to think I didn't make a "smug" comment?

[DeepEndOfTheOcean]

It was a colleagues last day on Friday (as she is leaving to go traveling). I have recently announced that I'm pregnant (pfb)

Colleague was asking me about the future, due date/scans/maternity leave etc and I asked her about where exactly she was going to travel to. I said to her -

"I'd have love to have done something like that, but I guess I chose love over travel"

Apparently this was a smug remark?

Aibu to think it wasn't?

Mintyy she says she'd have loved to have done it, but the second part of the comment immediately undermines that - she chose love which is clearly superior and also suggests the traveller is some sort of hard hearted loveless selfish type. That's how it comes across to me. I accept the OP may not have meant that, but in that case she does need to be more aware of what she is saying...

A right fucking MN old smug - don't forget the old

Love over travel? BLEAUGH pass the sick bag. Cheesy and smug.

Mumsnet s [girn]

Self-satisfied/absorbed smugness. Did she not tell you to fuck off? I would have.

hahah Girn - yes I was gurning - why do we not have a gurning smiley

I was trying to be clever as well

Smug, yes. And it makes me want to vomit slightly.

I'd have laughed in your smug face. I hope she did.

I've had a child, no time to travel. As much as I love ds, I wish I had spent time exploring the world before "choosing love (vom)".

Good on her! You'll be knackered, covered in baby sick, stressed and arguing with your dp. She will be living the dream.

Yep, pretty smug.

I met DH, we travelled loads then got married then had DC, so you can do both obviously.

Smug? No. Cringe-tastic. YES YES YES!

Maybe it was smug but, as someone who frequently opens her gob and puts both feet in it (both on MN and in RL!) I do understand how it is possible to sometimes just say something and not realise you are saying it until you see the looks of absolute horror on the faces of the people you are talking to.

And, actually, those people who go on and on about their travelling experiences and imply how totally cool and sophisticated they are compared to you can be smug too not that I'm jealous because I didn't do it when I was young and don't fancy taking the beasties with me now

Eek OP! Never mind, she won't have heard you what with your foot being in the way .

Mumsnet s is very witty, in a biged kind of way

Firstly congratulations on your wonderful news. I can however see why your colleague saw this comment as smug,.T.B.H. For all you're aware she could be secretly ttc and albeit I don't completly unintentional insensive comments hurt. X

I don't read it that way at all cardi.

Oh hell's bells, have I been had again? All hail gordy too cool for MN.

If this is a hoax it's a brilliant one.

I'd be thinking 'what a cow' if I was your colleague.

Hello MN??

Are you going to delete this one for the troll hunting?

Oh christ, I don't see anything wrong with what you said at all!

Maybe ever so slightly clumsy, if I HAVE to pinpoint something negative about it, but I can tell you meant well by it! Just saying something to be social, you know.

She shouldn't have taken it personally. Good lord. Wondering if there's something wrong with me now- just don't see what's smug about it in the slightest.

Pleased to meet you revolutionary. We seem to be in a miniscule minority on this thread .

I'd have secretly rolled my eyes. It's an odd remark and manages to be faux self-deprecating and smug at the same time.

It sounds more of a jealous comment than I smug one TBH

would be my reaction.