TO Expect GROWN UP Girls night out!

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I'm 47 and I have been friends with 'the girls' for over 25 years, all having grown up DC, and we still keep in touch and have nights out sometimes- When we were younger in our mid twenties, (all with small DC) we used to go out to weekly/fortnightly and go to busy bars, and maybe dance on dance floor a little and stay out until maybe midnight-
Once I hit 40, I really started to hate this, and would suggest a meal/pics/nite in etc, kind of thing, but was met with oh no, we are going dancing/flirting etc- bearing in mind we are all married / DP etc- so I started giving it a miss.
Anyway I was invited out for a birthday night out last Friday, was told a few drinks in her garden, then into town for drinks n chat etc, with my age group- mid to late forties- so AIBU hating the fact when we got to town, we had to meet up with their neices, and friends, who were all about 20, and went to bars with names as 'Popworld' all aimed at 18 yr olds, and the bday girl (44)was there dancing/flirting/with young lads until 3.30 a Sat Morning!!
I made my excuses and left with one of the other ladies who was hating this a much as me at 11.30, and we dont know, if we are just getting old/ grown up and expecting something more mature- or just jealous of the bday gril stamina to party till 3.30 AM!!!!
Would you hate this kind of night out at 47, and would prefer a meal, girls nite in etc, or am I just BU?

Some people like thag sort of night. Others don't. Maybe you need friends who enjoy the same stuff as you. That's true at any age.

But youll end up with a thread full of 24 year olds telling you how they like being in their slippers at 9pm

I'm a 24yr old who has an unhealthy attatchment to her slippers

And I agree, that is boring and sleazey as hell. Just don't bother if you don't enjoy it

and 44 year olds like me who rolled in from her birthday night out at 6am

age has nowt to do with it - if you don't like late nights and dancing don't go - and flirting with 20 year olds - well smack my arse and call me Susan what would the neighbours say

you don't have to like nights out like that but your friends do and that is ok as well.

I have hated this kind of night out since I was about 22 (when I left university basically) but if that's what they want to do then there's not a huge amount you can do about it unfortunately! Is it worth seeing them on an individual basis for meals, quieter drinks, other kinds of activities? Perhaps it's just en masse that they feel the need to reclaim their youth?

I wouldn't like it if I'd been deliberately misled about how the night would be.

If it just unexpectedly panned out to something I wasn't enjoying, well I guess I'd try it for a while & then go home.

gordy I want to be like you when I finally grow up!! hahaha awesome, I had my kids young and I have had my fair share of wild nights but I fully intend to take further advantage of this when they are a bit more grown.

I'm 45. I wouldn't like the clubs and flirting bit (never did really) but I can still do it until 3.30am, provided I can sit down and hear myself think.

I've never been a town person, bar a few times a year max, much prefer drinking in a pub. Maybe I was just old before my time? I've been the same since I was 18 16

YANBU not to enjoy it

YABU to expect all your friends to feel the same

Also in my 40s and while I still like drinks til the wee hours sometimes, don't enjoy the clubby/dancing/flirting scene (prefer dodgy pubs). So I would give something like that a miss, not because I'm old or staid but just not my thing.

I think birthday drinks are particularly susceptible to this though so just be forewarned!

I wouldn't want to do it all the time but every now and then I like to let rip - drink, dance, roll home at 4am and spend the next 2 days recovering.

If you don't like it, you don't like that. Some people enjoy it, some people don't, there's nothing unreasonable about it either way

It wasn't just me, a couple more friends said WTF are we doing in here etc, and said this was not what was planned etc, but this is what we used to do when we were 20 yr younger- and no I dont wanna flirt with 20 yr olds, my son is 21!!!!- much prefer to flirt with 40 yrs olds HA HA!
Lesson learnt, and maybe a teensy bit jealous of her stamina to dance and show off til 3.30 am, but she doesnt work and i had been up since 5.30AM for work that morning!!!!

I find anyone over the age of about 25 who still behaves like this quite pathetic to be honest, and always have done. It's like they are scared of growing up and acting like adults with responsibilities such as families.

Nothing wrong with going out for a nice meal or even to a nice bar for cocktails and a good chat but dancing till 3.30 am and flirting with men young enough to be your sons is quite sad and tragic. IMO of course.

I love staying out till 3.30am (or later) and hope to enjoy a late night till I'm well into my nineties.

But I don't enjoy cheesy clubs with cheaps drinks promos and 21 year boys surrounded by a forcefield of Lynx.

So yes to big nights out but no to crappy venues with 'men' who are young enough to be excited by the emergence of a new pubic hair.

Dancing till 3.30am is sad and tragic if you're over 25?

Your attitude is sad and tragic.

It's no longer my idea of a good night out but we're all different, aren't we?

Getting older shouldn't mean you have to make different choices, if you don't actually want to make them.

She sounded like she had a great night, so good luck to her and anyone else who enjoys the same sort of night out.

Yes hanging out with 18 year olds and flirting with men young enough to be your sons when your 45 plus and have a partner and kids at home is tragic, IMO of course. I don't expect everyone to agree with me, but behaving like that at that age is horribly immature. It's something that we all do when young and most of us grow out of by the time we're in our 20's.

Given it was her birthday, she was perfectly reasonable to make a big night of it.

it's okay Rhine we get that you disapprove

Squoosh

I would hate it, in fact I would have hated it in my 20s - different people have different ideas of what makes a good night out though.

I couldn't give two hoots about going out dancing but flirting with anyone young enough to be your child, particularly when you're married, is just sleazy - male or female.

What would annoy me the most about this situation is that they lied about their intentions. If they like different things to you then fine, but don't trick people into doing something they don't enjoy.

YANBU

I've never liked that sort of night out, even in my 20's.

My friend did really enjoy her night, but was plastered and hungover for two days, - the thing is ,we never got the chance to chat,apart from the pre drinks in her garden which was lovely- it was all attention seeking/getting mortal drunk/showing off michael jackson dance moves- yes really!! - also I said what her DH say about her falling in drunk at 3.30,- nothing was said- does he do same, or did not care? mine would have ben worried/concerned, pissed off etc-
Each to their own, its not for me but she does this weekly still, and Im wondering if shes missing out on attention or something, or Im a DULL in wanting a nice meal/tons of wine/laugh and chat whilst sitting down for some of the night!!!