To report her?

[CiderLover]

There's a girl on my Facebook who is dating my friend.

Anyway, she works in a Travel Agents in our City.

She has posted a photo of an elderly gentleman in her shop looking at a brochure, can't wuite see what the brochure is but she is taking the piss, saying he is "reliving his youth". There are several piss take comments below it. If this was my dad or grandad i'd go fucking nuclear.

What do you think? Should I write an anonymous email or just keepy nosey face out of it?

The photo shows his entire face btw. Would you be annoyed if it was you or a relative?

Can you see if it's visible to everyone like Fatalcabbage said?

Chances are if she's got work colleagues on there she's already risking her neck quite happily.

coffee, I do see where you're coming from, but it's an awful thing to do generally never mind to someone who you're meant to have a professional connection to.

She's an adult whose made the effort to take a photo of a customer on her personal phone, then post it on the internet inviting people to take the piss. In all honesty I think she deserves to lose her job, if op doesn't grass her up and her employer never finds out then that's because she's lucky, not because she deserves another chance.

Imagine strolling into your local thompsons then coming across a group of people taking the mick and hoping your looking at Norwegian breaks and not Spain so others won't see you in a bikini (of course you may look like Cindy Crawford, but you see my point ), you'd be mortified surely?

That's nasty. Of her.

My dad died 3 years ago. Holidays brought him so much pleasure how could anyone find that funny?

I would message her and tell her it's nasty.

YANBU however I'd leave it. The fact her work are on her Facebook is enough.

Definitely say it's your friends Grandad or something. Screenshot first!

We've had sackings where people have put something negative about work even when set to friends only. I'd report as a life long retail worker that's shitty and not the done thing

Disgusting thing to do. Yes, I do think you should take a screen shot and report her. I would not want anyone I know to be a victim of that kind of behaviour.

Yanbu, how nasty

Are you going to tell your friend if you do?

I would report it but be careful if doing it on Facebook. I reported a post that I thought was bullying the other day but accidentally reported it to the group admin who was the person who had written the post in the first place. Genuine witch hunt began and I was expecting people to turn up at my house with pitch forks! I think an email to the Travel Agents is your best bet. Let us know what you decide

That is a horrible crappy thing to do.

I don't like the thought of someone losing their job. But I think I hate the nastiness of this more.

Please report her for the sake of your conscience.

ICanSeeTheSun It's irrelevant even if he was planning on reliving his youth and/or doing something mad like driving a Harley around Columbia wearing a green leather catsuit.

He's in the travel agents to use their services without being judged and laughed at. She's clearly a cunt.

I just think this is really rather nasty. At the very least she needs a stern word from her boss about it.

She'll probably get sacked if you report her.. I wouldn't blame you if you do but make sure if your motives. It may not make you feel very good inside.

I hate it when people take photos of unsuspecting members of the public and publicly shame them on social media.

I would just leave a factual comment, something like, "I don't think it's appropriate to disparage your clients, it doesn't show you in a good light." I think she'll turn nasty if you do, but at least you've aired your opinion.

That is outrageous behaviour on her part. But does she deserve to lose her job over it, especially when they are hard to get these days? It would be a very harsh punishment.

I would explain why it's offensive on a private message, and ask her to take it down, but say that you're not going to take it further at this point (leaving the future warning hanging in the air).

Screen shot of the post (on her page, not yours) stick it in the post 'private & confidential: attention Manager / HR'.
She's put it out there in the public domain. I guess her bad.

Agree with sunshine. Sounds like you reporting her will be for your own reasons and not the good intentions you are fooling yourself with.

I would report the woman (not girl).

My friend works for a company who sacked an employer for doing something similar on buses, so it happens and happens regularly judging by what I've heard. It can be deemed as bringing a company into disrepute depending on the company involved and the policies they have.

Would I report it? Probably - although I agree with the poster that said it's a job and possibly livelihood; we've all done silly things. I guess it's a conscience thing - if she's always doing stupid stuff like that, then I wouldn't have too many qualms about anonymously tipping a company off.

Screen shot and send it to her office. Don't give her the opportunity to just delete it and play dumb. She's a bully and she'll learn.

We all make silly mistakes, but I'm afraid that's more about an attitude of mind - it's hard to understand how anyone could think it's funny to be so cruel

I wouldn't normally say this but I'm afraid that yes, I'd report her and let her take her chances with the boss

Well, she sounds like an absolute knob, personally I wouldn't give a crap about her livelihood as hopefully someone thoroughly more decent and deserving of the job would be able to fill it.

I would however, not be able to resist commenting something like "that's my friends Dad, what horrible comments" just to shit her up a bit.

Tough call.

About losing her job ... it's quite rightly hard to just dismiss staff, so if this is a one-off silly mistake she'll probably get a roasting and nothing more

Of course if it's part of a pattern things could be much worse, but then that will hardly be OP's fault, will it?