to wish children at school didn't bring sweets in for the whole class on the birthday

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Dn seams to always be coming home with sweets, I just think it should be up to the parents to decide on these things, I would be livid. Should the school ban this?

I send in butterfly buns for dd's birthday because she doesn't eat any sweets or chocolate (not sure they are any better than sweets anyway) I don't expect other parents to make buns on their child's birthday though and so dd doesn't have the sweets or chocolate that are sent in. It doesn't bother her or me in the slightest that twenty times a year treats are handed out that she doesn't get to share and it has been like that since she was 4 years old.

Seriously no I can't understand that Sirzy.

We are not talking about anything other than sweets here.

We are talking about school sanctioned sweet handing out at the end of the day.

Given the efforts by schools to work with health experts in trying to encourage better diets I don't think what I am expecting is at all unreasonable.

Ok then Chipped so no answer to that one or the one on the same post?

A good diet is a balanced one, where nothing is bad. It is GOOD that schools are giving the message that sometimes having something sweet is fine. Its a nice thing, not something to do every day but occasionally its fine and won't cause any problems.

insanity in some schools class sizes are maxed out (ours) and they work in classes with other year groups too (ours).

Give your children sweets from your bag when they get out of school.

It'll make, what, a few minutes difference to them.

Or you take the sweets off your child if you don't want them having them.

It'll make, what, a few minutes difference to them.

Yes same at dd's but not everyone sends in treats and those that do send for their child's main class so the class where the register is taken.
You'd hate dd's school I think because I bake for the staff room every week and occasionally for dd's class when they pester me enough. Her school don't seem to have a problem with children (and teachers) having homemade cake as a treat occasionally.

I don't collect my children from school.

Then tell whoever does

School transport.
Not their responsibility.

See its not all black and white for everyone.

Then tell your child not to eat them or to say no. Give teacher 4000 Moshi's instead.

It's not other parents responsibly either if your child takes something she shouldn't have

You could always teach your child to say no or to bring the sweets home with them for you to decide if they eat them. After all anyone who has a child with allergies has to.

But I'm guessing you'll find a reason why you can't possibly do this.

X cross post with Giles

Back to the exclusion thing.

Teacher says 'mum says you can't have them'.

They say 'why?'

Mates say 'why?'

Oh yes, look there's the kid with rotten teeth.

Why do you assume I haven't got a child with food allergies Chipped ?

Where have I said you don't have a child with food allergies?

Well you were pointing out what children with food allergies do which is an assumption that I don't know therefore haven't got experience of.

I do have a child with a food allergy as it goes.She knows she can't eat it, it doesn't bother her, and it hasn't been removed from the menu at school -and I have no problems with that.

Or teacher hands out rubber or whatever u gave teAcher to your dd and whole thing goes un noticed with no need to divulge anything

I made no such assumptions, I simply said what children with allergies have to do.

i suppose whateve

If you are worried about it being obvious that your child is excluded teach your child to refuse rather than them being denied. Dd is always offered the treat but refuses and no one ever comments because it doesn't cross their minds that she has refused for the last twenty times too.

So perhaps this explains it.

I have one child with a food allergy.While it has the potential to be life threatening it is only so,in this instance if eaten.It is a healthy food beneficial to a healthy diet.She feels no upset at saying no and avoiding it as its not a 'treat' food.Food allergies are quite common, its fully accepted and there is no stigma nor outward sign.I feel no need to ask for the food item to be removed from the menu.

My other child has dental problems.Not life threatening but distressing and painful.She is best avoiding sweets which have no benefit Iin a healthy diet.It is hard to say no to a treat food that many kids love.There is no health benefit to other children having sweets.Yet there are stigmas attached to children with bad teeth or weight problems because they're associated with bad choices and lack of discipline.I feel a need to ask for the food item not to be, not only available, but actually offered.

See the differences?

And now I am losing charge on my tablet and cooking tea.so off....!