School problem or pushy parent problem? You decide...

[Isityouorme58]

So my dd is good on the piano.
There is 1 whole school concert per year.
Last year a parent complained that it was unfair on the other dc as my dd was too advanced.

The schools response to this was to attempt to drop my dd from the programme, thus stopping her from the only concert opportunity the school provides

Needless to say I went to see the head who I asked...

Who's in charge here you or pushy parents?
How do I explain to my dd that hard work and extra effort on her part doesn't reward?
How can I trust you to be fair?
Do I have to be in here every week like others?

My dd did play in the concert & the school did provide her with a couple of other opportunities for her to showcase her talents, which I appreciated.

Now here's the problem,

My dd is limited to no more than 1min 30 seconds every concert as are everyone else.. Several dont follow this rule & really do what they want.
I haven't complained about this, but have always followed the rules.

However my dd informed me that there was a musical assembly this morning that was news to us & not in the schedule or newsletter.
Several dc in her yr group played piano & one dc played no less tha 5 seperate violin pieces.

I am fucking raging at the unfairness.
I have been considering changing my dd school all year & tonight I've filled in the paperwork for notification.

Am I insane & seriously overreacting?

Thank you for everyones responses.

I had a conversation with dc's music teacher that was quite helpful.

A poster further up questioned whether i took pride on being a good parent and seen my dc's accomplishments as validation of this.

I have to be honest and say, Yes this is somewhat true.
I had a really shitty time with my eldest teenager and felt like i'd really been put through the wringer.
The joy and pride i get from all the good stuff is reaffirming and totally addictive.

I am of course human.

I've have looked into suggestions and have organised my dd to audition for a music school that will give her many other opportunities.
I am also exploring a wind instrument, such as the clarinet as an accompaniment to her piano to give her wider scope.

The music teacher has invited dd to join the chamber choir as a result of this debacle (created entirely by me), this is a bit to me as she has been trying out for it for 2 years to no avail.

Interesting timing, who else got in this way?

I really have at point needed to get a grip, thank you to everyone who offered it to me and helped me to gain perspective, my use of emotive language displays how unnecessary my reaction was.

I definitely need to let go of the incident last year as it clouding my judgement and causing me to view things in a negative manner.

to you all....until next time