To think party mum should have checked before giving out inappropriate prizes

[SoonToBeSix]

Genuinely don't know if I am being unreasonable. I was at a birthday party today with three year old ds and he won musical bumps. He was swiftly handed a packet of haribo . I tried to encourage him to " save" them for later ie I would put them in by bag and through them away but he was so upset I let him have them.
I do not give my dc sweets ever with the exception of a small amount of chocolate at Easter from well meaning relatives. Most eggs get given away.
I really feel she should have checked first before handing them out.

A little pack of haribo or similar every now and then if for the majority of the time you have a healthy well balanced diet will do no harm at all.

Enjoy letting your dc have an occasional treat.

Those flying saucers made from rice paper with sherbet inside. Stuck to the roof of your mouth then hit you with the sweet centre.
Fruit salads and fruit polos.

Hang on... you give their Easter Eggs away?!

Sugary sticks shaped like cigarettes with red coloured ends. I'll say they probably were a bit dodgy. Didn't make me smoke though.

YABU

An odd bag of sweets as a treat will not do any harm at all.

I was at school with a girl whose mum was like you - never let them have cake or sweets at parties.

Now at 28 she has major food issues

Everything in moderation.

Op, if is was your pfb I would have completely understood, because I've been there.
My pfb didn't have any sweets or chocolate until she was 3.5. She is my one child who cannot control herself around sweet stuff.

The other two had sweets and chocolate earlier, and we never made a big deal about them. They were treats, to be had occasionally. And they still are treated as occasional food.
My 5 yo leaves ice cream and cakes when she is full. If she didn't know if another cake came her way she would be scoffing the lot, not listening to her body.

We buy chocolate every week, a bar for each of us. Sweets I have stopped buying because my ds has braces and cannot have them.

Tbh I was far more annoyed at a party recently when there was only high carb processed junk food and squash on offer. Not even an alibi bowl of carrots. THAT is unhealthy, because that was supposed to be the main meal.

There is nothing wrong with having your children's healthy diets as a priority, but at a party it is very normal to have sweets, chocolate, cake, crisps, etc.

You'd actually take a stash of alternative prizes to a party just in case you need to intercept an incoming haribo?

How would that actually work. Would you rugby tackle them out of the party mums hands at the point of winning or hand them over just in case at the start (which kind of suggests you expect him to win something. Yikes). Minefield.

Restricting sweets makes children greedy later on. Prohibition just makes sweets into forbidden fruit.

My daughter is allowed have sweets at parties etc and at the moment can take or leave it. She refused to eat her own birthday cake last week.

Whereas I was restricted as a child and was tempted to peel used chewing gum off the ground as a child as a result. I'm greedy and have an unhealthy relationship with food.

I'm hoping Dd won't be going down that road.

Btw Op yabvu.

I can understand preventing a binge of chocolate on the day. I can't understand preventing them ever letting them eat the rest elsewhere in the year. It's sad.

YABU. I've given haribo as party prizes, not to mention the standard party bag at the end, stuffed with crap, which is handed out without checking with parents.

It's a party. If she was trying to give your one year old a round-head lolly pop i'd say you have a point - but a pack of haribo to a 3 year old?

If you are that worried about sugar OP then raisins are a mistake, they are very high in sugar. Chocolate on the other hand although also contains a lot of sugar also contains fat which slows down how quickly the sugar is released so in terms of a 'better' treat a small amount of chocolate would be preferable to raisins.

OP

If this is your first child, I have some sympathies for your excessive worry about this.

But think back -did you not have crap food at Birthday parties? Crisps, sweets, chocolate, those tiny biscuits with a bit of hard icing on ( can't remember the name?) wans't it a thril? Did you turn out to be obese, have bad teeth?

Yes, there are alternatives to Haribo, but this was harmless. Chill.

Yy about raisins.

Stick to the teeth too

I daren't even ask if they got a party bag.

Oh, i see it's not your first.

Am surprised then .......

I expected to open this thread to see he'd been handed a rampant rabbit, ffs grip needed over here!

Can I just risk starting a riot by hijacking to say I am fine with haribo but don't understand 1.water ballons and 2. throat sized bouncy balls
in party bags.

Thanks

it was a haribo at a party, its hardly like she handed him 10 fags and whiskey chaser. I wouldn't consider haribo inappropriate for a childs party.

Dever - I agree.

My bug bear is unblown balloons, bouncy balls and lollipops on sticks in party bags. I always just breezily say 'OK, let me hold them for you a sec, go and find X to say Happy Birthday before we leave' and then root through and remove them lol.

What the fuck? Please tell me this is a joke! OP you are being unreasonable and ridiculous. I assume you mean a little 10p bag of haribo?
A party with no sweets would be very unusual. Nothing wrong with a treat now and again!