Finding out name of new niece on FB

[Flissity83]

SIL had a baby girl on Friday. They couldn't decide on a name for a few days. We haven't kept asking for a name as we remember only too well how manic it is with a newborn so didn't want to harass them but I have tonight learnt on FB what the name is. AIBU for being a bit miffed about this?

[saintlyjimjams]

YABU

[LittlePeaPod]

YABU. It's their news to announce as they wish. Personally I wouldnt announce anything on FB and I don't put much on FB definitely no photos about DD but each to their own.

[meganorks]

Yabu

[everythinghippie29]

DP put our DS's birth announcement on FB they day he was born, I'm sure most of my relatives found out his full name that way. I honestly didn't even think for a second anyone would be offended by it.

It's kind of a standard way to do it nowadays and with a newborn (even a few days in) communication with everyone gets a bit fuzzy! I'm sure it wasn't a slight on you or done with malice, probably put on in the excitement of having chosen!

YABU, I can understand why you feel the way you do but I'd let it go and look forward to all those newborn cuddles!

[OddBoots]

I found out my niece's name on FB a few months ago, it didn't occur to me to be upset about it - FB is a quick and handy way to break news to lots of people at once and anything that saves time with a newborn has to be useful.

[Nanny0gg]

I didn't realise people were actually that interested in the baby's name, unless the baby is named after you or tge name is the same of one of your yiur children's names then I can't understand why anyone is even that interested.

Because it's her niece.

Why wouldn't she be interested?

[ViviPru]

Pah I discovered I had an entire nephew via facebook. Real classy brother & SIL

[SantasLittleMonkeyButler]

Was it Sofee?

[Minorchristmascrisis]

Yanbu - I love Facebook but I hate this sort of thing. When we were having ds3, I put up a status politely asking everyone to not post anything about the baby until they saw that dh had. I explained that we had close friends and relatives that we wanted to be sure knew first. Everyone was respectful and waited for dh to announce.

[ViviPru]

MonkeyButler

[magpiegin]

YABU. They're probably quite busy at the moment don't you think? Why are you upset with your sil and not your brother?

[katese11]

SIL could be her dh's sister not her brother's wife. ...

[NorahBone]

selsigfach she didn't say she was annoyed at SIL rather than her brother, just that it was SIL who gave birth.
OP I understand while you feel like this, but stuff like this happens all the time with FB. Most of my family found out like this, I think. I got Mr Bone to ring my parents and let them to pass the message on. I needed to sleep, feed and rifle through my Bounty pack for Anusol samples (sadly lacking). He had to sleep and clean our flat.

[ShelaghTurner]

YANBU. God knows how we managed to find the time to call people in the olden days before FB and twitter but we did. It was quite possible to cope with a newborn and have DH call the key players with the details. The poor little lamb coped quite admirably when I think back all of two years to DD2's birth....

[Wishyouwould]

I can see why you're upset OP it's just so impersonal. I actually find it quite sad that the birth/the sex/the name would be announced to Facebook before family and close friends.

[ikeaismylocal]

Because it's her niece.

Why wouldn't she be interested?

Because it's just a name, there is only one reasonable reply "oh what a lovely name!" I don't see how her niece's name or the way op found out about the name is of any consequence to op.

Being upset about not being told about the baby's name personally strikes me as being a little overly involved. It would never occur to me to inform my close familiy about a baby's name personally, I just don't expect anyone to be that interested.

[StealthPolarBear]

I get excitEd to find out baby names. Also weights and birth stories. Im sad like that :o it's a whole new person in your family, I want to know what ill be calling them for thenext 50 odd years!

[Minnieisthedevilmouse]

Technology useage is rife. It's 2014. I used to think this but now, I'm more digital than not. Sorry. This is normal. Average. Not news.

[indigo18]

Yet another 'Facebook stole my/her/our /baby news/ thunder/ announcement thread.
Just stay off facebook, then you won't know until they tell you.

[Minnieisthedevilmouse]

Wish, Facebook IS family and friends. All at once.

Would you whine at the order you were told? (Plainly yes, just looking for ways to gripe?)

[SarahAndFuck]

I get excited about baby names as well Stealth and I don't even care if I know the baby or not.

And the 'worse' the name, the better I love finding out what total strangers have named their children. just as much as finding out family names.

A distant relative on mine has just named her baby a reasonably normal name. Unfortunately it rhymes with her surname and, since she's not married she has hyphenated both her and her partner's surnames for the baby and they rhyme too.

Think Jaydon Haydon-Maiden or Shauna Horner-Warner.

I was so happy to learn this on Facebook I spent far more on the baby present than I intended to, just from the pure joy of writing "To Morgan Jordan-Warden, with love" on the card.

[LittlePeaPod]

Sarah loving the rhyming baby name. Brilliant.

[BomChickaMeowMeow]

OP, you remind me of an elderly aunt who would get upset if you didn't send her a postcard when you went on holiday.

[nooka]

When my children were born dh rang my mother and his mother and they told everyone else so no one else heard from us directly. Pre Facebook that's how most family news got transmitted, at least with Facebook you hear from the new parents (assuming it was an announcement as apposed to a chance reference).

[Arsepaste]

WTAF? Get a grip.