To be a bit irritated by these church weddings for people who have never ever been in a church? And also the SCALE of these weddings!

[mrsjavierbardem]

AIBU? Really?
I didn't get married in a church because I don't practice my religion any more and my husband isn't a believer.

I just couldn't even though I was brought up in a faith and know all about it and understand the good and bad of it and I feel I could easily have argued for a church wedding because of my history. Still, I would have felt hypocritical I think.

People say to me that these weddings are all about the photographs and the making it feel more special. Those are good reasons but still, I couldn't just do God one day of my life, I just would feel ridiculous.

Also I don't see why some of these couples don't have a more moderate day? I'm about to go to a wedding when I know the couple have barely a few beans to rub together and they are having a serious do. I guess her parents are footing a lot but also the couple must be borrowing too….
it's just such a big expense for all of us going too, the presents, the clothes, the travel, two nights accommodation. I mean it's people with few beans making a lot of people with varying amounts of beans spend hundreds of beans!
I mean I am not crazy about the bride which doesn't help!
Dont' worry I am very nice to her but it all seems a great festival of fakery and vanity!

I mean I wish them well! And I'm glad to be asked! But it's just the splurging of money and the need to make everyone else splurge money that makes me uneasy. Of course one can just say No - but not easy at a family wedding!

Apocalypse, if your (generic you, not specifically you) guests only turn up on time without a cob on because you are entertaining, feeding and watering them to an "expected" high standard, then you've got the wrong guests. It requires grace and tact on the part of both the happy couple and their guests to be good hosts and guests. Good guests will respect the wishes of the couple within reason (eg dress codes). Good hosts will make their guests as comfortable as possible (eg not insisting on expensive morning suit hire if people can't afford it). It's basic old-fashioned manners.

I'm not religious so didn't want to get married in a church but it doesn't bother me if other people want to. Although I'd rather not sit through all that tbh, ESP when I know the couple don't particularly believe themselves. But their wedding, up to them.

Being hypocritical to a religion isn't a great deal when religion itself is hypocritical.

I didn't get married in a church but to those who did...

I hope you had a fantastic time :)

I've never been to a bad wedding. They have all been lovely and from one extreme to the other - big, small, castles, kibbutz. Don't folk just go and enjoy the day and be happy for the couple?

I do agree about young people spending thousands on a big expensive do when they are struggling for a deposit for a house. You spend what you can easily afford.