to wish that people would stop assuming I'm a feminist just because I'm female?

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Does this happen to other people? It's beginning to annoy me.

Barack asked me to be his right hand woman only last week

I said "No! Barack! Back off!"

OP, are you seriously suggesting men are barred from feminist events? Because in my experience supportive men are welcomed with open arms, and even unsupportive men are allowed in in the hope that they might learn something.

I see your point, but I disagree - there are plenty of male spaces about, if only by default. if things were equal, well, things would be equal wouldn't they? iyswim. Women's spaces are useful to talk about things that don't get discussed in male only spaces. Or maybe they are discussed - how would we know? - just not solved

Yes, I'd quite like equality. Along with much of the rest of the population. It's something I think about occasionally, but I don't devote time or energy to fighting for it. I prioritise other things. So I don't feel I deserve to say that I'm desperate for equality or that it's more important than anything else.

Is your name the same as a well-known feminist perhaps? Is your twitter handle @andreadworkin? @amandapalmer?

The vast majority of feminist events are mixed. If you don't want to go to the small number of women-only events, don't go.

If you're still unsure, ask a man to decide for you.

I had to let Barack down quite firmly as Michele was getting a bit antsy about our relationship.

Urgh! Makes me sick when people invite me events and ask me to speak about my opinions on things. Why are they doing this to me!?

But Mrsjayy, there are no men only spaces, where only men can talk to other men, so it's not FAIR!

Oh, sorry, I forgot. There are lots of them. But I'm sure there must be some reason why it's not fair. I'm sure the OP could tell me.

I have no idea who they are, Fram. Honestly.

Whats equally annoying are feminists who insist you have to be one of them if you believe in equal rights, so they can pretend to have wider support for some of the more dubious parts of their agenda.

You get invited to speak at feminist events even though you have consistently said you are anti-feminist (whatever that is)

You are asked to speak at events

Why?

In what parallel universe to mine does that happen in?

I am genuinely curious

LOL mrsborat. please expand

but you must have some area of expertise that is of particular relevance if you're being asked to speak?

To amn "ins" but my question stands.

What exactly, OP do they ask you to speak on? And why?

Serious questions for a serious OP

Rad feminism is not an accurate representation of feminism, it's an extreme end of it. It's like saying Westboro is representative of Christianity, when it's not.

That said, while I agree with feminism, it is not an active cause of mine that I feel the need to donate money or time towards.

No, coldlight I must not have phrased that well. I think I deserve equality, I just don't think I deserve to say that I'm desperate for equality as I don't put the time or effort into the 'cause'.

Do you manufacture dungarees?

I am JOKING, ok

But all-women events are different to feminist events. Race For Life is all-women but not some kind of feminist propaganda event

No it's nothing like that PrincessBabyCat. Comparing radical feminist to that shower of shites in Westboro is pretty off. Though there is plenty to disagree with, of course.

Sorry, I wasn't clear - I meant that an all-women event isn't necessarily a feminist event. I've been to loads of all-women, non-feminist church events for example. And women's shelters are all-women obviously, but not for feminist reasons but for safety.

theBogQueen that head tilt was adorable you know I'm joking too

So OP, do enlighten us as to why you get asked to speak at events of any kind as you are clearly delusional

I'm intrigued as to the more dubious parts of my agenda. Please do elaborate mrsborat.