To think that for any parents who use this site and have DCs who will only achieve C and D grades it must be soul destroying.

[smokepole]

Fortunately my three DC will ( probably all go to university with good GCSE and A level results) . However, the vast majority of kids and surely many parents on here have children , who will not achieve 'great results'. The parents must feel that they as well as their children have failed. The 'constant' discussions on Oxbridge/ RG universities must make these parents feel like they are living in a parallel universe. The vast majority of kids will not go to either of these institutions , 'modest' or normal universities are continually disregarded on Mumsnet ,( though for many kids, even these universities are unattainable).

I just want to send some support out to those parents and their DC. I want to let them know that despite 'average' results , they can still achieve great things , with or without great exam results.

You must be so proud of your clever children op . So kind of you to spare a thought for others too.....

Why thank you op. I was feeling massively depressed about my decidedly average ds, until I happened upon this inspiring and insightful thread. Your pity validates my parenting, most certainly.

YABU

LOLOLOLOL

You had me at 'however'...

I know loads of people who gone to oxford and Cambridge working in supermarkets. Some of the people doing the best from my school year didn't bother with uni and went straight into work, gaining life experience and skills. One went into uni later paid for by per firm she worked at since age 18. She's paid off her mortgage and in a very highly paid job. A grades only show you can study. The highest grade I got at a levels was a c but I went to oxford (the real one) and now own my own business. I later went to another Russell group uni which was better for what needed. 'Average children' are more rounded than those that gave been hot housed.

Went not gone

My name is Mango and I was an average child. My averageness and I thank you for your concern and support. Now with your backing I shall start anonymous and rejoice in our averageness.

DD finished KS1 with level 2s and is working towards (hopefully) getting level 4s in her end of KS2 SATs next year. I'm very proud of her.

My soul is fine, thank you for your concern.

*average anonymous

If only I'd learnt to type at Oxford

Oh for fuck sake! A "My kids are better than your kids" thread. Who gives a rats arse what your kids are doing? Here have a and chill out. I bet your kids were one of those that ate olives too when they were toddlers

Eh?
I think you have been reading selectively. Maybe the mention of Oxbridge jumps out at you?

everybody has SEN or is gifted and talented...

It is possible to have additional needs and be gifted / talented.

Kind of wishing I hadn't mentioned DC3's SEN now!

London

Without wishing to be provocative, what is wrong with working in a supermarket?

'The parents must feel that they as well as their children have failed. '

Why would that be then smokepole?

I feel sorry for the young people who are C D borderline and have the life pestered out of them to "work hard and get C's" because it boosts the school's results

People only really post if they want to boast (my 3 month old knows the alphabet and can do long division by blinking for numbers - is this normal?) or if they need advice support about SEN. What are all us average types going to post about?

"My 4 year old plays well with others and can recognise his name and count to 14"

I'm glad my children aren't going to be arrogant snobs that think just because you get a lower grade makes you less intelligent or important.

So basically, I feel sorry for your children if they turn out like you.

Plus just because you get a high grade doesn't mean diddly squat. My sister's friend got the same as her 4 A Level's at A grade and one A star and a 2:1 and although my sister has done quite well her friend just works at a shop.

Sometimes it's who you know, not what you know.

Happy trolllololloling :)

my DD1 is G+T and has SEN ... do I WIN the internet?

Has AIBU gone all, well, unreasonable because of school holidays? I think the UK might still be at school but Irish secondary schools have already broken up. If that's the case, I know your mother.

I feel sorry for the less academic children because they get a hard time. However, they are the builders, plumbers etc etc of the future and should be valued just as much as those who go to Oxbridge to study medicine.