To not take teenage DD on holiday to Disneyworld Florida?

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I have booked our first ever overseas holiday to Disneyworld Florida in August. It is a major thing for us and we have saved for it for a long time. There will be myself, DH, DD1 (age 20) DS1 (age 18) DD2 (age 17), DS2 (age 9) and DD3 (age 7).

It is costing an absolute fortune but is a trip of a lifetime for us. Due to the cost, we have said to the older DCs that they need to have saved enough money to pay for their food, accommodation and spending money. They all have jobs and still live at home although DS1/DD2 only work part time as they are at college. They earn enough to be able to save enough though.

Yesterday, I had a massive argument with DD2 as she is not saving any money and I told her she is not coming unless she can pay her way. She said fine she won't come then. I was furious at her mouthing off so taking her at her word, I have changed the plane ticket in her name to that of DD1's friend who has said she will be delighted to come and will pay for her ticket so we at least get some money back on it. DH agreed with this as he does not want her to come due to her disgusting attitude in general. She is spiteful and nasty to her siblings and seems to hate all of us!

I have told her that she will have to stay with my sister while we are away as I am worried she will have people around while we're not here.

She could not believe I had actually changed the plane ticket and is quite upset about it today.

WIBU?

I'm sorry OP. Your mother is a mean person.

MorrisZapp it did happen. I really could not have made that up! Or perhaps you're my mother?

That is shit, glad you are NC now.

This reminds me of the generational shifts in Mamma Mia.

I hope you have much better thugs in your life now.

Off topic but I love this typo.

I take it all back, enjoy mumsnet now you're here.

I hope you have a wonderful holiday

Love your auto spelling,Hulababy!

Cross posted with Nalia!

Oops! Probably quite apt though

Sorry for calling you a bitch op although technically I was calling your mum a bitch. Or a troll I do believe the thread know but still wish you were troll. Am sorry about how you were treated I hope you have a lovely holiday.

What a cow your mum was Op. I've had to cope with similar things, my mum treating me terribly as a child. I've made sure my dc know I love them more than anything.

I'm so pleased you're going to Florida with your family now. Have a fantastic time. I bet your children love you very much.

When this happens I end up not knowing what to believe, i.e. was it really a reverse or did the OP see all the posts saying she was unreasonable and decide to say it was a reverse?

It's more than my few brain cells can cope with.

Aga for president.

Interested as to why you think I am a troll Aga? I have admitted to it being a reverse. It is because it is such a terrible thing to do that it is unbelievable? If so, thank you.

Or are you calling troll because you're bored?

Is it because it is such a terrible thing to do that it is unbelievable? oops.

I was left at home age 17 when my parents took older brother and younger sister to Disneyland Paris. It sucked. Still bitter about it 16 years later.

Goady too, this thread keeps giving.

(((OP)))) very un-MN hugs!

Your mother did a totally vile thing to you, and I'm truly sorry you had to go through this. At least you see how wrong it was and will never do the same to your own DC.

There's nothing that could make me do this to my child. Horrible

Aga on what basis have you come to that conclusion?

Is there a rule about doing "reverse threads".

No there isn't.

So will the thread police back off please.

If this is genuine it seems very cruel.

At that age I was a waitress earning £50 a week. If my parents had expected me to pay for my accommodation and food/fun on a big holiday like that I wouldn't have been able to buy clothes/make up/go out for probably the better part of a year. That's a bit much.