To be pissed that DH won't have a word with MIL?

[cakediva]

So long story short...DC 4 & 6 go to PIL house once a week for tea, I don't mind this as they get to spend quality time with grandparents, something I didn't get to do as a child. The problem is what MIL gives them for 'dessert', some examples in recent weeks are: ton of profiteroles with extra chocolate & cream, ice cream with all the trimmings, huge slice of gateaux/cake.
She follows these desserts by also giving them a small chocolate bar, cookies & a mug of hot chocolate!

DH & I have argued alot over this & I feel I can't bring it up anymore because he gets defensive, he has asked MIL once (jokingly) not to give DC too much sweet stuff but it never gets brought up again. I love MIL dearly & this is her only downfall but AIBU to expect DH to tell her to pack it in with these desserts?

the op's ds goes to his grannys once a week for tea and for some quality time and she gives him a bit too much sweets, she's hardly exhausting all the fun things for everyone else!

Mundane things like ensuring dc eats a healthy well balanced diet is not the responsibility of granny who gives him one meal out of 21 meals a week. Grannies should be allowed to spoil their gc's, mundane is for parents!

NeedsAsockamnesty

agree!!!

My GM used to have a dedicated sweet bench when we were kids. We still laugh about it now. She used to give me and my DB snowballs as she thought they were pop and we liked them. The bench used to have all sorts on it. Sweets, crisps, pop, chocolate, cakes. She used to let me make cakes out of the bero book and the trifles out the box as well and eat them all

Just say, the children are only to have one sweet treat please. We're thinking of their long term health and I don't want them eating so much sugar.

I think you should act in a reasonable and proportionate manner by cutting the treat pusher out and forbidding your children go to the funeral in case someone opens a werther's original/barley orange around them. They get the scent and go feral. Who knows where it might end?

One thing's for sure though, granny must MUST stick to the rules.

everlong

It sounds very much like the op has no problem whatsoever with jam roly poly and custard.

You are posting as if you have the impression that the op is complaining about them having any sweets/chocolate/pudding she's quite clearly stated that's not the case her concern is the huge amount of it,and her DH agrees with her but does not feel able to address it

yanbu that would annoy me too. I wouldn't be bothered about an unhealthy dessert but the portions should be child appropriate.

I would just invent some tummy aches and tell her to give them less. But then my mil has the sense to do this herself.