to wish children at school didn't bring sweets in for the whole class on the birthday

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Dn seams to always be coming home with sweets, I just think it should be up to the parents to decide on these things, I would be livid. Should the school ban this?

First -as I said, some children are not collected by parents -like those on school transport.
Second -I do not need to list my childs problems to every other parent.I work on a certain expectation of a number of children in my childs school having a variety of issues including health and behaviour issues.If I was asked to stop providing a certain food that its easy to manage without, I would do so without questioning who the child was and what the reason is.
Third- it is perfectly obvious from my posts that I fully support bacon being excluded from the menu so stop being silly.
Four -I think a child with dietary needs be ause of an allergy is better accepted than a child who has rotten teeth (eg the opinion that its ok just to have a little bag, it won't matter).

I think its quite remarkable that suddenly I'm campaigning to take everything enjoyable away from children!

Could the basis for that comment be explained?

I think actually we should stop making provision for children who have any sort of health issues if it spoils the fun of other kids even momentarily.
After all its the majority who counts.

While we're at it, I think if parents want to hand out fags to other kids on their 9 year old birthday because he enjoys a crafty smoke, we shouldn't spoil his special day since just one fag won't hurt them.

Whats wrong with these two statements?

FFs. That is not the same thing and you must know that, surely....if not dear god

instead of campaigning to have everything remotely enjoyable to children picked apart and banned.

What a stupid comment. We are only talking about taking away junk food that has been shown to be harmful.

Yet another person with very low horizons who thinks junk food is one of the most enjoyable things in life.

If any other industry was doing as much damage as the to health as the junk food industry you certainly wouldn't get teacher distributing it to kids.

No 8 jelly sweets isn't going to kill you, but a puff on a fag won't kill you either.

J

Look, wonky enamel is a life sentance ( I've got it, as I said up-thread )

You have to learn to self regulate and say no to sweet stuff but still resign yoursely to the fact that, brush as much as you will, you're still probably going to have your own seat at the dentists. It's just one of those things ...

( Ducks nervously )

Well clearly its not the same thing but its the same concept.

If not, please explain why not.

Not necessarily a life sentence -it seems (crosses everything) that adult teeth can be much better!

Lacks what's the shrug for ?

What happened with my adult teeth was that I got holes where the flaws in the enamel were but once they were filled that was it - no more appeared. All my dental visits for years have been maintenance on the work I had done ages ago.

I think it's just the luck of the draw as to how damaged the later teeth are ... I really hope your daughter's adult teeth are nice and solid!

But your expecting provisions made purely to avoid you being the bad guy or teaching your child to say no thank you. And without making any effort to solve the problem. Preferring simply to rant about other parents and teachers daring to do something they felt was just a nice thing to do and playing the victim. Simply tell the teacher she can't have them and provide something she can. Problem solved

Thank you Used

You are ignoring the points I have made exhaustively about being inclusive and the questions Ive asked in response to your points Giles.

OP didnt you start another thread a week or so ago claiming you wanted more benefits for "being a graduate" or something like that think you need help either that or you're so bored sat at home on benefits you like to heckle people.

I think you are making me the focus of all of the loss of freedoms in childhood Giles and that is a tad unfair

Also OP quick search all your post seem to begin with "To think" and are then followed by something controversial you most definitely wrote to provoke people. sad lives some people lead.

livid OP. Really?

my DS doesn't eat sweets [smug]

But don;t plan too far ahead OP if you don;t have children, it might be a waste of energy as some schools don;t allow sweets to be given out and I have never yet given DS sweets to take in for his birthday.

Thatbloodywoman I know all about inclusion having two with autism and as far as I can see being inclusive doesn't mean altering everything to suit one person, more making reasonable adjustments so that the person with extra needs isn't disadvantaged. So if you don't wish your child to have sweets a reasonable adjustment would be for your child not to be offered sweets when the rest of the class is, it wouldn't be reasonable for you to demand that 29 others go without to suit your preference.

It would be an unreasonable adjustment if I was saying the other children had to go without water.

Asking them to not bring in sweets to hand out, not so unreasonable I think.

And things are altered to accomodate others in lots of reasonable ways, as they should be.

Following insanity's comments as my Ds was once intolerant to cows milk should I have asked his school to ensure that no one else was allowed it?

I don't know Chipped.
Should you?

And some things don't need adjusting. This being one of them.

Most children with a reason they can't partake find an alternative way around it, be that parents giving the teacher a safe alternative or the child learning that they can't eat things others can and that is fine.