To think party mum should have checked before giving out inappropriate prizes

[SoonToBeSix]

Genuinely don't know if I am being unreasonable. I was at a birthday party today with three year old ds and he won musical bumps. He was swiftly handed a packet of haribo . I tried to encourage him to " save" them for later ie I would put them in by bag and through them away but he was so upset I let him have them.
I do not give my dc sweets ever with the exception of a small amount of chocolate at Easter from well meaning relatives. Most eggs get given away.
I really feel she should have checked first before handing them out.

It's Haribo not heroin. YABU

I expect my kids to have rubbish food at birthday parties with perhaps the exception of 1st birthday parties, that's what they're all about imo!

They're just sweets. It would be odd if prizes were a bunch of grapes or a rice cake. Yabu.

But he has never had a sweet before , his whole life. Surely I shouldn't have been put in that position? Why is a bag of sugar and chemicals a fun treat ?

YABU. Haribo at a party is not "inappropriate".

Surely the person in charge of the party shouldn't have been in the position of assuming a three year old had never had a sweet, as that is unusual?

Inappropriate would have been a copy of 50 Shades of Grey.

Haribo, not so much.

Yes grapes and rice cakes would be an odd prize but what's wrong with a packet of raisins? The party was for a three year old not an older child.

YABU. If you don't want him to have sweets then don't bring him to parties.

Sweets at a birthday party are too be expected. I think unless you come from a country where no children have sweets ever, you could have foreseen that this would happen one day. The responsibility was yours to tell parents not to give your child sweets. Sorry you are upset though.

ffs it wasn't a pack of cigarettes. That's a completely appropriate prize.

YABU. There's nothing inappropriate about sweets at a birthday party.

Is it unusual cheerful ? That is why I asked if I was being unreasonable? Ds isn't my pfb I have six dc and always believed it to be normal.

@ Chaos

Is this a joke? I would never imagine a packet of haribo could be thought of as inappropriate for a child's birthday party. For a 1 year old, maybe, but isn't haribo actually compulsory for all other ages?!

YABU. You might not allow your 3yo to eat sweets (a laudable principle I'm sure) but most of the rest of us do, occasionally. A birthday party is, indeed, an occasion.

Sweets?! At a kids party?! How ruddy dare they..

Coughle, it's because he is little that it upset me. If he was older I would have expected it and told the host not to give him any sweets.

Raisins are full of sugar!

Yes, it's unusual. I'm stricter than most people I know about sweets and sugar and chocolate in general. We never keep things like ice cream or sweets or crisps or fizzy drinks around the house...but parties and trips to the cinema, etc, sure. That's what a "treat" means...something you wouldn't normally have.

A packet of raisins?! ROFL. As another poster mentioned it was sweets not heroin.

This thread is hilarious.

Seriously, you need to ban him from parties and real life if you don't want him to eat sweets. Poor kid - I feel so sorry for him. You need to learn that children need treats. They really won't kill him.

A Packet of raisins is as bad for the teeth as a few haribo.

In fairness, what if the child was veggie?
I'm not saying that party mum was necessarily unreasonable, but I hate the culture of sweets and desserts being seen as treats or prizes. What's wrong with a little toy. We used to get plastic jewellery, whistles, crayons etc for party prizes

Polyester no it's not a joke. How is it funny?

Really, you have six dc and this is the first time anyone has given any of them Haribo? Where on earth do you live?

Sweeties at a birthday party who knew op get a grip love you upset your child I front of people because you dont approve of a fun size of haribo loosen up your son will be the kid who is pilfer ing sweets from his friends at school because he isnt allowed