to wish children at school didn't bring sweets in for the whole class on the birthday

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Dn seams to always be coming home with sweets, I just think it should be up to the parents to decide on these things, I would be livid. Should the school ban this?

I really dislike how many sweets other people give my kids. It's not the 'treat' I'd choose for myself so why would I want my kids to eat something so trashy? I have no problems with them eating e.g. a piece of birthday cake but fucking haribo? Yuck!

Raisins might stick to your teeth longer than chocolate but they do have nutritional value and count as one of your five a day so are a useful part of your diet, sweets are just junk.

And vice versa Giles, you think your child should come before the others. There's a simple answer - just tell the teacher your child shouldn't get any sweets.

Oops, sorry, meant That not Giles

It's great that a thread has spurned you in to action That I find they mostly turn me to gin

I honestly don't believe it is a complete disregard for your child, most parents just see it as a nice thing to do on their child's birthday.

I see that you are looking out for your child's best interests but you can only control their environment so much. Sometimes you need to put the boundaries there for yours as you cannot expect everyone to have the same as you.
Educate your child in the dangers of sugar sweets and provide them with an alternative if you feel they would be left out.

I can't believe that no one has pointed out the obvious haribo are like their name horrible . A treat.... really?

Have you read thd thread John? -because thats been addressed.

My child doesn't have bacon at school for reasons of inclusion of children who don't eat it for religious reasons.

I would like my child to not be excluded for unecessary reasons.

Funny please don't tell me how to bring up my child, and I won't tell you how to bring your child up.

As I have said, everyone can make their own choices wrt sweets and their child. Just don't put my child and others in the position of exclusion by having to opt out.

Our school has banned it as it is a "Healthy School". Shame though, it's nice to share on your birthday.

Very good point That was the bacon removed because of one child's religion or because a number of children follow the same religious belief?

I'm a teacher. I used to bring in a tin of like, Roses or something for the little horrors treasures on the last day, but now I'd be afraid to, tbh. I think it's a bit of a shame.

Where have I told you how to bring up your child?

I said educate them in the dangers of sugary sweets. Not here's a step by step guide on bringing up your child

I really feel sorry for kids these days. We have had people on here threaten to complain to councils about ie cream vans at the park.

People judge about fruit shoots being drink at parties and at soft play.

They can't watch anything on tv as it's apparently offensive or they are paranoid that half an hour after school hinders their development.

Any fun or food consumed at a play date is scrutinised.

No ones allowed to leave their parents sight for a second, not even to walk two doors down to call for a friend.

Now people complain about the odd bag of sweets at school.

Let's all just suck the joy out of everything kids used to enjoy shall we. Because it's far more fun to pick apart absolutely everything than let kids loose for a bit.

Sure they will all be frickin delighted sat at home in silence doing homework all evening and tucking into kale soup.

Let kids be kids. That involves a few sweets big bloody deal.

Maybe if they were allowed out to climb a tree or catch minnow or cycle round the village or go to the local park or something then you wouldn't be so paranoid about a lolly.

But instead people are so afraid to say no to their child when walking past a shop, or there may be a dog within fifty feet or they might buy something while they are there they get stuck inside with educational apps only on an iPad.

A tiny minority Funny as far as I know, but I've not looked into it as I'vd taken it on board without having to stand my corner that my child should be able to have it since we don't follow that particular observance....

That, yes - I have read the thread....all 18 pages of it. If there were a significant number of kids in your DCs position then you might have a point. But that's not the case. You want to change the rules of the entire school for the benefit of your DC. That's unfair and unreasonable. I'm afraid if you feel so strongly that the odd pack of Haribo or a fun size Milky Way will cause irreparable damage to your DCs health then that's your issue to sort out.

You make an awful lot of assumptions Giles.

G'wan tell me.When's the last time one of your dc's caught a minnow?

Well fuck me and my child then eh John ?

And the others in similar positions.

In fact, fuck all minorities eh?

My dd received Christmas cards one year from her teacher at the time with a candy cane stuck to it.

I thought that was a really lovely touch!! People are just trying to be nice fir heavens sake.

Last year. Well TAd poles. This year is lady birds

My bad, yes they caught a little fish last year!!

If you believe strongly enough then you should question it.

I am not saying you are wrong to want the sweets banned but I don't believe the way you are going about it is the right way.
You say that you do not want my preference for giving birthday sweets to be forced upon your child and I agree with you. However I do not wish to have your preference of no birthday sweets forced upon my child.
Given that there are (for example) 28 other parents views to be taken in to account the way forward imo is a vote with a majority ruling.

Yes it may not go your way but then you will need to put your choice in place with your child. It may not go my way which means I will need to seek out an alternative.
The only person excluding your child would be you. If you provided an alternative as many parents appear to do for various reasons then there is no exclusion just difference and being different is never a bad thing.

Excellent Giles.
Mine too.There's a little stream very close where they root around for crayfish and tiddlers.

That's when I'm not busy being joyless, of course.

That, don't you dare put those disgusting words in my mouth. It's clearly unfair for the needs of one to dictate the treatment of all when there's a very straightforward solution to the "problem". If you can't see that you are seriously blinkered.

Tell an overweight child who's being bullied that difference is no bad thing though Funny

There's a straightforward solution to many things John,but its not necessarily the caring or thoughtful one.

Being overweight is not down to a packet of Haribo once a week. It is down to poor diet, un-educated (food wise) parents and lack of exercise.

You must be able to see that.

If a child is being bullied then that is a bigger issue than a packet of sweets.