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To report her?

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CiderLover · 03/06/2014 17:12

There's a girl on my Facebook who is dating my friend.

Anyway, she works in a Travel Agents in our City.

She has posted a photo of an elderly gentleman in her shop looking at a brochure, can't wuite see what the brochure is but she is taking the piss, saying he is "reliving his youth". There are several piss take comments below it. If this was my dad or grandad i'd go fucking nuclear.

What do you think? Should I write an anonymous email or just keepy nosey face out of it?

The photo shows his entire face btw. Would you be annoyed if it was you or a relative?

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slithytove · 04/06/2014 16:42

I would report.

Send a letter with print outs saying how unprofessional you find it, its put you off using them cos of the privacy breach, and why do their staff spend their days doing this.

I doubt it's gross misconduct so she won't get sacked unless she has had previous warnings.

I hate this ethic that it's the one reporting who is damaging someone's job, nothing to do with the bad thing that person did to begin with.

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CiderLover · 04/06/2014 16:43

This is from the company website

"Privacy Policy for

If you require any more information or have any questions about our privacy policy, please feel free to contact us by email at ***@hotmail.co.uk.

At www..co.uk we consider the privacy of our visitors to be extremely important . This privacy policy document describes in detail the types of personal information is collected and recorded by www.*.co.uk and how we use it.

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PiggyontheRailway · 04/06/2014 16:46

CiderLover I can undertand why you would want to report her but if you feel like she is completely in the wrong be upfront and tell what you have done and why, otherwise thats a bit of a bitch move.

slithytove · 04/06/2014 16:46

So create a non identifying email address, copy the link and print screen, and ask for a response about their dealing with the situation.

If you want to know how public it is, sign out of FB and search her page.

BeyondTheLimitsOfAcceptability · 04/06/2014 16:47

I'd report it to her boss. If she loses her job "in this climate" maybe someone who deserves it will get it.

BeyondTheLimitsOfAcceptability · 04/06/2014 16:49

It likely will be a gross misconduct immediate sacking offense. It will be clear from the photo which shop it is, and pretty much all contracts have a clause about "bringing company name into disrepute".

SinisterBuggyMonth · 04/06/2014 16:50

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BeyondTheLimitsOfAcceptability · 04/06/2014 16:52

Cider, send me the link, I'll see if i can see it first, if i can, i'll screenshot and complain for you. I wont make it go viral or anything. No way she can trace it back to you then.

CornChips · 04/06/2014 16:55

That is a good idea Beyond.

ajandjjmum · 04/06/2014 16:56

Not a very well established company if it uses a hotmail address.

Theodorous · 04/06/2014 16:56

Screenshot it and send it to the local paper. Let the mans family deal with her.

SmiteYouWithThunderbolts · 04/06/2014 17:01

The last company I worked for had very strict policies regarding employees' conduct on social media, and one woman was sacked for posting a status update on Facebook complaining about our manager (there was a wider context of bad behaviour on her part, but that was the final straw).

At that company, what this woman has done would be considered gross misconduct and she would be sacked. I would report her myself, but I have pretty much no tolerance for people being spiteful and humiliating others over the internet.

Take a screenshot and email it to her employer. I would.

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CiderLover · 04/06/2014 17:04

Just logged in from girlfriends account (she is not on her friends list) and you can see everything and includes an option to share it

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CSIJanner · 04/06/2014 17:11

Now you just know that a whole load of vipers will offer to share now don't you.... Grin

BeyondTheLimitsOfAcceptability · 04/06/2014 17:11

I know how tempting it must be to share it and have her tried by the public, but thats not fair on the man involved - you'd be sharing his image without his permission, with her idiotic comment on it, and thats not that much better than her doing it in the first place.

Puzzledandpissedoff · 04/06/2014 17:13

Just logged in from girlfriends account (she is not on her friends list) and you can see everything and includes an option to share it

Oh dear god - has she got ANY judgement? I mean any at all??

I said earlier that the problem shows a certain attitude of mind, and this is exactly the sort of thing I meant. That's her own affair up to a point, but not when it affects innocent members of the public

BeyondTheLimitsOfAcceptability · 04/06/2014 17:13

Imagine how awful it would be for him to know that the idea of him looking at holiday brochures was apparently so ridiculous that someone took a photo of him and shared it on the internet :(

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CiderLover · 04/06/2014 17:13

I wouldn't share it, no way.

I just have a bad feeling about it. I think I will create a new fb profile and make out its a relative. Although not sure how I explain I found it

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CSIJanner · 04/06/2014 17:15

Don't bother making a new profile. You now know that her profile isn't locked down. Report it.

slithytove · 04/06/2014 17:18

I really wouldn't play detective and complicate things. Just report and leave it to them.

TreadSoftlyOnMyDreams · 04/06/2014 17:26

Have the courage of your convictions and complain in person/in writing using your actual name.
If you are not prepared to do that, I seriously doubt it's the elderly man's welfare that you have in mind.
No HR department would ever give out the name of the person who made the complaint unless it ended up in court. Since it is publicly available that would hardly be necessary.

chocchips · 04/06/2014 17:29

How mean, report her.
A while back I nearly reported somebody who uploaded a picture on facebook of a customers receipt with said customers name and address on it so he could take the piss out of his name, and it had a string of comments everyone making fun of this poor mans name.

I was too wimpy to report him though, good luck x

PrincessBabyCat · 04/06/2014 17:30

Just admit you don't like her. Report if you want, but don't act like you're doing it out of moral principle for an old man. She was stupid and did something she shouldn't have, and you're taking of that. Not saying you're wrong, I think most people would call someone they didn't like on their bullshit. But let's just call it what it is.

BeyondTheLimitsOfAcceptability · 04/06/2014 17:32

You can have moral principles and not like someone, it doesnt have to be one or the other.

ManchesterAunt · 04/06/2014 18:09

Just email the screenshot to the company. See if they have a local branch email address and send it to corporate as well. It will get dealt with.

Personally I have no back bone and would do it anonymously.

Don't bother with the fake profile - you wont have any friends apart from "her". It'll just look crap.

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