym! Lots of people are

Oops - lots of people have the energy and enthusiasm for a toddler in their 40s. Not everyone though - thonk of the toddler years and combining that with parenting your older kids, is my advoce - not of the squidgy portable newborn or your age in isolation.

I had my first at 33 and my second at 38.

I had my DS at 34 and I had much more energy than my 26 yo SIL

I'm far more laid back than I ever was in my twenties and did all the things I needed to do then for a rounded life - travel, climbing career ladder, sports cars, partying weekends, concerts, festivals etc. All out of my system now.

I had my first at 21 and my second at 34. I am 37 now and would love a third but I personally feel too old. My job is quiet physical I am up and down alot and found it difficult in my last pregnancy. So amongst other reason I have called it a day.

In general though I don't think 35 is old. Everybody is different.

I'm 35 and had my 4th baby last week, far more patience this time around, but it really is the last.

I was 40yrs with my last- friends were older then that. You are as old as you feel. I have run 2 half marathons aged 62 years. I wouldn't get old before your time!

It is even more common to be older than it was when I had mine.

You're joking right? I'm about to have my second at 35, my SIL had her first at 35 and is expecting her second at 37. Neither of us are noticeably decrepit.

I don't actually know anyone who started their families before their early 30s.

I might be on my last by then but really dont want to be older than that. Its not when they are borm it is when they are older that I want to think about. I dont want to be signigicantly older than everyone else.