about an uncle's secret girlfriend coming to our wedding?

[ikeaismylocal]

Dp has an uncle by marriage who is a bit hard work, most of dp's family dislike this man but I have always tried to be friendly to him.

We are getting married in the summer and dp's uncle is ofcourse invited, he has asked if his new girlfriend can come along which is no problem, the problem is he wants us to not tell anyone about his new girlfriend as it's a secret.

Dp's uncle was married to dp's aunt but the aunt sadly passed away about 5 years ago. The new girlfriend is a Thai lady who the uncle met in Thailand ( he owns a house there) the girlfriend speaks no Swedish (dp's family's language) she does speak some English ( my family's language) it would make sense to sit uncle+girlfriend with my family so the gf can join in the conversation.

The thing I'm worried about is that dp's family will find out about the secret girlfriend when they help us with table plans/writing name place labels.

The same uncle also wants to "gift" us 2 dances that will last 10 minutes each! He is going to do a waltz all by himself, all very odd but I don't want to say no and hurt his feelings.

Anyone else had secret/surprise guests at their wedding? How secret should I keep it?

[LonnyVonnyWilsonFrickett]

Yes, I suspect there's a reason your evidently sane cousin has kept his girlfriend secret till now. Still, in for a penny, in for a pound - put them together I say. Check if she's a penchant for le danse before confirming the invite though.

[IvyBeagle]

Noooo dont put nice cousin with his bonkers dad! His new girl friend might panic! Far far away on the other side of the room with people who dont know they are related so closely. :)

[Whocansay]

Your wedding is likely to make 'Eastenders' look like 'In the Night Garden'. Seriously, this could all get really nasty. It sounds funny now, but the reality is that after the Uncle's 'big reveal' the rest of the family may be upset / angry. Do you really want to have this at your wedding?

[kickassangel]

Sit mad uncle and secret girlfriend with your brother and others of your family. Keep lovely cousin on opposite side of room.

That way plenty of your family will have worked out that mad uncle is mad and won't blame you for the awkward solo dancing. Less chance of a big family show down with dh's family. Lovely cousin can introduce girlfriend to extended family without having to worry about what his dad
will start saying.

[beachyhead]

This is the best wedding thread ever .

Have you any clue why he wants to keep her secret?

And are both dances 'waltzes'? Dying for a solo line dance....

[Icelollycraving]

Have you had the wedding yet op? I'm waiting for all the details!

[NellyNoodle1]

This would seriously annoy me - you can't make demands about what's happening on someone else's wedding day. It will be all anyone remembers your wedding for.

Sorry I don't see the potential for it to be 'hilarious' I'd say no on both counts. I wouldn't go out of my way to discuss his new girlfriend with everyone but I certainly wouldn't hide it and I would be saying no to the dances be they 30 minutes, 10 or 3. No way. Put your foot down. (Yes I am v grumpy today).

[Stratter5]

Ooh yes, has it happened yet? Were there ping pongs?

[Thruaglassdarkly]

Ummm....is a secret girlfriend the same thing as an imaginary girlfriend, d'y' think?

[FunkyBoldRibena]

This is torture - when IS this wedding?

[Thebodyloveschocolateandwine]

Good god op.

This must happen so you can post here afterwards.

Most weddings are dire but this has potential.

[RachaelAgnes]

I thought the wedding was this weekend (just gone).......think there was a thread about her little one being ill ??

[Groovee]

Oooh wonder what the update is then...

[BeachyKeen]

I can't wait for the video!

[anonacfr]

Well????

[Surfsup1]

I have the Strictly Ballroom soundtrack running through my mind.
Can't wait to hear an update!!

[Cereal0ffender]

There was an update, secret girlfriend got pissed off her tits and uncle had to take her home before the gift dancing unfortunately

[Cereal0ffender]

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/2155391-Ikeas-solo-dancing-uncle-wedding-update