to wish children at school didn't bring sweets in for the whole class on the birthday

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Dn seams to always be coming home with sweets, I just think it should be up to the parents to decide on these things, I would be livid. Should the school ban this?

Dd has a life threatening allergy to fish, every Friday the school serve fish. It's reasonable that I demand that dd is served food that hasn't been in contact with fish but it would be unreasonable for me to demand that no one eats fish in school. When you read what some parents need adjustments for don't you think yours sounds petty?

In your opinion it doesn't need adjusting Sirzy - in others it does.
The point of this thread, no?

You are the one who believes everyone in your school needs to change to meet your opinion.

Well That the answer is clearly no, as simply being in the presence of milk won't harm him, so enforcing a ban for his benefit would just be me being hysterical and precious.

After saying "no you're not allowed it" to a child isn't wrong.

insanity I am well aware of food allergies, thank you.

I would personally be quite happy for my child not to have fish in school if it was in your childs best interests, since fish isn't essential to their wellbeing during the schoolday.

We're not playing trying to trump each other and the loser is petty!

I am not the only one Sirzy,just one vigorously defending my corner on this thread!

Its not just my opinion, its for a reason.

Still everyone is going all out to attack my pov while deliberately evading my questions......

But that's YOUR reason and not something you can impose on others.

Where do we stop, DS has to sit out of things when his asthma is bad - should the whole class be stopped from doing the activities so he isn't excluded?

If a parent has a problem with children eating fruit because of the sugars in it should no children in the class be given their free bit of fruit?

By the time we have eliminated everything that one parent may have an issue with there wouldn't be much left!

Fwiw I don't think all Haribo are Halal.
Does anyone know?

But I would be petty if I demanded that no one ate fish because of dd's anaphylaxis when it can be managed by ensuring she doesn't eat fish. Much the same I think it's petty of you to demand a sweet ban of the whole school purely because you don't want your child eating sweets. Why isn't it reasonable of you to tell your child they can't have them even if others can?

Are you asking me to comment on policy on everything Sirzy ?

All cases are different and have differing levels of impact, clearly.

Any answers to my questions?????

With the allergy thing I think it is reasonable to ask that people don't bring foods containing an allergen in if it is an airborne reaction, if they reaction only occurs upon ingestion then in most cases there won't be a need for banning just for awareness and good levels of hygine (which should be present anyway of course!)

What were the questions? I must have missed them

What are your questions??????

I am asking you to comment on where the line is drawn when it comes to banning things based on the views of one parent? You could go on forever and it could make schools a pretty sterile, boring place!

I recall an inane question about not stopping things that might damage a child's health and handing out cigarettes.

But frankly if you need that question answering you're probably in need of more help than any thread can give.

I wrote two statements and asked what was wrong with them.

I've asked for compelling reasons why it is necessary for children to hand out sweets rather than treats after school.

I answered your question,Sirzy - my feeling is that it should be on a case by case basis.

School itself damages health. What with all the running about and falling over. The fire alarms that might give kids a head ache. The many other children who will be carrying all sorts.

Being told off might upset the kids. Being last in line night upset the kids. They might watch a DVD- too much screen time.

How about we just ban school as they get hayfever on the way anyway

Can you answer the question then Chipped ?

Yes or no?

Or would you rather just have a little pop at me?

ahh so those children whos parents can't say no, or explain things should make others miss out is that what your actually getting at?

I have read many people explaining reasons why its nice for children to hand them out. Im not repeating what has been said if you are seemingly ignoring the responses anyway.

I would say that if a parent decided to send in cigarettes for their child's birthday and unfeasibly they were handed out then I would tell dd she wasn't allowed them and that would be the end to it which is what I would suggest you tell your child when or if sweets are handed out.

Sirzy they can still hand stuff out.

Where have I said I'd object to that?

It's a lovely thing to do.

Ah Giles you're back.

Can you explain why you commented on me supposedly campaigning against everything thats enjoyable for children, as I didn't understand it.

Perhaps you could provide school a list of things you approve of then? and by the time every other parent has there may be one thing on the list if we are lucky.

Your problem is YOU don't want YOUR daughter to have them which is fine but you are expecting everyone else who is happy with things to change to accomodate that. Can you seriously not see how unreasonable that is?

I'm not having a pop, I honestly think it was a ridiculous question that added nothing to this debate. If you need to know what's wrong with a statement mentioning handing out cigarettes to nine year olds then you should start a new thread.

Because it's parents like you, complaining to schools that these things happen.

Teach your child to say no
Teach your child to be careful
Teach your child that others may say or do things that are naughty but that they should focus on how they behave etc.

Instead we get parents complaining and wanting entire schools banning things that everyone has happily said or done or eaten quite happily without incident for years.