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To not take teenage DD on holiday to Disneyworld Florida?

302 replies

NotSureAboutThat · 28/06/2014 21:02

I have booked our first ever overseas holiday to Disneyworld Florida in August. It is a major thing for us and we have saved for it for a long time. There will be myself, DH, DD1 (age 20) DS1 (age 18) DD2 (age 17), DS2 (age 9) and DD3 (age 7).

It is costing an absolute fortune but is a trip of a lifetime for us. Due to the cost, we have said to the older DCs that they need to have saved enough money to pay for their food, accommodation and spending money. They all have jobs and still live at home although DS1/DD2 only work part time as they are at college. They earn enough to be able to save enough though.

Yesterday, I had a massive argument with DD2 as she is not saving any money and I told her she is not coming unless she can pay her way. She said fine she won't come then. I was furious at her mouthing off so taking her at her word, I have changed the plane ticket in her name to that of DD1's friend who has said she will be delighted to come and will pay for her ticket so we at least get some money back on it. DH agreed with this as he does not want her to come due to her disgusting attitude in general. She is spiteful and nasty to her siblings and seems to hate all of us!

I have told her that she will have to stay with my sister while we are away as I am worried she will have people around while we're not here.

She could not believe I had actually changed the plane ticket and is quite upset about it today.

WIBU?

OP posts:
drudgetrudy · 28/06/2014 22:24

Don't know what to believe now.

Delphiniumsblue · 28/06/2014 22:26

Just believe OP did a reverse.(I can't see what there is to doubt) People spend their time overthinking things.
Hope you have a lovely holiday.

thecuntureshow · 28/06/2014 22:29

Those that don't have parents as mean as this might not understand why the OP needs strangers to tell her what her DM did was cruel.

I get it OP. Sometimes you need the reminder that what you're doing is the right thing

Well done on being NC OP. I have been before but am not currently. I can't forgive my mother for what she did so every time I see her I bubble with rage but we never talk about back then.

Your mother was horrid OP. Hope the thread helps.

comedycentral · 28/06/2014 22:35

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ThunderbumsMum · 28/06/2014 22:36

Op your mum is disgusting, poor you Sad and what a scumbag she married.

somedizzywhore1804 · 28/06/2014 22:37

Oh just seen this is a reverse.

Annoying Hmm

OP just ask people's opinion from your own pov in future please.

OlderMummy1 · 28/06/2014 22:39

My sister and I are in our 30s with 3 DC between us and my parents are STILL paying for all our flights to Disneyworld next year.....because they love us and want to do something nice for us.

17 is still a child. Let her be a child and experience the magic of Disney. She will be a proper grown up soon enough and then it's a harsh world

BobbyJones28 · 28/06/2014 22:39

if you was my mum i would want nothing more to do with you!

comedycentral · 28/06/2014 22:39

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MorrisZapp · 28/06/2014 22:40

Lol at the late arrivals.

Bettercallsaul1 · 28/06/2014 22:41

What your experience shows, OP, is that we're not fated to repeat the mistakes our parents made. It is possible to look back our own childhood and decide to do things completely differently with our own children.

I am glad that you have survived your own horrible experience and are now enjoying a happy family life with your own children. This is an optimistic and life-affirming thread.

NickiFury · 28/06/2014 22:42

I'm a late arrival, what's so funny Confused?

I read the thread and posted accordingly.

MorrisZapp · 28/06/2014 22:44

I meant the ones who didn't read the thread, and who posted unaccordingly.

Their responses now seem funny.

todayisnottheday · 28/06/2014 22:44

Yes you were treated badly op. Funny how these things come back to mind once in a while. Well done for not repeating history, enjoy your holiday Smile

Panzee · 28/06/2014 22:46

Oh I love a reverse! Shows who read it. :o enjoy the holiday.

Original poster
NotSureAboutThat · 28/06/2014 22:49

MorrisZapp and AgaPanthers. I have reported this thread myself and asked MNHQ to pull it as I am feeling a bit fragile tonight and your nastiness has not helped. HTH you feel better about yourselves.

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lettertoherms · 28/06/2014 22:50

Oh, OP. You might get some meanness for posting a reverse, but this story made me so sad for you and mad at your mother. You were treated wrongly, and you have a right to be upset about it.

Enjoy your holiday with your own children and be proud of yourself for being a different sort of mother.

MorrisZapp · 28/06/2014 22:51

I also reported it.

BobbyJones28 · 28/06/2014 22:53

you don't deserve children if you treat them like that

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NotSureAboutThat · 28/06/2014 22:53

Well good for you. You are a regular (as am I) and arrogant with it. I hope you also reported yourself for troll hunting?

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MorrisZapp · 28/06/2014 22:56

No just you, but I'm sure I'll get what's coming.

Aeroflotgirl · 28/06/2014 22:57

I can see your point, but I think you have just added fuel to the flames and made things a whole lot worse. So your expecting a 17 year old to pay for their accommodation, fod and spending money, that is a very big ask, unless she is on 25k a year which I don't think she is. Yes encourage her to contribute a bit but not fir most of her holiday at that age.

comedycentral · 28/06/2014 22:57

I skimmed through 220 so missed the majority of responses. I hate reverse threads, you could have posted normally as mn is actually supportive. Your mum was horrid to you. I bet your relationship has not been the same since.

Relationship board is fab for family issues btw.

hmc · 28/06/2014 22:57

I have to admit, it would have been better OP if you had posted along the lines of 'this happened to me when I was 17, what do you think?'

Why not be straight forward?

wigglylines · 28/06/2014 22:59

Nothing wrong with a reverse thread IMO.

But there's a lot wrong with having a go at a poster for their posting style when they're talking about something which is obviously upsetting to them.

Get a grip people.