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To be annoyed that MIL is only giving us £300,000?

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WeddedBliss · 11/06/2014 20:10

OK, so hypothetically.

We were having that 'What would you do if you won £80 million on the lottery?' conversation.

MIL said she'd love to be able to set her family up for life. That dh and DBIL would obviously be first on the list, and she'd give them £300k each.

£300k? Really? You're only giving your two sons £300k each out of friggin £80 million? I'd be giving my best friend more than that if it were me, never mind my dc.

AIBU to think she's being really stingy?

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Ohwhatfuckeryisthis · 11/06/2014 21:48

30mill is just about right for me! Grin
House for each kid. And a million (stashed away for safety) each.
Million each for my two sisters, and two BILs. 250 each for dnephews and nieces. That's about 12 mill. The rest for dh and me to live in the style to which we deserve for the rest of our lives.
Roll on the draw!

KurriKurri · 11/06/2014 21:52

I had this convo once with my MIL - she bought me and herself a lottery ticket, and then said 'will you share if you win' and I said 'no, but I'll give you your pound back' Grin

PoundingTheStreets · 11/06/2014 22:02

If I won millions on the lottery I would tell people but I would lie about the amount. That way I could explain away things like a new car, holiday or slightly bigger house, but not accidentally end up removing myself from normal life or have lots of "long lost friends" coming out of the woodwork.

What I would do though is pay some clever firm, if one exists, to approach all my friends on a private letter claiming a long lost relative has left them some money/they've got some PPI refunded/whatever so that they could clear all their debts etc.

I suppose I had better start playing it then...

Bogeyface · 11/06/2014 22:03

This reminds me of Homer Simpson praying over a scratchcard

"Lord, give me the chance to prove that money wont change me" :o

I surprised my Ma& Pa and my sister by saying that if I won I would tell Camelot that we were a syndicate so they could get their share (10% to mum and dad, 20% to Sis and her DH who still have a mortgage and cant afford kids yet) tax free! You've got to think these things through!

Bogeyface · 11/06/2014 22:05

I have also thought through the "secret benefactor" letter thing too pounding!

BreconBeBuggered · 11/06/2014 22:17

I would have to keep the news to myself. If an extra £200 comes our way, DH cheerfully spends it as though it were £400. I literally couldn't afford to have him playing with £80m. I only hope I can handle the stress of dealing with it on my own.

SpringItOn · 11/06/2014 22:29

Think yourself lucky. My DM told me she'd buy me..............

New wardrobes! Cheers mum.

Bogeyface · 11/06/2014 22:32

Blimey Brecon remember "At Home With The Braithwaites" ? That didnt end well did it? :o

HSMMaCM · 11/06/2014 22:50

We're going to split our win four ways.

1/4 for DH to spend as he likes
1/4 for me to spend as I like
1/4 for DD to be handed over at an appropriate age
1/4 which can only be spent on things we all agree on.

Beastofburden · 11/06/2014 22:59

Ooh fun.

£5m each to the young cousins and DC- £25m
£1m each to the oldies (over 50) who don't need it as much - £ 5m
£5m to pay off all my friends mortgages if I can do it secretly.
10% to charity
Rest for me and DH, slurp.

DizzyKipper · 11/06/2014 23:09

^Lowers voice to a whisper...

If I won I wouldn't tell anyone other than DH and I certainly won't be giving people money.^

My DBro has said this - he thinks that if people know you have money then they'll all be crawling over to you to get some. I guess he has a point.

DizzyKipper · 11/06/2014 23:10

The trouble is with not wanting to let people know how much you've won is the media seeks you out.

MadameDefarge · 11/06/2014 23:13

No pony? not even a bit of a pony?

MadameDefarge · 11/06/2014 23:15

can I be your private chef, Mintty?

You know I am good for it!

thegreylady · 11/06/2014 23:15

We would split it 6 equal ways. One sixth to be shared between all 9 dgc, one sixth to dd, ds, dss1 and dss2. Nothing for dsd because she has gone nc for the last 7 years but her ds would get his share and when we die dsd would get a fifth of anything we had left from our sixth.
That would be if I had bought the ticket. Dh is nicer than me :)

FishWithABicycle · 11/06/2014 23:22

YABU, completely and totally.

You don't need a massive windfall like this. £300k is enough to give you somewhere to live and (unless you are in London) change for some other extras. That is plenty, she doesn't owe you anything.

If I was her I would be watching closely for any signs of sniffiness or an entitled attitude while I decided how to write my will. If you accept the £300k with grace and gratitude and without a hint that you might be coveting more, then you'll get several million once I've shuffled off this mortal coil

MadameDefarge · 11/06/2014 23:27

Concentrate on the pony...the PONY!

what is wrong with you lot?

nicename · 11/06/2014 23:32

We have similar importamt discussions here.

I have loads of siblings and DH has only one. He says that its fair that his DB gets 5 million to himself and my siblings have to share the same amount between them all.

Just not fair!

AlpacaPicnic · 11/06/2014 23:39

My pony would have its mane dyed rainbow coloured, to match my own mane, and would have diamonds on its hooves...

MellowJello · 11/06/2014 23:47

Ooh this is one of my favourite ways to waste time. I have given this some thought. I would:

  • give one million each to my parents
  • give one million to sibling
  • pay off debts for friends
  • buy a house
  • go to medical school!!!
MadameDefarge · 11/06/2014 23:50

MY pony

BeetlebumShesAGun · 11/06/2014 23:52

We had this conversation with my grandparents once. They are very different: she is chatty and loves holidays and people, he is a real homebody and only really has time for family. The conversation went like this;

DGM: Oooh I would buy a lovely house in Spain and go on holidays all the time!
DGD (from behind newspaper) You'd go on your bloody own.
Me: What would you buy?
DGD: Nothing. I have my garden my nice house and my writing and painting. I don't need anything. I would split it between your mum and uncle and you, love.

Grin he's a grumpy fucker but he loves us really! And how nice he is so satisfied with life he wouldn't want anything else.

Chumhum · 12/06/2014 00:01

If I won 100 million I'd set aside half of it to put into a charitable foundation and spend my time helping people with it.

I'd also enjoy spending the rest, but I reckon I'd get most pleasure out of helping people.

OvertiredandConfused · 12/06/2014 00:08

We love playing this game! Once we'd paid off mortgages for family etc, got a couple of homes ourselves and provision for DC future, we'd set up a charitable foundation and our "job" would be to give it away - strategically.

missingmumxox · 12/06/2014 00:45

Easy, 5 mil each to dh's 2 brothers and parents, 6 to my brother.

The reason for the disparity is my Dbs Sps' would have no other family for the money to filter down from where as my bil children will most probably inherit from gps and uncle who has no children, we hope thought that dbil 2's wife would obviously want to leave most of the money to her family and I bloody hope gps spend a little, so that is why db only gets 1 mil more.

Both dh and I would like to offer scholarships him to science student me to nursing students we allocated 10 mil for each of these.

1mil to dfriend and 100,000 for each of her 3 children's education.

Other df 1 mil, + 2 m

Small holding,