Finding out name of new niece on FB

[Flissity83]

SIL had a baby girl on Friday. They couldn't decide on a name for a few days. We haven't kept asking for a name as we remember only too well how manic it is with a newborn so didn't want to harass them but I have tonight learnt on FB what the name is. AIBU for being a bit miffed about this?

[scrivette]

I would be a bit annoyed too, mind you, I found out that I was having a niece/nephew via Facebook and the sex of the baby after the scan via Facebook.

However, it's probably just because they are so busy and excited, so try not to let it bother you too much.

[Ioethe]

I'm sure they have more to worry about right now than whether they have delivered the news to you in the correct way. Get over yourself.

[YoureBeingASillyBilly]

I'm just imagining all these new parents having to think of all the different ways they need to let all the different people in their lives know all the different pieces of information in all the different ways all the different people deem appropriate and not insulting before being able to share their news the way they want to.

[YoureBeingASillyBilly]

YABU

Their baby's birth/name isnt actually about you.

[lljkk]

yabu

[Arsepaste]

WTAF? Get a grip.

[nooka]

When my children were born dh rang my mother and his mother and they told everyone else so no one else heard from us directly. Pre Facebook that's how most family news got transmitted, at least with Facebook you hear from the new parents (assuming it was an announcement as apposed to a chance reference).

[BomChickaMeowMeow]

OP, you remind me of an elderly aunt who would get upset if you didn't send her a postcard when you went on holiday.

[LittlePeaPod]

Sarah loving the rhyming baby name. Brilliant.

[SarahAndFuck]

I get excited about baby names as well Stealth and I don't even care if I know the baby or not.

And the 'worse' the name, the better I love finding out what total strangers have named their children. just as much as finding out family names.

A distant relative on mine has just named her baby a reasonably normal name. Unfortunately it rhymes with her surname and, since she's not married she has hyphenated both her and her partner's surnames for the baby and they rhyme too.

Think Jaydon Haydon-Maiden or Shauna Horner-Warner.

I was so happy to learn this on Facebook I spent far more on the baby present than I intended to, just from the pure joy of writing "To Morgan Jordan-Warden, with love" on the card.

[Minnieisthedevilmouse]

Wish, Facebook IS family and friends. All at once.

Would you whine at the order you were told? (Plainly yes, just looking for ways to gripe?)

[indigo18]

Yet another 'Facebook stole my/her/our /baby news/ thunder/ announcement thread.
Just stay off facebook, then you won't know until they tell you.

[Minnieisthedevilmouse]

Technology useage is rife. It's 2014. I used to think this but now, I'm more digital than not. Sorry. This is normal. Average. Not news.

[StealthPolarBear]

I get excitEd to find out baby names. Also weights and birth stories. Im sad like that :o it's a whole new person in your family, I want to know what ill be calling them for thenext 50 odd years!

[ikeaismylocal]

Because it's her niece.

Why wouldn't she be interested?

Because it's just a name, there is only one reasonable reply "oh what a lovely name!" I don't see how her niece's name or the way op found out about the name is of any consequence to op.

Being upset about not being told about the baby's name personally strikes me as being a little overly involved. It would never occur to me to inform my close familiy about a baby's name personally, I just don't expect anyone to be that interested.

[Wishyouwould]

I can see why you're upset OP it's just so impersonal. I actually find it quite sad that the birth/the sex/the name would be announced to Facebook before family and close friends.

[ShelaghTurner]

YANBU. God knows how we managed to find the time to call people in the olden days before FB and twitter but we did. It was quite possible to cope with a newborn and have DH call the key players with the details. The poor little lamb coped quite admirably when I think back all of two years to DD2's birth....

[NorahBone]

selsigfach she didn't say she was annoyed at SIL rather than her brother, just that it was SIL who gave birth.
OP I understand while you feel like this, but stuff like this happens all the time with FB. Most of my family found out like this, I think. I got Mr Bone to ring my parents and let them to pass the message on. I needed to sleep, feed and rifle through my Bounty pack for Anusol samples (sadly lacking). He had to sleep and clean our flat.

[katese11]

SIL could be her dh's sister not her brother's wife. ...

[magpiegin]

YABU. They're probably quite busy at the moment don't you think? Why are you upset with your sil and not your brother?

[ViviPru]

MonkeyButler

[Minorchristmascrisis]

Yanbu - I love Facebook but I hate this sort of thing. When we were having ds3, I put up a status politely asking everyone to not post anything about the baby until they saw that dh had. I explained that we had close friends and relatives that we wanted to be sure knew first. Everyone was respectful and waited for dh to announce.

[SantasLittleMonkeyButler]

Was it Sofee?

[ViviPru]

Pah I discovered I had an entire nephew via facebook. Real classy brother & SIL

[Nanny0gg]

I didn't realise people were actually that interested in the baby's name, unless the baby is named after you or tge name is the same of one of your yiur children's names then I can't understand why anyone is even that interested.

Because it's her niece.

Why wouldn't she be interested?