to think I didn't make a "smug" comment?

[DeepEndOfTheOcean]

It was a colleagues last day on Friday (as she is leaving to go traveling). I have recently announced that I'm pregnant (pfb)

Colleague was asking me about the future, due date/scans/maternity leave etc and I asked her about where exactly she was going to travel to. I said to her -

"I'd have love to have done something like that, but I guess I chose love over travel"

Apparently this was a smug remark?

Aibu to think it wasn't?

YOUCH!

I don't think you were intentionally horrible.... Thoughtless comment at worst.

Oh god I can't stop thinking about this conversation.

My sphincter is getting quite the workout. Cringe cringe cringe cringe CRINGE .

I think it sounds like the comment a jealous person who would much rather be traveling the world than sleep deprived, smelling of puke and finding great excitement in a coffee at the local coffee shop would make.

I would think you were making a sligh dig. But to be fair to you, things like this drop out of my mouth all time

I'm surprised you didn't realise the second you said it tbh.

My sphincter is getting quite the workout

Love that

This is why it's always best to say 'how lovely!'
To everything.
You thought you were being interesting, she probably didn't even register an agenda and Mumsnet has it's pitchforks out.

but I guess I chose love over travel

did you actually say that, out loud, in real life?

yep, sorry, bit smug i'm afraid.

If someone said that to me, I'd go home and cry, and also not enjoy my travelling nearly as much. Can you really not see how smug that sounds? you sound like a classic Smug Married tbh.

Oh dear OP..Doesn't look like the jury's out on this one

Totally smug. Hilariously so.

I'm not really one to look for offence at times like this. Things come out wrong, best to just move on. Was it a joke gone wrong OP? Was it one of those instances in which you heard it come out and thought, "Oh crap."

Or -- do you really think that was a cool thing to say?

You told her that she's chosen travel over love, which is an awful thing to say. How on earth do you have more love in your life because you're pregnant?

I hope she said to you, "Yeah, I'd love to have a baby but I'd much rather have awesome adventures than to get tied down with a passel of brats."

No, I hope she didn't say that, because it would be mean.

Um, congratulations on your pregnancy.

I know.
poor op.
shes going to come back and tell us it was a reverse, even if it wasnt.

We've all done the open mouth insert foot thing from time to time. Trying to think of my worst...

Oh dear. Yes, very smug. What on earth were you thinking?!

Who told you it was smug? I think you owe your former colleague an apology.

It always amazes me how differently everyone interprets things. Some posters sound like they would be really horrified by this comment . I wouldn't have thought anything of it unless the person saying it was known to be a snidey so and so.

Agree with pretty much everyone else. Painfully cringe-worthy and smug.

My visceral reaction reading that was "woah!"

I understand you probably meant it more like a self-deprecating comment but it didn't work :S

Agree with the comment upthread. As someone who has done a lot of travel, you sound envious. It sounds like an odd comment to me as you can get travel 'out' of your system while you're young and then have babiesannabel but once you've had babies, it's more difficult to travel!

So my super smug response is that I've done both . And that's what she would say in a few years time....

When I did the bulk of my travel, my high school friend's Mum (all my friends had young families) said, "I always knew imip would be the one that travelled" . I had great pleasure in having my 4th dc at 40, which she declared was far too old!

I just can't work out why you said it. Of all the things you could have said.

A bit martyrish and potentially a dig at your colleague's lifestyle choices.

Given that you haven't even whelped yet, this doesn't bode well for nauseating FB status updates in the future.

Babiesannabel, did I type that, dd4 trying to breastfeed and I'm trying to stop!

Can'tbelieve 'Blimey' at which bit? You think a pregnant woman saying 'I chose love over travel' to a childless woman who is going travelling isn't a bit nasty or a bit thoughtless? And you don't think it implies that, by not having children, the travelling woman doesn't have the same amount of love in her life?

You sound as tactless as the OP, in that case!

Smug? Yes!

Also a bit bonkers.

Blame it on pregnancy brain.

You made a smug comment. So what?

Your colleague will be too busy traveling and having fun to dwell on it.

I've made worse faux pas than that and the sun still rose the next day. The only one that's really going to be thinking about that is you. Unless your friend is just a joyless individual who feels the need to dwell on trivial matters.

Smug. 'chose love' haha cringey.

Smug.