To think party mum should have checked before giving out inappropriate prizes

[SoonToBeSix]

Genuinely don't know if I am being unreasonable. I was at a birthday party today with three year old ds and he won musical bumps. He was swiftly handed a packet of haribo . I tried to encourage him to " save" them for later ie I would put them in by bag and through them away but he was so upset I let him have them.
I do not give my dc sweets ever with the exception of a small amount of chocolate at Easter from well meaning relatives. Most eggs get given away.
I really feel she should have checked first before handing them out.

Bumbly er drugs are illegal so no one should be taking them really should they.

Alcohol, yes we allowed our teens to have a half cider or a small glass of wine for Sunday lunch, Christmas etc.

Out of the 4 both girls dislike the taste of alcohol and the older lads both enjoy a beer like all their friends.

Banning things teaches children absolutely nothing and is super controlling.

Stratter, do you want to answer my question about vodka and hash? Really worried that my children are going to binge on these things when they're older because I didn't introduce them soon enough!

Dingalong what a cow, poor child

Pah! Forget the rainbow cake. I want a Haribo cake

Bumbly - you seem to be avoiding my question. I will assume that I am correct and that you did in fact fail to comprehend what I had written in my earlier post.

Ding

That is just awful

Don't be daft, Bumbly; there's a world of difference between sweets and illegal drugs.

That cake is glorious

I wasn't allowed sweets and chocolate that often when I was growing up and I haven't binged on them. My children only have them occasionally and aren't scrounging off children in the playground or gorging themselves on them at parties . Other people have posted similar experiences on this thread and have been ignored. Sorry, but not allowing your 3 yo to eat sweets is not going to give them food issues. Telling them that non-coloured-sugary-crap is 'dull' might though!

Mine have been brought up being allowed sweets. There's also plenty of fruit always around in the house. They chose fruit over sweets, and we all eat very healthily. It's not some sort of slippery slope, allowing them sweets. Children that eat sweets a couple of times a week aren't going to turn into alcoholic druggies just because they've had the odd jelly tot.

That cake is ace.
Will stock up on single colours of the bears when I'm in Germany. There's a factory shop where you can buy everything by the piece, to be weighed at the till.
Heard there were purple and pink bears coming out.

Imagine that cake with Skittles vodka. A veritable rainbow of happiness.

Happy, the OP hasn't banned sweets - she just thinks 3 yo is too young. Were you giving your children cider and wine at age 3?

Were you giving your children cider and wine at age 3?

Err, liver damage? I can't remember the last time I heard of a child getting liver damage from a chocolate button.

Bumbley I'm guessing she hasn't because giving alcohol to a 3 year old would be illegal. Sugar is not illegal.

Yes cider and sweets...100% similar in many ways
Someone call the fun police

I this a joke?! You have 6 other dc and none of then had sweets before 3? I am amazed you have the time to worry about such trivial matters OP.

Wtf is wrong with people these days. Sweets are fun kids like them they are a treat. They will not cause harm in the long run in moderation. They are not in the same league as heroin scrumpy jack or ketamine or there would be Haribos anonymous popping up all over the place

The Sandwich Police heard your picnic was a bit short.

I also don't allow dd who is 4 to have much sugary crap etc. she drinks water only at home and has a few sweets occasionally....

A party is great for treats....she sits and has juice if she fancies some.... ....pizza....birthday cake and bloody loves it. It's a party....a joyous occasion....I wouldn't expect the host to specifically check before all these were given out. Same as a treat in a pass the parcel....

Blimey....

No, we don't have fizzy drinks at home either, but that is because DD2 and I have duff kidneys, and fizzy drinks aren't good for us. She knows she can have the odd drink, and I've never restricted her, she's just been made aware that she will get godawful backache if she has too much.

The key is moderation. There is nothing wrong with sweets, provided they're not a staple part of a diet.

what's the big deal about a wee bag of sweeties as a prize at a children's party? Isn't that totally normal? why would you expect there wouldn't be sweets at a party?

If you don't want your children to eat sweets, then it's up to you to make the effort and speak to your host who will probably think you are bonkers and feel sorry for your child

The OP would have fainted at one party we went to - kids sat down at the tables and it was just mega sweetie feast - no jam/ham sandwiches, no crisps, no cheese cubes, just haribos, marshmallows, choc teacakes etc......went to the park after that one to run off some of the sugar then home to milk and cuddly tv until dd collapsed out cold for an hour!

To all the 'forbidden fruit' people suggesting that not allowing your young children to eat sugary crap will result in them rebelling when they're older - do you apply the same logic to alcohol/drugs? At what age should I start adding vodka to my children's juice and hash into their cake so they don't binge on them when they're teenagers/young adults?
you don't have to start giving toddlers alcohol to model appropriate alcohol use and instill healthy messages about drinking. we drink, very rarely, at home in front of the DC - one drink each maybe twice a week, more likely twice a month - DH might have a pint with a meal out - they are not seeing us coming home trashed or sitting ignoring them necking back the vodka all night everynight. they do not see us drink and then drive, or spend £££ on alcohol. Houses where alcohol is considered taboo, and kept locked away etc, are more likely to have kids who end up wondering what the big mystery is, who rebel and start drinking because they can IMO.

Look what happened to Willy Wonker when he was denied sweets as a child!

He grew up and opened a Sweet Factory. Total obsession