be angry about facebook photos?

[Daisy122]

Neither me nor my husband are on facebook, were more pick up the phone and chat or meet for dinner type ppl not really into the whole social network vibe - thats just us each to their own and no judgements on anyone else were quite aware were unusual in that respect especially both being under 30 and otherwise very social ppl :) Anyway when i got pregnant with my daughter we told family and friends that we didnt want any photos putting on facebook or announcements ect anything to do with baby really as were not on there to monitor it and we want to share first photos, news, scans ect ourselves in our own way; everyone agreed to this and we made particularly sure this was explained to my fil as he has a facebook page and likes to befriend everyone and anyone and is very open with his private life. Anyway when i was 5 months pregnant we got our second scan photo and went to visit both my parents and my husbands to show them in person, my fil asked for a photo of it and i said sure just dont put it on facebook please he said ok and took the photo. The following evening me and hubby go out to meet friends for dinner and proudly show off our scan only to be told oh weve already seen it on fils fbook page. So we get home go on his page through my brothers account and not only has he posted the scan photo but he had announced my pregnancy before we did and posted my scan dates, due date ect ect. My hubby called him and said we where really upset with him and felt really betrayed he said fine ill take it down and wont do it again but was not apologetic at all. We moved on and when my daughter was 2 months old i met hubbys parents friend in the street i went to introduce her to our baby and she said oh ive already seen her on fil's facebook, i was fuming got home and we discovered fils facebook profile pic was him and our daughter and other photos had been posted, he also had not removed the previous scan photos as requested. we invited him round to tell him we where really annoyed by this total disreagrd for our wishes and he said shes my granddaughter i can decide whats best for her and called us pathetic and reclusive just because we dont want photos on fb. My daughter goes to baby clubs, mums and tots, sees friends and family every week yet because her image isnt slapped all over the web were reclusive!!!! am i right to be so annoyed? thanks xxx

This thread is utterly vile and some of the posters should be ashamed of how they have attacked Daisy.

I only turned up to see Daisy spell cunt.

koala me too

offers Curiosity a sneaky high five

Dear mumsnet should you now come on here and read this to delete my account, as you predictably will, please consider the fact that i have had my education questioned on this thread and had some users generally try and tear me apart for no good reason, maybe you should consider deleting some of those arseholes too ....... so we can all go and create new email accounts and usernames (yawn)

Thanks x

Facebook is actually a wonderful tool to communicate and I think you should let this go OP, for the sake of harmony, and maybe rethink your ideas on FB

Good grief. That is one of the most idiotic posts I've seen on a forum.

They'll prob only delete the post where you call that other poster a cunt Daisy.

You won't be deleted from MN!

I have been following this post since it was created, I am disgusted how some of you posters have treated Daisy, this is a site in which we are suppose to give advice and support NOT attack and bully people. It makes me wonder what is actually going on in your life for you to act so vile to others.

Wow. I've liked Daisy since the start of this thread, but now she's dropped the c-bomb I've got an actual proper girl crush going on. Go Daisy!

I actually want to apologise to Zippey, its a kind of back handed apology as i do feel that you deserved it but i don't want to stoop to the level of some posters on here, so i apologise for calling you a cunt. Probably would have been more fitting to say what you (and others) have wrote is cuntish not that YOU are a cunt - really need to stop using that word!

Personally I think Zippey needs to get out more and, it's a cliché, get a life beyond Facebook.

Well, Daisy

All grown up having cut your teeth on grammar, parenting differences, in-laws, FB, Godwin's law and now even semantics on the c-ish word.

sniff am so proud!

wow the drama

YADNBU op really not everyone wants to share details of their life on fb and of course this is your decision regards to your child and everyone should respect that

how sad that so many communicate so much through fb they are unable to see life without it for some it is a choice and one that should be accepted without question

at CSIjanner and puntastic

Our little girl is all grown up isn't she.

Op, I totally agree with you, and I'm a 'doting grandparent' myself. I wouldn't dream of deliberately going against my son and daughter in law's wishes regarding their child. He is their child, and I don't have an inherent right to show him off to anyone.
And Zippey, why on earth do you think the op should reconsider using Facebook? It's not compulsory you know, thank fuck.

Thank you! Peace and love to most x

Evening all.
Well... this has been a doozy, rather surprisingly. Who'd have thought it?
Can we all try to remember to keep things within the spirit of MN, you know, all the shizzle about making parents' lives easier?

Haven't you missed National Gin Day, YetAnotherHelen. [sympathetic head tilt]

Pag - I think I have dust in my eye...

(Waves at AnotherHelen)

Daisy - you're sounding so much stronger today which is fab. I think FIL doesn't realise how formidable you and DH will be together standing up on this. In fact, it probably is a first for him. I think though i might actually put money on MIL caving first.

Daisy - just to reiterate, YADDDNNNNBU.

Your PIL (and in particular your FIL) have stated that they are not prepared to respect your wishes and for even suggesting that you wanted to discuss it, have said they won't see you.

You've made it clear that your dh doesn't like the way that your wee family unit is being treated, so it's not as if you are the one who is threatening No Contact.

In any other context, MNers would be screaming at you to have no further contact with such narcissistic, controlling GPs. They would be pointing you in the direction of the "Stately Homes" threads, for people who are coping with toxic parents. (And make no bones about it, your PIL are toxic: FIL toxic and MIL an enabler )

I don't understand why the injection of Facebook into this somehow makes their behaviour acceptable to some people on here.

And I say that as someone who does probably overshare on FB - my excuse being that I am doing so for the large number of my friends and family who are in South Africa, Australia and NZ and who tell me that they enjoy seeing what ds and we are up to. (Ds too old to have had his baby days splashed over FB and now, at 13, I ask his permission before posting up pictures of him and rarely tag him).

Hi Helen!

Thanks for everyone's nice comments, feeling comforted - 13 pages later

Well, Daisy

All grown up having cut your teeth on grammar, parenting differences, in-laws, FB, Godwin's law and now even semantics on the c-ish word.

sniff am so proud!

Okay - admit it. Which one of you lot bought FB shares? Because that's the only explanation as to why some on here will support toxic, bullying narcs who want it their way or the highway.

I bet you photograph every meal and stick it on Instagram as well

Its definatly a first for FIL to be challenged, me and hubby where talking today and he said he literally cant think of a time, even in teenage years, that he or his brother really challenged or rowed with him about anything and MIL certainly doesn't so this is quite a shock to the old gits system!

Can always rely on Helen to swoosh in, gin in hand and tell us (blearily) to watch it.

I also imagine she looks like Marlene Dietrich and has a cigarette in one of those long holder thingies.