TO Expect GROWN UP Girls night out!

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I'm 47 and I have been friends with 'the girls' for over 25 years, all having grown up DC, and we still keep in touch and have nights out sometimes- When we were younger in our mid twenties, (all with small DC) we used to go out to weekly/fortnightly and go to busy bars, and maybe dance on dance floor a little and stay out until maybe midnight-
Once I hit 40, I really started to hate this, and would suggest a meal/pics/nite in etc, kind of thing, but was met with oh no, we are going dancing/flirting etc- bearing in mind we are all married / DP etc- so I started giving it a miss.
Anyway I was invited out for a birthday night out last Friday, was told a few drinks in her garden, then into town for drinks n chat etc, with my age group- mid to late forties- so AIBU hating the fact when we got to town, we had to meet up with their neices, and friends, who were all about 20, and went to bars with names as 'Popworld' all aimed at 18 yr olds, and the bday girl (44)was there dancing/flirting/with young lads until 3.30 a Sat Morning!!
I made my excuses and left with one of the other ladies who was hating this a much as me at 11.30, and we dont know, if we are just getting old/ grown up and expecting something more mature- or just jealous of the bday gril stamina to party till 3.30 AM!!!!
Would you hate this kind of night out at 47, and would prefer a meal, girls nite in etc, or am I just BU?

I'm 49 and the night out you described would not be my thing. I have several wonderful friend's who do love a good boogie and are always popping out to a club. Always invited to go, always decline but enjoy hearing their tales of wild nights on the dance floor. If you enjoy your friend's company, why not invite her out on a one to one basis? You can have dinner, a chat and still be connected.

XiCi where did anyone say she should be 'sitting in front of a TV every weekend'? Just because people find it a bit odd that a woman approaching 50 still wants to go out clubbing with 20 year olds every weekend, it doesn't mean they think she should be sitting at home knitting.

We started going out in our 20's when we all had young DC, to go home to and get up for ,the next day hence the home by midnight thing- we went out regular for nearly 20 yrs,I enjoyed this when I was young,but as we got older I starting giving it a miss, and enjoyed meals out with DP etc There were never any other types of night out, either this or nothing, never a bday meal or night in etc) so although I kept in touch with these friends, I rarely went out,- then when I was asked to go out for her bday, I said Im not going dancing/clubbing etc, she said no just a few drinks in town and catch up- of course I agreed to this, and then when we got there she had to meet her neices and young ones, and started doing the mad dancing in a middle of a pub,!! not the night club at this stage,as I went home, but had to watch ( & Laugh a bit)whilst she was doing her moves and showing off !

I really dont have an issue with her doing it, she can do what she likes- after all im not there , my point only was to expect the kind of night I was offered and wondered what others thoughts were?
I dont sit in the house knitting or whatever Im being accused of, just dont want to go to places that even my DC would not go to!!!

OP have you tried to arrange something? A dinner night over yours or a lunch out?

If this was a forty seven year old man still going out clubbing every weekend with his twenty year old kids and nephews and flirting with their female friends would people think nothing of it? Or would they think that he was a bit sad and tragic (and even sleazy?) So why is it different when it's a female?

That's a good point. I think a lot of the posters who think this woman is great for tapping in to her inner teenager would be if their daughter was propositioned in a night club by their best friend's dad.

You sound boring, judgmental and not much fun at all and I'm glad, at nrly 40, you're not one of my mates! Thank god for fun friends who dance like Michael Jackson and 'make a fool of themselves' that's what I say!

You're late 40s not 80. Fun isn't a dirty word you know.

Yeah OP, how can you be any fun if you're not out in your stilettoes dancing til dawn?
Don't you know there's only one way to be good fun, you dull, boring funsponge you.