Finding out name of new niece on FB

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SIL had a baby girl on Friday. They couldn't decide on a name for a few days. We haven't kept asking for a name as we remember only too well how manic it is with a newborn so didn't want to harass them but I have tonight learnt on FB what the name is. AIBU for being a bit miffed about this?

Yes, yabu to be a bit miffed, presuming that they contacted you to say she had arrived safely before facebooking it?

YABU.

Plenty of people like to use FB for happy announcements that need to be made to lots of people around the same time, and anyone with a newborn is going to have better things to do than ring round each family member and close friend to let them know the name after they've already heard about the birth days ago.

I don't think YABU, reckon I'd have been miffed too!

Whose account is it from?

What you might find, is that she has told her side of the family personally and assumed her husband has told his as well?

I wouldn't let it annoy you though. People get forgetful at times like that.

YABU, it's their news to announce as they wish. Can never really see why people get so bothered by stuff like this.

I'd be miffed too tbh.

Ooh, facebook instead of a phone call, what a problem! Parents of newborns really should be considering your feelings about the delivery methods of such information, they really have nothing better to do.

Only if she's called Jayden.

does it really matter or affect you in any way? if not its not worth stressing about. instead of worrying about how you were told why not just enjoy having a new niece.

Yabvu

YABU.

Why are you grumping at your sister-in-law but not your brother, you know, the one who's actually related to you?
Yabu

My friend's SIL put friend's son's name on FB just after a visit... Before friend's dsis could visit to hear, she read her new nephew's name on FB!

To make matters worse, it was spelt wrong!! Think Ciaran/Kieran Keelan/Caólan Finn/Fiónn.

Yabu

And more importantly, what is the name?

My actual DAD found out DD's name (his first grandchild) on FB

Was completely unintentional and purely down to 50hr labour and ensuing brain fog on the part of self and DH.

Don't take it to heart - and congrats on your new niece!

YABU and bloody lucky to have a lovely new niece to cuddle and nothing better to worry about than hearing of her name through Facebook

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YABU. Facebook works well for these things instead of sending a million texts/email/phone calls. Plus if the baby has been un-named for a few days they will have been inundated with irritating people less considerate than yourself asking them repeatedly if they've named the baby yet. Most tiresome. I suspect by announcing it on FB they are hoping to shut as many people up at the same time as possible. Don't take it personally!!

I wonder if phonecalls were the old Facebook..you know ringing instead of seeing people in person.

Oh dear, YABVU. It doesn't matter, it's only a name.

Am I right in thinking there is more to this?

My Mum found out my name when my Dad turned up at the hospital and said "I've been and registered Sarah*"

She had a list of three she liked and my name was one of them, but she hadn't made her mind up on any of them yet.

Almost forty years later she's still annoyed about this.

*Not actually my real name but you get my meaning

My DD came 9 Weeks early. Me and DP purposefully didn't tell anyone until she was 14 hours old as we wanted to get my heads around it first.

Within 30 minutes of me telling my mum she had told her brother (my uncle) and he sent me a congratulations via Facebook, I hadn't even told my own brother yet and felt forced to make the announcement of Facebook right then as my wall went crazy with shocked people wanting info. I hadn't even had a proper cuddle yet and there I was posting on Facebook. still a bit upset.

What I'm saying is a lot of my family found out about my premature baby through my own Facebook post, but it really was out of my control.
Facebook is full of vultures, all wanting to be first with latest news.

Why are you grumping at your sister-in-law but not your brother, you know, the one who's actually related to you?
Yabu

This is clearly an important issue to you if you are willing to let it overshadow the joy of the moment...

Yabvu. They have a newborn baby, I'm sure phoning around telling people the baby's name is low on their priority list after changing nappies, feeding the baby, recovering from birth, trying to get some sleep.

Why does it make any difference how you find out? I can understand why people don't like to receive bad news on facebook as it can take you by surprise but good news is nice no matter how you receive it.

I didn't realise people were actually that interested in the baby's name, unless the baby is named after you or tge name is the same of one of your yiur children's names then I can't understand why anyone is even that interested.