To think party mum should have checked before giving out inappropriate prizes

[SoonToBeSix]

Genuinely don't know if I am being unreasonable. I was at a birthday party today with three year old ds and he won musical bumps. He was swiftly handed a packet of haribo . I tried to encourage him to " save" them for later ie I would put them in by bag and through them away but he was so upset I let him have them.
I do not give my dc sweets ever with the exception of a small amount of chocolate at Easter from well meaning relatives. Most eggs get given away.
I really feel she should have checked first before handing them out.

He'll be at school soon, and they will be handing out sweets at the end of the day for other children's birthdays. There will be playdates (where sometimes they'll get sweets as a treat) and all sorts of exposure to things like that. Every now and then isn't going to harm him, honestly!

All my dc with the exception of my dc who has a disability will have sweets once they are in school.

So why are you making such a massive deal out of this then and trying to make out another parent is terrible for not having checked with you first? School is only a year away for your ds anyway.

This has annoyed me slightly now. It's bloody hard and stressful enough to organise as kids party that everyone will enjoy, without then worrying about being slagged off on the Internet because some parent didn't have the balls to uphold a ridiculous rule about sweets with their child and so decided to blame you instead for not checking. Especially when said parent is going to be apparently fine with sweets once they are at school anyway.

Oh dear OP,I know what you mean and am on your side with such a young child...I respect these choices of my Ddil's and daughter too.You sound quite reasonable to me,just disappointed that the sweet tastebuds were activated so soon.The party Mum did nothing wrong.

Thing is I am an old ex-ballerina and when food becomes an issue(we were allowed to only eat the amount that could fit in our hand) the relationship with food becomes difficult for one's whole life.

I have never had some foods,but the steel will is so entrenched that I can not try lovely looking treats even now.

Party mum has hardly been slagged off

Op yabu in giving out about party mother. Yabu in not being able to say no to your three old about something you believe in. You are being v unreasonable to be so controlling about food at a party.

You sound lije you need to practise a bit of relaxation techniques...

If I was throwing a party for 3 yos I would be aware that some parents would not want their children eating certain things at that age and I would ask/cater for that accordingly. They're 3 - there would probably be younger children there too.

Little Bear - just because something isn't filled with processed sugar and artificcial colours/flavourings does not mean it is 'dull'

Talisaw school is two years away not one for my ds. And I won't be the one buying him the sweets at school just accepting the inevitable.

Why would people wanting their kids eating this anyway?

Thank you gotthe, that is exactly by point, he is too young.

Crikey, I really thought this would be about a live grenade, one of those nudey pens you tip up or vodka shots.

This thread is hilarious, if you can't have the courage of your convictions that's not Party Mums problem. It's yours.

Ok what would you advocate as exciting, fun, not dull, party food for three year olds that hasn't got any sugar in it?

And the OP's objection was nothing to do with vegetarianism/gelatine, that's your own viewpoint which no one has had any objection to.

Then Six it was up to you to say he wasn't allowed them but you chose not to because he got upset. Your choice.

Who said it had to have no sugar in it at all? We've been to plenty of young children's birthday parties where the only 'sweet-type' things on offer were a slice of birthday cake with a bit of ice cream after things like sandwiches, carrot sticks/cucumber and fruit skewers etc. No crappy sweets in sight and no young children thinking it was 'dull' .

Not sure why you can say it's ok for someone to object to jelly sweets because they have gelatine in them but not ok to object because you think they are crap and you don't want your 3yo eating them.

I want some Haribo now.

I'm not saying Six can't object to Haribo if she wants to. But if she didn't want her son to eat them she shouldn't have given them back to him. That was her choice.

It wasn't up to the host to mind read that the son wasn't allowed sweets.

If you don't want your 3yo to eat sweets or sugar, either have the courage in your convictions to say 'no' and accept it'll make them feel a bit sad, or don't go to the party.

Two perfectly good options there, because your opinion OP, whether you like it or not, is in the minority. Not over the diet side, but over how far you're going with it.

This will happen again. You are in someone else's house, and if you don't like their lifestyle choices, or cannot accept them gracefully, leave. Seriously.

I am sorry OP, but is your post for real? Should this not be a wind-up, then you can count yourself extremely lucky to have no real problems in life.

Therefore, YABU.

What a ridiculous pathetic thread this. I thought it must be a joke at first. Get a grip op.

littlebearpad I absolutely agree with you here.

I'm hosting my DS' fourth birthday party in October, and it's things like this; the bitching at your efforts and the pretentious bullshit that make me wonder if I can even be bothered to put myself and my son out there like that to be criticised. I work ft and so does DH. I don't have the time to worry about whether kids might be allowed sugar or whatnot. I'll probably provide veggie options (cheese sandwiches, dip & crudités, fruit skewers) but more because they're a crowd pleaser than because I'm specifically thinking about having a veggie option. I also make sure I don't have anything with nuts in, because you can never be sure. But I'm not a fucking mind reader!

This makes me so cross. You try bloody hard for your kid's party, and for someone to bitch about your efforts like that, when it's their lifestyle choice in the first place... The audacity of that is mind blowing.

It's not even the not wanting your kid to have hairibo that gets me, it's the way that the OP expected the party mum to check.
My 2 year old ds went to a party yesterday and there was You Know What between the sheets of the pass the parcel. As it happens dh and I did ear most of them because a) DH is paranoid about choking and b) DE had already eaten his own body weight in shite and didn't really want them.

But hand on heart, not for 1 second did I think that the mum organising the party should have checked that fucking haribo were ok!

In 30 years time party mums will have to announce that the olives for the musical statues prize are Tescos own brand. Just in case one of the mums there only allows their child to eat olives that have been hand grown by silent Carmelite nuns in Italy before being brought to this country to be pitted beneath Stonehenge on the summer solstice.

Just in case, like.

Yabu and Hariboist

Yabu. It's a party. If you don't give him sweets at home then 1 bag will not be then end of the world.

At least it was Haribo and not Aldi's own brand...