To be pissed that DH won't have a word with MIL?

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So long story short...DC 4 & 6 go to PIL house once a week for tea, I don't mind this as they get to spend quality time with grandparents, something I didn't get to do as a child. The problem is what MIL gives them for 'dessert', some examples in recent weeks are: ton of profiteroles with extra chocolate & cream, ice cream with all the trimmings, huge slice of gateaux/cake.
She follows these desserts by also giving them a small chocolate bar, cookies & a mug of hot chocolate!

DH & I have argued alot over this & I feel I can't bring it up anymore because he gets defensive, he has asked MIL once (jokingly) not to give DC too much sweet stuff but it never gets brought up again. I love MIL dearly & this is her only downfall but AIBU to expect DH to tell her to pack it in with these desserts?

Are your children on diets?

It's once a week, I would unclench and brush their teeth extra well after the visit

Once a week? Really wouldn't bother me. So long as they are well fed the rest of the time.

No wonder your dh won't have a word. That's what grandparents do. Spoil grandchildren. That's what memories are made of. Stop being so precious. A once a week treat sounds fabulous and can only do good now craving profiteroles

Can I visit your MIL please?

It's once a week.
It's Grandparents law to dish out chocolate and cake.

Also Profiteriles with EXTRA chocolate and cream. Drools

Awww isn't that what grandparents are for? Live a little! :)

Yanbu. Pudding, chocolate, biscuits and hot chocolate is definitely too much all in one go!

It's once a week. If it was a few times a week, fair enough.

Once a week?

Don't be so daft

I think YANBU. I would maybe bring it up by suggesting that she gives them dessert as a treat once a week, or something like that, so it sounds a bit more positive than asking her to stop completely.
Sorry I'm not great with giving advice, but you're definitely not being unreasonable in not wanting your DC to have too many sweet treats, I would feel the same in your position!

Let it go. My nan used to feed us apple pie and cream for breakfast. I don't eat sweet stuff much as an adult

Its what they do!

Once a week = YABU.

Oops I thought this was more than once a week, misread that part. Still, that is a lot to have all at once, still NBU.

My nana is famous for her partially defrosted toffee pavlovas. It's not every night, let it go.

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This is her only downfall?

YABVU.

"he has asked MIL once (jokingly) not to give DC too much sweet stuff but it never gets brought up again."

Well there you are- if it never makes them sick, what's the problem?

Yanbu. My mum does this with my dc too & although its only once a week, it means for the rest of that week I feel like dc had enough rubbish at gps house so now I should make sure they don't eat anything like that & then I'm the bad guy when they ask for a bar of choc etc.

Do they take photos of the desserts?

I'm just wondering how you can know the size?

I shouldn't worry. If your kids are not used to eating massive portion sizes, they will probably leave almost as much as they eat.

If it's only once a week I wouldn't be too concerned. My parents fill the DCs full of crap when they go (crisps and chocolate after breakfast!) but it's only once every couple of months so it doesn't bother me.

Well I wouldn't want my 4 and 6 year olds eating a huge slice of cake and cookies and a chocolate bar and a cup of hot chocolate all on one evening.

The main reason being that they would feel ill. Tell he they feel sick after their visit and ask her not to give then so much.

I know it's only once a week so I suppose im a bit U, they both eat a healthy diet & are very active. Its the fact that its all at once.

YABU. It is once per week not everyday.

Is it that your jealous as you want tons of profiteroles and nobody saves you any?

No I am sorry I am all for GP giving treats and so on, mine give a bag of buttons, home made cake and so on, but all in one go is too much,

cake or chocolate....not all of that in one go. hideous sugar spike, raising their tolerance to something been described as addictive as crack cocaine.

why cant you speak to her yourself nad ask they have one of those treats?