to think I didn't make a "smug" comment?

[DeepEndOfTheOcean]

It was a colleagues last day on Friday (as she is leaving to go traveling). I have recently announced that I'm pregnant (pfb)

Colleague was asking me about the future, due date/scans/maternity leave etc and I asked her about where exactly she was going to travel to. I said to her -

"I'd have love to have done something like that, but I guess I chose love over travel"

Apparently this was a smug remark?

Aibu to think it wasn't?

It does kind of make it sound like you think she has in some way chosen travel over love, which, whilst I wouldn't say smug, isn't a particularly pleasant implication.

So, YANBU in that it isn't necessarily smug, but it probably wasn't the most thoughtful thing to say either.

I don't think anyone can tell unless they were there and heard and saw you. In general I would take a comment like that in the way it was intended and if you didn't intend it to be smug then it wasn't!

I wouldn't worry about it. I'm sure everyone says things a little off every now and then. I'd apologise, assure them I didn't mean to sound smug and forget about it.

Pretty smug.

As I took my 3 dc backpacking in Latin America before school age, either I'm extraordinarily smug or realised one doesn't trump another!

It sounds like a dig at the other person. It's as if to say you chose the better option.

Even after she'd been nice and asked you all about your baby related things.

Sounds mean.

I can't believe you don't realise how hurtful this sounds.

Smug, unpleasant and calculated to hurt, I'd say. Are you jealous she is travelling?
If you didn't mean to be any of the above and aren't so jealous you want to hit out, then you need to think about the way you say things.
Love over travelling? Wnen she is travelling? Means she has nobody to love/nobody who loves her, yes? Very unpleasant implication, I'm sorry.

what an odd thing to say!

"I guess I chose love over travel"

Oh dear

Why don't you throw a dinner party for her before she leaves?

Smuggy Mc Smug with a side order of smug.

That is really nasty and thoughtless. Are you implying she doesn't have love in her life, or is selfish for not choosing motherhood? For all you know, she could have had a miscarriage.

Smug as fuck I'm afraid. Do better next time.

Smug.

And a bit odpkd fashioned. Married women are allowed to hold a passport and see the world, and most planes allow you to buy 2 tickets at a time.

"Love" in thus case sounds like shorthand for "married with kids like a proper middle class mummy grown up".
Which isn't really the only expression of love anymore.

That is really nasty and thoughtless. Are you implying she doesn't have love in her life, or is selfish for not choosing motherhood? For all you know, she could have had a miscarriage.

Blimey

Bitchy/nasty are the first things that come to mind.

Cringe !
That actually made my toes curl.
Smug and unpleasant.

Please come back, op. I need to know if you've turned inside out with embarrassment.

Definately smug

I guess it just came out all wrong?

OP - where are you?? Get your loved up pregnant arse back here and face the wrath of MN!!!

Yes... smug and cringeworthy.

You could have said, "How wonderful for you, I do envy you". That's what people like to hear. If you must make comparisons, then don't make them a competition. Self-effacement is a good, good thing, ie. "Wow, that's fab... I guess I chose puffy ankles over the trip of a lifetime, you lucky thing!", if you must make reference to your pregnancy when somebody else tells you they're doing something.

It's appallingly smug. And crass and just vomit inducing.

OK, travelling colleague showed polite interest in your immediate future. When talking about her plans however, you pissed on her chips.

What's not right with that conversation?

It does sound rather smug, OP, but maybe you just worded it clumsily because even written down it doesn't flow and seems an odd thing to say.