To be annoyed that MIL is only giving us £300,000?

[WeddedBliss]

OK, so hypothetically.

We were having that 'What would you do if you won £80 million on the lottery?' conversation.

MIL said she'd love to be able to set her family up for life. That dh and DBIL would obviously be first on the list, and she'd give them £300k each.

£300k? Really? You're only giving your two sons £300k each out of friggin £80 million? I'd be giving my best friend more than that if it were me, never mind my dc.

AIBU to think she's being really stingy?

Wedded, your MIL squeaks when she walks, no double about it. Time to plan your revenge!

Oops no doubt about it

I'd tell my mum straight away and let her handle it, I'm totally shit with money. Giving me 100m would be totally stupid, I'd do crazy things. Mum will be more sensible and sort out trusts and grown up stuff like that. So yeah, I'd say I'm in a syndicate with my mum, that way she can keep me on the straight and narrow.

She's doing the same thing with her will. My brother and sister get lump sums, mine goes into trust and things are more specified, so I don't go mad and spend all the kids inheritance.

I'd ask mum for what I wanted, a big house in the country with some land and stables, some horses and ponies, with a groom employed.

A chef, personal trainer (which means I need a big indoor pool, plus a sauna and jacuzzi), a live in masseuse and beauty therapist (and a float tank like they have at the parlour), maids for the housework, an overnight nanny for the kids when I'm ill, a PA for organising my life, carers who would be paid generously instead of the pittance I pay them now, private healthcare, a holiday home in Florida, a chauffeur because I can't drive, private schooling for the kids, music lessons for all of us (I'd like to learn the cello in particular). I'd write and publish my own books, just because I've always wanted to.

So yeah, mum being in charge would be good. Do would a financial advisor probably.

Yes I'd definitely have good staff that were well paid. I like the lodge idea, I'll do that thanks.

Then I will go and do some voluntary work, in a school, maternity unit, something like that where they need people to help out but I won't have to be qualified and I'll probably do some courses just for fun, that I have always been interested in but wouldn't lead to anything.

I can't wait for this life to begin.

Oh yeah, and a totally blinged up mobility scooter, like sparkly and purple with leopard print comfy chair.

Loving the sound of your scooter Fan! It could have those blue lights under the chassis too, and a massaging seat. :)

If I won the jackpot, we'd pay off all our siblings mortgages, then give them all lump sums - reckon if it was a huuuuuge win we'd keep half for us and the DC, and divvy the other half up between siblings and parents. Spread the joy around etc, there's only so many millions you can spend after all.
I have one DSis and DH has two brothers, we each have one remaining parent, so equal amounts to all.

300k out an £8M win is flipping ruuuude.

Someone in Spain won £110mil last night! Can you imagine??

So, when I win my 100mil I'm giving my siblings plus my close friends 1m each, if they have children I would put 1m in a trust fund for each child too. Parents would get 5m (I probably "borrowed" around that much as a teenager anyway). Siblings would all get big house and car too. Would pay for family to go on awesome holiday, and perhaps give everyone a holiday home wherever they wanted.

I'd buy myself a modest home, only spending 1-2mil. It would have a pool, of course. Of have a gardener, cleaner and probably PA. I'm not interested in cars so I would just have something environmentally friendly. I would set up several charities both here and abroad.

And then I would have a fucking massive shopping spree and buy ALL the clothes. All of them.

Objection - but I don't live in Spain!

Hang on, I didn't buy a lottery ticket either.

Bugger!

She's thinking along sensible lines.

I think a reasonable amount is enough to buy everyone a house each, upgrade their car, settle their children with education trust funds,Mohave a holiday, and give the rest to charity.
Being mortgage free makes the biggest difference to people's lives. You need to continue working or doing omethong equally useful, otherwise after you've bought all the dream material things you've craved and worked for all your life, you'll have nothing left to want, and you'll become bored and restless.

£300k won't even buy you a flat in London will it? Whereas it would buy a farmhouse & acres up north.

Suddenly coming into excessive wealth when you have no prior experience of such, can be potentially damaging to a person. Believe it or not, it can also feel like a burden.