To think party mum should have checked before giving out inappropriate prizes

[SoonToBeSix]

Genuinely don't know if I am being unreasonable. I was at a birthday party today with three year old ds and he won musical bumps. He was swiftly handed a packet of haribo . I tried to encourage him to " save" them for later ie I would put them in by bag and through them away but he was so upset I let him have them.
I do not give my dc sweets ever with the exception of a small amount of chocolate at Easter from well meaning relatives. Most eggs get given away.
I really feel she should have checked first before handing them out.

I hate those bouncy balls too! Throw them away every time as I'm petrified one of dcs will choke. Read a horrible horrible story in the paper a few years ago about a girl bouncing one against a wall and it bounced off and down her throat. So sad and really worried me

Ok so I was going to say yanbu to not give your kids sweets but other people do and it is the norm at birthday parties so to be pissed off at the host makes you unreasonable but not deserving of some of the comments on here

However the fact that you let him eat the because he looked sad makes you the biggest hypocrite ever amd I am actually questioning whether this is even real

Iced gems yummy
I was gutted when they got rid of the white ones for a while

They aren't the same now :(

Yyy, I think sweets on sticks are terrible

Haha! Love the fact he wouldn't give them up, he realised he may never get another chance! I imagine the other children gave them to their parents for later and carried on enjoying the fun

Sweets on sticks aren't even nice. Apart from drumsticks, they're okay.

Sugar doesn't bother me. I just don't let the dc have lollipops. I have a really clear memory of a lollipop coming off the stick and straight down my throat when I was about 14.

Unless you have an allergy or a religious reason not to eat haribo, in which case you should have told her, lighten up! It's a birthday party!!!

Where's the light , no it's doesn't makes me a hypocrite that would be a veggie giving their dc a sausage roll. It upset me to give him the sweets but I care more about his emotions than my own. Like I said my older dc have had sweets at parties it was the fact that he is little that upset and surprised me.
Do you really think I should have put them in my bag and had him in floods of tears? It wasn't my ds fault I didn't think to check first.

Jodie no say the didn't that was the only reason he wanted them as other children were eating them.

No sadly they didn't

Oh god no, I HATE lollipops, the choking hazard is just too much to bear!

I have also had a phobia of kids with marshmallows since I went on a first aid course and the guy said that if a marshmallow gets stuck in a child's airway, then basically it ain't coming out Plus marshmallows are gross!

Also if I was a troll where's the light I would think of a more interesting topic. I suggest you read my previous post where my dc was refused toast at a playcentre and was offered quavers instead if you doubt the authenticity of this thread.

Ffs no I don't give into him if it is dangerous what a ridiculous comment.

Am going to leave the thread now I accepted on page two I was being unreasonable . People don't read the thread properly.

When I was a student nurse back in the good old days of the 80s when nurses actually learnt how to do the job that is nursing on proper wards not university.. Whole other thread.

Anyhoo op we all settled into our rooms and as 18 year olds most of is were away from our parents control for the first time.

The girls who shagged anyone that moved,drank to excess and ate takeaways all the time were the ones who had been brought up in families, often religious ones, where the girls had been strictly brought up.

Are you getting the idea op?

didn't your DCs go to parties at the same age then or have you just forgotten that stage?

I guess you're going ot have to decide what you are going to do, as you are going to be faced with the same situation again if you go to other parties. So you can a) take sweets away and put up with the tears/possibly try to head off tears by replacing with an approved treat, b) let him have them or c) don't go to parties. It would be very rude, given no allergies, to ask the host to provide something else.

Yep, I've choked on the top of a lolly before, as well as running and ramming the wooden stick of an ice lolly down my throat.

The sweets themselves are neither here nor there.

Mary maybe I have forgotten my older dd is 16 and my other older dd didn't go to parties because of her disability. I will just bring a suitable alternative in future.
Happy days irrelevant post my teenage dd has sweets whenever she chooses she doesn't gorge on them . My issue I have said this repeatedly is his age!! All my dc with the exception of my dc who has a disability will have sweets once they are in school.

At which point did the OP say she was vegitarian Bumbley? And at which point did I say I would feed ham products to a vegitarian?

Or did you just make up something I didn't say for a bit of sensationalism?

surely a vegetarian or someone with allergies their parents would talk to the hosts in advance to ensure they were aware and suitable alternatives were arranged so that is different from a parent just having issue with somthing.

Like others I'm not keen on Lollypops so I take them off DS, sometimes he has one if he is sat very still and I am with him but that's it.