To think party mum should have checked before giving out inappropriate prizes

[SoonToBeSix]

Genuinely don't know if I am being unreasonable. I was at a birthday party today with three year old ds and he won musical bumps. He was swiftly handed a packet of haribo . I tried to encourage him to " save" them for later ie I would put them in by bag and through them away but he was so upset I let him have them.
I do not give my dc sweets ever with the exception of a small amount of chocolate at Easter from well meaning relatives. Most eggs get given away.
I really feel she should have checked first before handing them out.

Op, I also hate all the sweets at parties. My ds is sick sometimes afterwards if he eats too much as he's not used to them. I take them off him if I can.

At his or dd's own parties I make a real effort with pass the parcel and party bags so they aren't just full of sweets. It's harder but I think it's better for my children at least.

This kind of parenting just makes me despair. If the OP had something to me at my child's party, I would have just rolled my eyes and walked away. reminding myself to bring a flask of gin, for medicinal purposes

Oh really

It's only a few sweets don't be mean!

YABU. How is lollies at a party 'inappropriate'!! Most parents wouldn't mind (I certainly wouldn't). Stop being a party pooper.

YANBU to not want your child to have sweets. Apart from the sugar I have terrible reactions to some colourings and flavourings used (other posters have mentioned a possible link between sweets and ADHD type behaviour, and based on my reactions I can well believe it).

However, sweets at a party are the norm, so it's up to you to mention something or bring something else yourself and swap them for whatever DS won, so YABU to expect party mum to not give sweets out.

I'm shocked that you've only just encountered sweets at a party when you have 6 children! I only have 2 and I think at every party I've ever been to the prize for musical bumps was some sort of sweet! I think yabu - I watch what my sc eat but at parties they are allowed party food.

i thought haribo at a party were standard, can't think of a party i've been to where they weren't given out!! From the title i thought original poster was going to say something like he had been given a toy gun for a present (which i know more people would perhaps object to).

Stubbed above said her ds can be sick as he's not used to sweets, maybe this is becuase he never gets them so then eats to many when he can. I don't deny my son sweets and he very rarely asks for them, in fact he still has quite a few easter eggs left!! He would eat a few out of a haribo packet and then save the rest for later.

Glucose Syrup, Sugar, Dextrose, Gelling Agent (Gelatine), Citric Acid, Caramelised Sugar Syrup, Flavourings, Fruit and Plant Concentrates (Aronia, Blackcurrant, Carrot, Elderberry, Grape, Lemon, Mango, Orange, Passion Fruit, Redcurrent, Safflower), Colours (Carmine, Copper Complexes of Chlorophyll), Glazing Agents (Vegetable Oil, Beeswax and Carnauba Wax), Invert Sugar Syrup

Haribo starmix ingredients are better than you might imagine even if not exactly nutritious. Having said that I would prefer it if my kids didn't eat them. I have never not allowed them and I wouldn't be surprised by them at a party however I do often 'put them away for later'. If my kids don't ask for them back in the next week or two then dh eats them. Of course if they ask, they can have them but they frequently forget.

3 years or 3 months??!!
Ridiculous. YABU.

Just re the chocolate vs sweets such as haribo - my dad is a dentist and says chocolate is much better for your teeth than sweets for a couple of reasons - chocolate is washed out of mouth more easily whereas chewy sweets stick to teeth, high citric acid levels in chewy sweets and you are more likely to hold a chewy sweet in your mouth for longer.

But sweets at a party are normal as is juice - not my choice and not what ds has normally but I would relent at a party.

When I clicked on the title I was expecting the prize to be a giant dildo in the shape of a fist or something.

Bloody Hell, DDs 3rd birthday cake was covered in Smarties, Haribo Bears and edged with Kitkats (it was made to look like a basket of sweets). So glad that DDs little friends parents didn't object. Or maybe they did and I've been gossiped about ever since

I was thinking along the same lines as AllHail!!
Of course prizes at a party are sweets- cheap and easy.
I have never thought to ask the parent. Much better at 5 yrs when you don't have the parent at the party!

at least it's natural sugar not chemicals

I don't know quite what you imagine the difference is, but there isn't one!

Parties are fun occasions- you relax.
Now that you know you can expect it at future parties.
I have 3 children and they have never been to parties without them.
Generally my home made birthday cakes included them for decoration.

Well op, now you know, sweets are a. Normal thing to be provided at a party after the age of 2, up to you if you let your dcs go or not...

The only way to avoid from now on is to keep him away from parties.

I opened this thread thinking the host mum was going to be dishing out Barbie dolls in the party bags, or toy guns or make-up.

You are deluded if you think people will check if haribo is OK, before handing it out at parties. It's never going to happen.

Yep I was thinking chocolate willies were handed out or something.

Sweets at a children's party are to be expected.

Haven't read the thread but Jaysus, Haribo, really? I gave out bags of Haribo and tubes of bubbles as prizes at my youngest dcs party recently. My kids don't like them at all but everyone else's seems to love them. I did buy a different sweetie for one wee girl as she's veggie and I know she doesn't eat Haribo.

I thought inappropriate meant weapons, or racist/sexist stuff, etc...

And I'd have been all set to back you up too, OP.

But haribo? Farrrkin' 'ell........

When my children go to parties I expect them to be given sweets. And cake. And all manner of processed food.

If they go to someone else's house to play, or for tea then I anticipate pizza, fishfingers, hotdogs, icecream, sweets.

When my dd1 had her first party, aged 3, I did four pass-the-parcels. Inside each layer was a fun sized chocolate bar or small bag of harribo. Inside every party bag was a bag of harribo, and a shitload of other sugary stuff and plastic tat.

Dd2's 2nd birthday cake was covered in sweets.

Dd1 has a friend with food intolerances. Whenever I've asked her mum what is ok for her to have her mum says harribo.

It's harribo; not heroin. A very normal part of children's parties.

I would consult a mother if the child had allergies- otherwise I wouldn't even think of it.

You get about 8 sweets in those little bags don't you?

DS is 4 and has come home with numerous bags of sweets from people's birthdays at preschool. He has been given them at parties too. He isn't keen on them so normally gives them to me anyway but I don't see anything to get upset by with a handful of sweets