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To report her?

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CiderLover · 03/06/2014 17:12

There's a girl on my Facebook who is dating my friend.

Anyway, she works in a Travel Agents in our City.

She has posted a photo of an elderly gentleman in her shop looking at a brochure, can't wuite see what the brochure is but she is taking the piss, saying he is "reliving his youth". There are several piss take comments below it. If this was my dad or grandad i'd go fucking nuclear.

What do you think? Should I write an anonymous email or just keepy nosey face out of it?

The photo shows his entire face btw. Would you be annoyed if it was you or a relative?

OP posts:
KatieKaye · 09/06/2014 20:02

it is basically abusing a customer, behind his back.
And employers take this sort of thing seriously. You are talking about things like reputational damage, which is why most have policies about social media use.
TBH it sounds as if she needs a wakeup call about how to behave in an adult and professional manner.

auntjane2 · 09/06/2014 20:05

I agree with KatieKaye

cees · 09/06/2014 20:14

Yanbu

Now report her please.

HexBramble · 09/06/2014 20:34

My dear old Grandad died a few years ago at the grand old age of 93. He discovered travelling in his 70's and did his last big to New Zeland when he was 87' followed by various trips to Europe etc until he was 91.

He loved it. It gave him a new boost of energy.
Had that been my dear old Pops in the fb picture, I'd track that cow down. I understand why OP may not do so and announce it was her - doesn't mean that her motives are any less honourable. Nowhere in her post does she say that she's going to continue a friendship, in fact, it's blatantly obvious to all that she'll be going no where near her. So stop giving OP a hard time because the fact remains that this nasty piece of work has acted inappropriately and has abused her position to mock someone who could feel hurt and humiliated.

I'd love to know where this shop is. This kind of passive bullying boils my blood. If it's in Swansea OP, then pm me.

And before anyone jumps onto their soap box to say it has nothing to do with me, then question your own moral consciousness. I care about others.

ladymariner · 09/06/2014 20:36

I would report it straightaway. If she loses her job, then tough, she should have thought about that before she took a sneaky photo of somebody and ripped the piss out of him.

And if it had been my Dad in the photo she would be picking her teeth up off the floor.....flame away!

Icimoi · 09/06/2014 21:27

Swannery, Sunshine, your morality seems to be that you will never report something if it's not your business or if with any luck an innocent victim won't find out about it. So can we take it that you would do nothing if you saw someone blatantly hacking into someone's bank account and diverting funds to theirs? After all, it's not your money so none of your business, right? And with any luck the victim might not realise the money has gone, right? So let's let them carry right on.

If this girl isn't called out, she will carry on doing this. And next time round it may be a child whose picture is published to the world, or the comments may be even more overtly offensive. And the time after that she may be announcing that the person pictured has just gone on holiday, thus telling potential burglars that there's an empty property awaiting their attention. Someone who can't see anything wrong with this sort of conduct needs to be stopped.

sunshinecity17 · 09/06/2014 22:27

Icimoi that is a criminal offence, a lot different.It would depend whose bank account f it was, as to whether I would report it.If it was an individual or a not-for-profit organisation, then I would report.If it was the likes of Asda or Tesco, I would think good luck to them!

sunshinecity17 · 09/06/2014 22:28

OP do you definitely know it's her travel agency, as opposed to some stock photo she has got off the internet?

Smartiepants79 · 09/06/2014 22:37

Cyber bullying is also a criminal offence.

KatieKaye · 09/06/2014 22:58

Is it cyber bullying to post this photo? I'm not sure. It's certainly rude and an abuse of her position, plus a very poor advertisement for the company. Plus it suggests the poster will not treat all customers with equal respect.

Icimoi · 09/06/2014 23:57

Sunshine, as you accept you would fully condone theft, I think you have told us all we need to know about your sense of morality.

Swannery · 10/06/2014 09:40

Icimoi - to the contrary, I would take action if I felt that real harm was being done to an innocent person. But in this case it is a middle aged man, fully clothed, reading an innocent magazine. That photo could have been taken of him when reading in the park, for instance, in which case nothing whatever could be done about it. My real concern with this post is that I strongly suspect that the OP is just out to get her friend's girlfriend, and has ulterior motives for causing her as much trouble as she can, while remaining anonymous. Also that posters are encouraging her to lie to make what the woman has done seem as bad and as damaging to her employer as possible, to make it as sure as they can that she will be dismissed, not just told off. That to my mind is a nasty case of bullying.

Puzzledandpissedoff · 10/06/2014 10:43

If it was an individual or a not-for-profit organisation, then I would report.If it was the likes of Asda or Tesco, I would think good luck to them!

Dear God ..... Hmm

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CiderLover · 12/06/2014 14:24

Who's to say this person isn't under a witness protection programme?

Or that it was a surprise holiday for his wife? Regardless, the company claims to protect customer privacy and this woman is making a mockery out of him. I messaged her on Facebook saying she should take it down and she's being really unprofessional. I also added that had he have been related to me she would have been reported but in this instance I gave her a chance.

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TwinkleTwinkleStarlight · 12/06/2014 14:41

it was an individual or a not-for-profit organisation, then I would report.If it was the likes of Asda or Tesco, I would think good luck to them!

Err why!?

sunshinecity17 · 12/06/2014 20:43

'Sunshine, as you accept you would fully condone theft.....'
eh? where have I said that?

Trillions · 14/06/2014 00:01

So what happened Cider? Did you report and if so what were the consequences?

Trillions · 14/06/2014 00:01

So what happened Cider? Did you report and if so what were the consequences?

Trillions · 14/06/2014 00:01

So what happened Cider? Did you report and if so what were the consequences?

patienceisvirtuous · 14/06/2014 00:29

Good for you.

She will probably delete you now then continue being a cunt.

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