to think you shouldn't get a full night's sleep if you have newborn quads

[ReputableBiscuit]

This thing on ITV about Quads - the dad sleeps all night every night, while the mum and Grandma get 2 hours sleep a night in between feeding 4 babies. He's taking the piss, right? Apparently it's because he has to work in the morning. In sales, btw, not brain surgery.

[SoonToBeSix]

Don't get me started on the grandma I felt really sorry for her doing all the night feeds. I know she wanted to but still.

[Bowlersarm]

Just watched it and thought it was great. I don't have a bad word to say about any of them. Think they are all stars.

[Writerwannabe83]

I felt very sorry for Grandma. I know she says she wants to do it, but what other option is there if she chose not to?

Realistically she doesn't have a choice.

[balenciaga]

I felt sorry for the grandma too

Both her and quads mum looked broken

[indigo18]

I don't think Grandma would welcome your pity; if one of mine had a multiple birth I would give up every minute to help. She is a very generous and loving Mum and Grandma and I didn't get the impression that she was at all resentful. Us oldies are quite resilient and she could probably see the bigger picture better than her daughter could; even with twins I felt there would never be an end to it, but things do improve after the first year.

[Bowlersarm]

They didn't look broken! That's ridiculous. They looked tired but very happy.

[TwinkleTwinkleStarlight]

Tbh the husband wasn't the one 'getting a good nights sleep' it was the grandfather.

The husband was tidying up etc at 3am and starting to prepare the evening meal at 6am.

I think some are giving the dad a hard time unnecessarily.

[Scouser78]

I feel sorry for the mother, the guy has a history of violence towards women

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[SoonToBeSix]

How do you know that is the same person scouser?

[SoonToBeSix]

Twinkle the 3am dishwasher I imagine was at the weekend and it may well have been a one off.

[Scouser78]

Because he still lives in the same house

[TwinkleTwinkleStarlight]

Scouts we there is no verdict on that link

[TwinkleTwinkleStarlight]

Scouser not scouts -stupid autocorrect

[SoonToBeSix]

It was 2008 there must be a verdict by now

[Damnautocorrect]

I didn't think they looked broken. I thought they looked very well considering!!
I also don't think he's a twat he did weekends.
Thank goodness her mums able to help so much they are very lucky. Grandma looked like she was very much enjoying it to me.
Loved grandad just going on for the ride!! Also thought the sleep deprived spoon moan was quite funny.
Very lovely family I thought.

[OhYouBadBadKitten]

new poster Scouser?

[ComposHat]

Ffs..it isn't like he's spending all day wanking and eating pot noodles. He's thwhole earner suppoting six of them.

He works in sales. I imagine a lot (if not all) of his income is commission based and may involve a lot of driving.

If he can't do his job and as a result doesn't earn a penny as he's too tired to sell effectively what happens then? Or god forbid fall asleep at the wheel. ..

[Damnautocorrect]

As for the court case. Given that I wasn't involved, wasn't a judge or juror. I haven't had access the evidence it's really not for me to pass comment or judgement.

[happycamper80]

I really enjoyed it. I think he was pretty hands on and as long as he was helping out at night on non working days than it's fine.
Although I do still hate the way the childcare role is devalued. A sahm can be too tired to drive apparently because she has no need to go anyway on a day she is too tired apparently. Well you can have appointments etc that you have to attend and waves of tiredness can hit without warning.

[ILikeWarmHugs]

I think the arrangement they had was fine and well thought through. Mum had the support of the Grandma over night so she wasn't having to sort 4 babies alone. Plus mum can nap during the day, dad can't if he's at work. It seemed like they both worked bloody hard, with dad even emptying the dishwasher at 3 am sometimes! Dad's job isn't more important than mums but it is still very important, if dad lost his job they'd be screwed.

[SoonToBeSix]

Ilike hugs she has quads she can't nap in the day.

[Writerwannabe83]

I don't get a chance to nap in the day with 1 baby, let alone 4!

[Artandco]

I think now they are 1 year though and from about 6 months they could easily nap in day. Get babies into routine so say 9-10, 1-3 daily the nap, then at least one person can nap properly each nap with one dozing incase they woke.

I don't have quads, but in my house right now 2 month old twins, 2 year old, 3 year old and 4 year old. Dh is having bath with 3 year old. 2 and 4 year old playing with duplo, and twins laying on playmat happily. I'm on mn doing nothing. By 9pm all will be in bed. The twins fed at midnight by one of us in 20 mins, and then first wake 7am ish. 5 children age 4 and under and we have time to ourselves daily.

Why does it take 4 hours for x2 people to feed the quads? Apart from when tiny and prem, surely one person just takes x2 babies each and feeds x2 at a time? So 12pm all babies are feeding. X2 with the mum, x2 with grandma. By 12.30/1pm everyone's back asleep until 4pm. So 3 hrs sleep between each feed. Just seems they made more work than neseccary

[passwordchange]

So many selfish mums on here! I did all the night shifts when DD was a baby, as DH has a very stressful and hard job and he needed to not be tired to be able to do it. I never once thought he wasn't pulling his weight. He cleaned the house, cooked all the meals, looked after me and DD. much like the father of the quads on this program.

Just because some mums feel that because they are awake, then DH should be awake as well doesn't mean that other families can work equally well with the person who has to earn the money to pay for the roof over their heads being able to get a decent nights sleep.

[SoonToBeSix]

Password your post was rude I am not selfish I just believe dh and I should share the workload as we our both our dc's parents. Maybe you are happy to have your role as a mother under valued as less important than your husbands job but I am not.