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AIBU?

To be annoyed that MIL is only giving us £300,000?

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WeddedBliss · 11/06/2014 20:10

OK, so hypothetically.

We were having that 'What would you do if you won £80 million on the lottery?' conversation.

MIL said she'd love to be able to set her family up for life. That dh and DBIL would obviously be first on the list, and she'd give them £300k each.

£300k? Really? You're only giving your two sons £300k each out of friggin £80 million? I'd be giving my best friend more than that if it were me, never mind my dc.

AIBU to think she's being really stingy?

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restandpeace · 12/06/2014 09:41

I'd be delighted with that

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50KnockingonabiT · 12/06/2014 09:48

Nice to other people having these conversations.

When I win (got to be in it to win it) I am taking my hubby on a long holiday before deciding on who gets what.

When he's nice and relaxed and had a couple of gins he'll agree to all my suggestions:)

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Bogeyface · 12/06/2014 09:52

Ah but Isee I reckon your average solicitors office is more of a risk than Camelot when you bear in mind the fact the solicitor is likely to be local so their support staff, who type the letters and do the filing are more likely to know you or know someone who knows you.

I would stick with Camelot knowing personally!

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Iseenyou · 12/06/2014 09:58

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pianodoodle · 12/06/2014 09:58

She'd give her children less than 1% of her winnings between them.

If she was sharing a bar of dairy milk she'd need to get a razor out.

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MackerelOfFact · 12/06/2014 10:01

pianodoodle That is utter genuis. Grin

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mystifiedNanof1 · 12/06/2014 10:10

we often have this discussion. DS says he will take half of my half of the winnings to invest for me because he knows I will give it all away. And he's right. It's just money. I only need a house and car and to see everyone I love comfortably settled.

I do think 300k out of 80 million is exceptionally tight!!!

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TiredCassandra · 12/06/2014 10:28

I like playing this game.

Last week it was £80m and I was going to do the following:

£5m to charity
£1 to each of my children
£10m trust fund for my children
£1m trust fund for nieces and nephews
£100k for god children

£1m to waste on leisure for holidays/cars/experiences

£3m for property.

The rest I would put away, and live off the interest.

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fedupworking · 12/06/2014 10:39

My husband said he would invite all the family to come to our's ( we live in a different part of the UK from the whole of our family's ) them who come will get, them who don't will get f**k all lol

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nicename · 12/06/2014 11:05

I would set up a charity for struggling parents (I have been comsidering this for a while actually). Giving them money so that they aren't going mad trying to pay the bills when they should be spending time giving thei kid the best start in life.

I'd also pay off mortgages galore, give to charities, travel the world and start getting regular haircuts and even may have a manicure.

I would also pay someone to accompany $e about - they would whisper peoples names in my ear when I meet them (I never remember peoples names!). I would also pay someone to take away my lauindry, do it and put oit back oin my cupboards.

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Bogeyface · 12/06/2014 12:11

If we are talking about domestic stuff, I would have a laundry person who's job would include washing, line drying and ironing bed linen fresh every day and changing them everyday. Bliss!

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ThatsSoNambyPamby · 12/06/2014 12:12

Yabu, it's an amazing amount of money to be given.

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CharmQuark · 12/06/2014 12:15

YANBU.

Go NC.

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HelpMeGetOutOfHere · 12/06/2014 12:21

see I'd be torn between not wanting to tell anyone, but at the same time wanting to help my family out, so I'd give the dp's a lump sum, there mortgage is paid off but times are a bit tough as my dad has his own business and although plenty of work, cash flow is a bit tight and he often doesn't pay himself so he an pay his employees.
My brother and sister a house each, a modest one, less than £500k, or maybe £500k and they can do what they want with it, e.g buy a property for £250k and use the rest as savings/capital.

my inlaws I guess I'd have to buy them a house and my sil too.

I think perhaps I'd admit I won but not admit to the full sum of money.

I'd buy myself a house and quit work, I'd of course have to put into trust cash for the dc when they were 21. if I won 80-100 million id put 5 million per dc into trust, with conditions on it, e.g must buy a property and invest a % so that they were set up for life, but maybe a condition about them having to be employed or have a viable business in order to continue to receive the fund.

I would have a big blowout and probably waste a million, or up to a million on holidays, shoe and clothes shopping. and maybe a bit of plastic surgery (would love a tummy tuck after a large weight loss and bingo wing removal!)

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Notso · 12/06/2014 12:48

Ooh I get the right hump with folk over pretend lottery winnings.

My Mum said I would have to give my sisters best friend and her parents who are my parents best friends a couple of million each. I think Mum can sort them out from the 10 million I give her.

BIL2's wife said she wouldn't give anything to BIL1 because he's been rich for ages but is mean.

I would love to give people money with caveats. So 5 million to scroogey BIL but he can't invest it or use it to make more money. He has to spend so much a year or it gets taken away.

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ExitPursuedByABear · 12/06/2014 12:51

My lovely friend is going to buy me a horse box. And a house with land where we can rescue mistreated equines.

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TiredCassandra · 12/06/2014 13:05

I would employ a housekeeper, to come in the morning, make the beds, clean the bathrooms/kitchen, floors etc, and prepare fresh pot of tea/coffee, breakfast etc for us all and clear away, then come back later and clean up again after dinner.

I would employ a hairdressser to come every two days to blowdry my hair.

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PeachyParisian · 12/06/2014 13:13

I hadn't thought of the tax aspect if giving money away. Good reason not to tell anyone really.
Plus DHs family is huge

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Canidae · 12/06/2014 13:35

I would buy a huge manor house with tons of land and have loads of dogs. And ferrets.

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SirBoobAlot · 12/06/2014 13:44

Whatacow.

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TooExtraImmatureCheddar · 12/06/2014 16:58

There is not a chance that I would manage not to tell people. Especially seeing as I'd want to waltz into work and go yup, won the Euromillions. In your face, CompanyName! The sad thing is that I really like my work, but I don't like the constant bureaucracy, or the getting up in the mornings, so I know perfectly well that if I didn't have to work then I just wouldn't.

My key investment would have to be a great accountant/financial manager, who kept both DH and I in line and pointed out if we were in danger of overspending. Neither of us are good with money and I can so see us managing to blow the lot by the time we were 50 and being left with nowt.

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TiredCassandra · 12/06/2014 17:03

A friend of a friend won big, they told others and gave freinds and family a share, then said it was the biggest mistake they made. They lost friends and family who got stroppy, jealous and judgy about how much was given as gifts.

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Bogeyface · 12/06/2014 18:50

Talking of holidays, not that I have given this much thought or anything but....

I once costed how much it would be for us, the kids and my parents to fly first class for our lotto win celebratory 6 week US holiday, starting in Florida for a fortnight then a 4 week road trip. I found out that it would actually be cheaper to hire a private jet! Move over Becks, got me own plane doncha know! :o

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Objection · 12/06/2014 18:58

I know it's not quite the same thing but may be interesting for those talking about giving to their DCs at the right time: my grandmother let me a large inheritance (how large I am yet to know but supposedly at least £20,000 could be up to £500,000 but unlikely) and im not to get it until I turn 23 (which is in 6 weeks!) The idea being that I would be fairly established in life, have experience of working and paying bills etc but still be young enough for it to contribute to me starting out in life.

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