To think that for any parents who use this site and have DCs who will only achieve C and D grades it must be soul destroying.

[smokepole]

Fortunately my three DC will ( probably all go to university with good GCSE and A level results) . However, the vast majority of kids and surely many parents on here have children , who will not achieve 'great results'. The parents must feel that they as well as their children have failed. The 'constant' discussions on Oxbridge/ RG universities must make these parents feel like they are living in a parallel universe. The vast majority of kids will not go to either of these institutions , 'modest' or normal universities are continually disregarded on Mumsnet ,( though for many kids, even these universities are unattainable).

I just want to send some support out to those parents and their DC. I want to let them know that despite 'average' results , they can still achieve great things , with or without great exam results.

Ha. Ha.

Hahahahahahahahahahabahahahahaha

Probably helped by the unnecessary stealth last of those who can point out how well their own dc are doing when it isn't relevant to the thread, tagged on to a disingenuous hand hold.

Stealth boast

Seriously?!

Hilarious op.

From what I read on here most children are either very academically able or have SEN/SN or fit into both those categories.

Not many people seem to have 'average' achievers. Even though the majority of children must be average. It's weird.

I have a DS who is doing his Masters at a top London uni. I have a DD her is completing her degree at an old Poly type unit (with the required C and D grades!).

They're different kids with different skills and aspirations. I want the best for both of them, but I promise that I don't feel I've failed my DD!

I have to love the irony in the first line of your opening post!

Why did you feel the need to inform us of that?

It's almost as though you were worried people might think your DC will probably get average results

Not at all.My youngest had a Statement at school and got 5 A to Cs which I never thoought hee would get.I am not at all jealous of people with children getting high grades or going to top universities.
Are you trying to be provocative?

It's weird that you've come on to moan about the Oxbridge chat, yet still feel the need to point out how well your kids have done.

Pot kettle black.

I've got an averagely abled ds1, predicted Cs and a couple of Bs, if he works. Meh. My oldest brother went to Oxford and got a double first and later a DPhil and he's still a miserable annoying twat; DP's brother is a plumber and on about 8 times his wage and very happy.

Ha ha ha ha .... though I agree with manic, everybody has SEN or is gifted and talented... well I have one decidedly average child (though is only 5) and one clever Dc who also has specific learning difficulties.

It feels so great that people with brilliant kids can feel so sympathetic for us parents who have birthed plebs. Your support is immeasurable.

You know your point was lost in the smug stealth (actually not that stealth) boast? Really did you need to add details of your THREE children's brains?

Your IQ might be high but your EQ is in the 'additional needs' category.

Hahaha!

Oh the irony in your OP is just staggeringly brilliant

I will be proud regardless of what my dc achieve.

I have a very high achieving DS who may end up in a prestigious university.

I also have a severely autistic dd who I hope will one day gain some level of independence.

I will be equally happy and proud of both dc achievements.

maybe the parents are too average to worry?? So do not need your condescension.

you stealth boasting ninnymuggins

well, I only have 1 DC and can't have any more, should I complain about people starting threads discussing whether or not they should have another, or general discussions involving families bigger than mine?

Well Mumsnet AIBU is a bit of a parallel universe anyway

My average children and I thank you for bestowing your pity upon us OP..

The first line of the OP is BRILLIANT! Hahahaha! "AIBU to feel sorry for all the people who have such average and depressingly ordinary children, when mine are so brilliant, no doubt because of my superior intellect and child rearing?" is the subtext I read.

I dont care tbh.
I will be chuffed with whatever my children achieve. I dont care about anyone else's grades. They are irrelevent to my life.
I suspect that if people were honest, that would be the view of most.

I must say though. I had a proper chuckle at you with your superbright children feeling sad that parents wbo have children who arent as bright as yours feeling like theyve failed. That was funny. I dont think you meant it to read like that did you?

Um, um, what did I just read?

Oh dear, whatever my son achieves I will be happy with.

Where are all these 'constant' discussions you are talking about?

I haven't seen them.

My DD is doing badly in Maths and English, brilliantly in science, and her recent report talked of her being a great role model, pleasure to teach and popular with her peers.
She is also a young carer, for me, and I could not be prouder of her.
Not everyone pins everything on academics.