about an uncle's secret girlfriend coming to our wedding?

[ikeaismylocal]

Dp has an uncle by marriage who is a bit hard work, most of dp's family dislike this man but I have always tried to be friendly to him.

We are getting married in the summer and dp's uncle is ofcourse invited, he has asked if his new girlfriend can come along which is no problem, the problem is he wants us to not tell anyone about his new girlfriend as it's a secret.

Dp's uncle was married to dp's aunt but the aunt sadly passed away about 5 years ago. The new girlfriend is a Thai lady who the uncle met in Thailand ( he owns a house there) the girlfriend speaks no Swedish (dp's family's language) she does speak some English ( my family's language) it would make sense to sit uncle+girlfriend with my family so the gf can join in the conversation.

The thing I'm worried about is that dp's family will find out about the secret girlfriend when they help us with table plans/writing name place labels.

The same uncle also wants to "gift" us 2 dances that will last 10 minutes each! He is going to do a waltz all by himself, all very odd but I don't want to say no and hurt his feelings.

Anyone else had secret/surprise guests at their wedding? How secret should I keep it?

[antimatter]

are solo waltzes some kind of tradition in Sweden?

[FrankelandFilly]

What's the date of the wedding?

[phantomnamechanger]

solo waltz! hahahahaha!

I think it's a) conceited (like everyone wants to watch him at your wedding!) and b) rude rude rude if indeed he does intend to steal your thunder by doing a big reveal/propose

is there a big age gap between them? is this going to upset the family/his son?

[phantomnamechanger]

what's the second dance? a striptease??

[Jackie0]

To think I nearly didn't click on this ! Title doesn't even do it justice !!!
It's going to be fabulous. I hope it's all being recorded for proof prosperity

[ikeaismylocal]

Bride/groom waltzes are a tradition, not sure about solo ones!

Wedding is in August, I will update.

I imagine she is younger, I don't think it will cause a drama if he just mentions he's met someone but I think the surprise element might raise a few eyebrows.

[Littlegreyauditor]

Maybe he is going to do a 'solo' waltz 'with' his dearly departed previous wife and a paired waltz with his 'have you met my future wife'?

For completeness, you know? Tie the whole thing nicely together and really have the focus firmly on him

[KingJoffreysBloodshotEye]

The 2 secret girlfriends are totally the same person.

[SquigglySquid]

Why would you want someone to try and take away the attention off you on the wedding day?

Tell him if he's embarrassed of her not to bring her. If he's not it's not a secret.

[eddielizzard]

fucking hell this is wierd.

[ImperialBlether]

Sorry, but I am laughing so much at the thought of him waltzing on his own.

[ImperialBlether]

Will he have his arms outstretched for an invisible partner?

[ikeaismylocal]

I don't want someone to take the attention away from me, but I don't need all the attention all evening.

Everyone has seen lots of brides, how many people have seen a slightly overweight,balding middle-aged man do a solo waltz!

[ImperialBlether]

Why not tell him about this?

[KirjavaTheCat]

I've never placemarked before. I think this will be worth it.

Your uncle sounds brilliant.

[TheEnchantedForest]

In have tears rolling down my face reading this thread. How utterly, brilliantly bonkers. just what I needed after a long week!

[ImperialBlether]

OP, you really need to video him dancing and put it on YouTube. It would go viral within minutes.

[Cocolepew]

This is hilarious.
I nearly swallowed a Minstral whole laughing at "swedish chef"

[ikeaismylocal]

I promise I'll video it, I will pan around the room so you can see the reaction of the guests zooming in especially on secret girlfriend #1 and #2.

[MistressDeeCee]

Right thats it, Im marking my place as of now...when is wedding & when can we expect to see video of Uncle Fester?!

[wordsmithsforever]

Loving The Uno Waltz plan!

[ENormaSnob]

What if the solo waltz is some kinda lapdance

[EverythingCounts]

Utterly bonkers. All I would say is think about what your back up plan is in case he refuses to yield the dance floor when his time is up.

[tabulahrasa]

"Everyone has seen lots of brides, how many people have seen a slightly overweight,balding middle-aged man do a solo waltz!"

I never have, I'm guessing it's pretty much unique.

Which is not bad for a wedding really, it'll make it memorable for guests - and I think it takes the pressure off you to have everything perfect tbh, you won't need to have things like table decorations, two secret girlfriends and the solo waltzes will be what it's known for anyway.

(is trying to sell the unclezilla as a good thing)

[Staywithme]

Marking and making note in diary to buy in supply of nuts, crisps and wine. This looks like a good wedding.