To think party mum should have checked before giving out inappropriate prizes

[SoonToBeSix]

Genuinely don't know if I am being unreasonable. I was at a birthday party today with three year old ds and he won musical bumps. He was swiftly handed a packet of haribo . I tried to encourage him to " save" them for later ie I would put them in by bag and through them away but he was so upset I let him have them.
I do not give my dc sweets ever with the exception of a small amount of chocolate at Easter from well meaning relatives. Most eggs get given away.
I really feel she should have checked first before handing them out.

Sweets at kids party shocker.
Fucking hell this place gets more prissy by the hour.

Bumbley, why are you comparing Haribo with cider?

It's a slightly worrying attitude.

ding, you don't need to minimise treats.

The whole point of a treat is that it is occasional

It's the 'why should I be put in this position' from the OP, back on page 1 or 2, that grates. Your choice not to allow your child sweets, but don't expect everyone else to tiptoe round you at a party. Be a parent, step up and say no if that's what you believe is best - don't whine about others making things difficult on the basis of your choices.

Bumbly accused me of offering ham to vegetarians - very odd response.

OP... please do keep your children away from parties. When you are a guest, you do not defy convention save for allergies, that's just rude and obnoxious. You're not a more 'worthy' parent to deny your children sweets. I'd proffer that you're a bit of a short-sighted one because you will not be able to control that later on and your children will not have learned moderation.

I think you're being very silly.

Op,what d you serve at your own kids' parties?
Raisins?

I don't even know what Haribo is but I like the sound of it :o

Oh, it's gummy bears and stuff? That's what the Google tells me. In that case YADBU. :)

get over yourself please

I was rarely allowed sweets as a child either.

I made up for by smoking a shitload of crack cocaine and getting off my face on eccies as an adult.

So you see, OP, us sweet deprived children can come good in the end!

To all the 'forbidden fruit' people suggesting that not allowing your young children to eat sugary crap will result in them rebelling when they're older - do you apply the same logic to alcohol/drugs? At what age should I start adding vodka to my children's juice and hash into their cake so they don't binge on them when they're teenagers/young adults?

What a stupid comment

I'll spell this out for you, because you're clearly a bit hard of thinking.

Sugar is not illegal.

Drugs are illegal.

Alcohol is illegal for children under the age of 5 in your own home.

But sugar... (Just because the comparisons you're drawing are fucking moronic and insulting)... IS NOT ILLEGAL. ANYWHERE.

I hope my dc are never invited to one of your dc's parties.

RAISINS.

FFS.

To be honest if you are that strict I would have thought kids parties are a no go. Even if your 3 year old wasn't handed anything all the crap food is bound to be about and others having it. I would say the responsibility is with you to inform the parents of your views. So YABU

ding, perhaps instead of throwing your Easter eggs away, you could consider giving them to a local children's home, women's shelter or hospital? It seems a bit of a waste otherwise

If you were there supervising and didn't want your child to have them, why did you let them? What would you have done if the child were known to be allergic to what they'd been given?

It is not a great trend but it is normal for sweets to be given out at young children's parties. If you don't want your child having them in future, warn the parents in advance.

3 year old DS went to a party where there were packets of raisins in the pass the parcel sections - he necked them much faster than he would have had a pack of haribo, as he knows he only gets a maximum of 2 haribos in one sitting - so overall I think he was on more of a sugar high after a box of raisins than he would be after 2 haribo!

Jesus, people throw out CHOCOLATE? What kind of warped world is that?

Ding thats very sad.

I would expect any mother of a child with unusual eating requirements to let me, as the party-organising-mum, know that their child needed to be treated differently. That includes a 3 year old not being allowed any sugar, as well as any child with allergies or dietry restrictions. In the absence of any such communication, it's reasonable to assume that all kids are allowed stuff within the normal range of party food, which includes sugary stuff like cakes, biscuits and sweets. It's a party - did you seriously expect there wouldn't be any sweets? YABU I'm afraid. You should have consulted the party organiser if you were going to have this kind of reaction.

Never throw out the eggs....

Do an Easter meltdown ....choc cornflake cakes

Choc brownie and choc butterfly cakes....

Fair enough even more unhealthy but distributed to neighbours and a cake sale....

WTAF god these hysterical PFB mothers make me laugh so much ! just because you dont feed your child sweets doesn't make you a good parent if anything he will grow up to be obese and never learn to say no to himself when it comes to food. ok ? now go feed your PFB some chocolate and take the bubblewrap of him before he suffocates. urrgh im done . oh and btw im a TTC'er and i would never act like this to my future child its abnormal and childish ffs