to think you shouldn't get a full night's sleep if you have newborn quads

[ReputableBiscuit]

This thing on ITV about Quads - the dad sleeps all night every night, while the mum and Grandma get 2 hours sleep a night in between feeding 4 babies. He's taking the piss, right? Apparently it's because he has to work in the morning. In sales, btw, not brain surgery.

[Dontforgetyourbrolly]

Someone has to pay the bills with all those mouths to feed.

[balenciaga]

Applauds soon to be six.

[Bowlersarm]

Applauds password.

[TheFairyCaravan]

I don't get this thread at all.

I watched that programme last night and the family looked really happy, they had a system that worked for them and weren't bickering. So why are so many women pissed off on the mother and grandmother's behalf (when they weren't pissed off themselves) because the men were going to bed at night?

I've had 2 kids DH didn't do the night feeds because they were breastfed. In the very early days he changed nappies, got me water etc at night, but when he had to be at work at 7am I let him sleep. 'Twas nobodies business but ours!

[Koothrapanties]

I only have one baby, so clearly have no idea what it would be like with quads. However, dh and I have a similar arangement. He stopped helping with the night feeds when he went back to work. He works in quite a dangerous job and could seriously injure himself if he was sleep deprived. This would leave us without any income, and dh probably much less able to help with dd anyway!

You have to find what works for you. If I have a bad night with dd, dh will get up earlier than normal to let me catch up a bit, and I take back over when he needs to leave for work. It's all about give and take and compromise and i think they have done really well.

[Szeli]

I wish I'd seen this; my friend had identical quads and her husband left her at six weeks (with two others) - that's a twat. This guy doesn't sound so bad.

My OH couldn't wake in the night if he tried - and he did, so for the 2 months before DS was sleeping thru we pulled shifts. I did 9pm-5am asleep whilst DS and OH were downstairs and after the 1am feed they came to bed and OH lyed in whilst I did morning feeds. Perfect for us, I imagine we'd have done the same with multiples because it worked in OUR house

[PhaedraIsMyName]

Another vote for password I really don't think it's unreasonable the only person bringing in a wage should get to sleep on work nights.

[Rosebug258]

The bloke seems to be doing his best, that's all anyone can do really. 4 babies must be exceptionally hard for everyone.

In our house Monday-Friday I do all the night feeds, getting up etc and Friday and Saturday my dh does it, it works for us I have a good nights sleep on Friday we are now coming to the end of that tho as ds sleeps from 7.30-5.30 at night so going back to being in the same room.

I would consider asking him to do all night feeds as selfish as he works very hard in a very demanding job (go to prison if he fucked up) also his wage means I don't have to work again till the kids go to school. I appreciate this doesn't work for everyone but it works well for us each to their own and all that.

I think I'm very lucky to have the set up I have. But again it's down to the families envolved I also think that with any tv programme it's editited in a way to make you think bad of people.

[gimcrack]

You do what works for you. And remember, it's a TV show that needs to create a narrative for a one hour slot. It makes for better telly if they don't show the neighbours taking over daytime feeds so Sharon and Sandra can nap.