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To report her?

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CiderLover · 03/06/2014 17:12

There's a girl on my Facebook who is dating my friend.

Anyway, she works in a Travel Agents in our City.

She has posted a photo of an elderly gentleman in her shop looking at a brochure, can't wuite see what the brochure is but she is taking the piss, saying he is "reliving his youth". There are several piss take comments below it. If this was my dad or grandad i'd go fucking nuclear.

What do you think? Should I write an anonymous email or just keepy nosey face out of it?

The photo shows his entire face btw. Would you be annoyed if it was you or a relative?

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Smartiepants79 · 03/06/2014 20:25

Taking the piss out of elderly people is about as low as it gets.
It is crass and cruel.
Also very short sited. We will all be old one day (we hope).
I would report her. Horrible specimen.

Runesigil · 03/06/2014 20:54

When you take the screenshot, make sure that's the only window or tab you have open, otherwise there's info on your toolbar(s) that could identify you.

Tryharder · 03/06/2014 21:01

I don't understand how an elderly man looking at a holiday brochure could be viewed as something to take the piss out of! I work at an airport and most people who go on holiday seem to be elderly!

I would either post a comment voicing your disapproval or have a word with her. I absolutely wouldn't report her to her company because I wouldn't want to be the cause of someone getting sacked which potentially could ruin their life.

CornChips · 03/06/2014 21:09

TBH I would probably report or send to her workplace. Because I feel it is horrid for some stupid little immature girl to laugh at an older person who is all excited about his holiday.

MostWicked · 03/06/2014 22:40

I absolutely wouldn't report her to her company because I wouldn't want to be the cause of someone getting sacked which potentially could ruin their life

She would be the cause of her own sacking and I wouldn't stand by and do nothing, while she felt it appropriate to behave in a way that bullies vulnerable people.

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CiderLover · 04/06/2014 10:29

What the heck has it got to do with you?
You sound like a nasty little shit stirrer

Really? So if you went into Boots and were browsing the make up section, then the following day you saw a picture of yourself on a social media site with the caption "looks like you need it luv" or something similar, you wouldn't mind?

I think it's disgusting and it's somebodys dad. Highly unprofessional.

What a stupid comment!

If I was a shit stirrer then I wouldn't have thought twice about reporting her would I?

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sunshinecity17 · 04/06/2014 13:30

you went into Boots and were browsing the make up section, then the following day you saw a picture of yourself on a social media site with the caption "looks like you need it luv" or something similar, you wouldn't mind*

But that's a different situation- yo don't even know the man it has fuck all to do with you!
.And you say this is a girlfriend of one of your friends . God who needs enemies with friends like you!

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CiderLover · 04/06/2014 15:03

Why is it relevant whether I know the man or not?

If you witnessed a crime would you not report it because it was against someone you don't know?

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wannaBe · 04/06/2014 15:17

I detest the taking of pictures of unsuspecting members of the public and then sharing them in any context (will start a thread shortly I think) but taking a picture of a customer is particularly bad and if she loses her job because of it then she has no-one else to blame but herself.

YoureBeingASillyBilly · 04/06/2014 15:18

I would screenshot and send to her manager. She needs a bollocking for it at the very least.

As for what has it got to do with OP? Well it could have been anyone of us that this happened to, it just happened to be this man. Nasty attitudes like hers need to be told that they arent welcome.

TwinkleTwinkleStarlight · 04/06/2014 15:26

What the heck has it got to do with you?
You sound like a nasty little shit stirrer

Wow what a nice attitude.

It is certainly NOT ok to take secretive pictures of people at your place of work, post them on social media and then ridicule them.

As others have said I too have seen people sacked for this type of behaviour.

Maryz · 04/06/2014 15:30

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CiderLover · 04/06/2014 15:33

Oh she isn't trustworthy. She booked a holiday on the company debit card in secret then they both paid it back over the months without the manager ever finding out.

I know it would cause a massive ruck if I say something to her but am atruggling to bite my lip. May wait until I see her in person. Have screenshotted btw

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TwinkleTwinkleStarlight · 04/06/2014 15:36

Oh she isn't trustworthy. She booked a holiday on the company debit card in secret then they both paid it back over the months without the manager ever finding out

With this extra information I would certainly report it. What will her next 'little trick' be

Theodorous · 04/06/2014 15:37

My dad has alzeimers but still goes out and that could easily have been him. I would want to kill anyone who did that to him, he suffers enough abuse just walking around and most days gets something nicked. What a vile bastard piece of shit.

KoalaDownUnder · 04/06/2014 15:41

I'd screen-shot it and email it to her manager, too.

If she's that much of a bitch, she deserves a bollocking. That's how people learn to pull their heads in and not be so unprofessional/cruel.

GreenShadow · 04/06/2014 15:46

Personally I don't understand why writing 'Reliving his youth' is particularly insulting (the make-up example was however) but of course she shouldn't be posting photos of strangers.
I wouldn't however report her without giving her a warning to remove it first.

Theodorous · 04/06/2014 15:49

If that picture popped up and it was my father I can honestly say I would do all I could to fuck up their life. Have you any idea how vulnerable people are anyway, British society has no respect for the elderly at the best of times so poking fun at someone who is unaware is as bad as taking those vile pictures of women eating in public in my opinion.

Maryz · 04/06/2014 15:49

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YoureBeingASillyBilly · 04/06/2014 15:50

Well i'm assuming he was looking at a holiday brochure so her comments seems to imply that holidays arent for older people which is a bit insulting. Maybe not to him specifically but to older people in general.

Vivacia · 04/06/2014 16:02

Have you decided what you're going to do OP?

JockTamsonsBairns · 04/06/2014 16:23

I work with elderly people, and I'm finding the actions of this person really quite upsetting. How has it come to be that elderly people cannot look into a holiday without being mocked on a social networking site? For heavens sake, we should be celebrating the fact that older people can still gain pleasure from life, spending their money in getting some enjoyment now that they've done their 'hard work years'. What on earth made her think this was something worthy of taking the piss in such a very public way?

I'm so not usually a vengeful person, but I really think you have a duty to report this person. I've no idea if she could lose her job, or just receive some sort of warning, but this idea that elderly people are fair game for ridicule really needs to be stopped.

I'm really upset by this Sad

CSIJanner · 04/06/2014 16:35

FFS - now shes stolen from the company and you're umming and ahhing? report her. At best, its a slap not he wrist. At the worst, her scamming the company and getting a holiday will come out and karma will bite her on bum. At least they paid it back as least but from what you're writing, she doesn't seem that nice a person.

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CiderLover · 04/06/2014 16:37

I know, I think I will send an anonymous letter to the company or is there some company or place higher up I could report it to? I really don't want her to find out it's me!

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KEGirlOnFire · 04/06/2014 16:40

OP - Definitely report

Sunshine - I thought I'd read it all on MN - jeez... what a lovely person you are!!! NOT