AIBU to think this is a bit wtf ??

[motherofmonster]

Have had lunch with my friend today and was telling her that i had managed to get a week in the summer hols for me and ds at a caravan.
She asked how big it was (3 bed) and straight away launched into how it was too big for just the two of us and that wouldnt it be great if her and her 4dc came with us as we would have the spare room.
Now i know that this point it is not unreasonable, but quick as a flash she said how great it would be for the kids to have a holiday as she couldnt afford to take them.
I stupidly then said ' well it would work out cheaper if we split the cost i suppose and the kids would have fun ect' that was that.
Ive got home and she has sent me a text saying how she is gutted that she has been asked to pay as after all i have already booked and paid and it wouldnt cost me anything as after all there is room to spare, so she doesnt see what difference it will make her not paying, and that i am being very selfish.

Guess i was just a bit gobsmacked, so aibu?? just didnt see it coming to be honest. i suppose it wouldnt cost much more, just the extra bed linin ect.

YANBU.
Apart from that I am gobsmacked at her cheek. I'd be going back on my kind offer and say it was no longer available. Yikes!

YANBU! Do you want her to come? If you don't then definitely don't let come for free. If you don't mind and could do with the cash, stick to your offer. Otherwise tell her to piss off!

:-O!!!!! Buy her a tin of Brasso for her neck.

Yanbu. Until MN I never knew so many people were cheeky fuckers!

She wants a free holiday off you. She's being bloody rude! YANBU.

She is not such a great friend if she has to castigate you via text message. That's cowardly. She should have discussed it with you in person.

After all, as you say, there will bed linen to sort out. Food, days out, drinks, travelling to the caravan and back home ... who is paying for these things if she is skint? You??

For goodness sake, where does she get off assuming that just because you have paid for it she has an automatic right to freeload on you? To say nothing of the fact that what would have been a peaceful week for you and ds to have quality time together changes into something completely different with 5 other people crowded into what is still, I assume, a fairly small caravan.

Either just tell her to get lost completely or tell her you made a mistake, turns out it's one bedroom, what a sham.

An extra five people in a three bed?
She can piss off, cheeky mare.

Oh and don't let her come now even if she does pay. She will try and get money back and probably won't contribute towards food.

How about a reply along the lines of "You're right. I didn't think this through, and I think it would be better if we don't share this particular holiday. Do you have any ideas for other things the children could do together?"

Flipping heck, she's got some balls on her that's for sure! I'd be telling her that actually I don't think it'll work out after all and you'll stick to it being just you and your DS, thanks all the same.

Bet you anything is she came she wouldn't pay for 5/7ths of the food etc either.

She sounds desperate for a holiday.
if she came im guessing you'd be chief childcarer, cook and cleaner

That's unbelievably cheeky!!! YADNBU!

I would say you and the kids want to go on your own x

Just clocked the 4DC bit! Where the hell does she think everyone's going to sleep?

I'd tell her "let's pretend you didn't ask and forget all about this".

YAdefoNBU

What a freeloading cheeky bitch (i know shes your friend but still...), tell her straight, you dont get owt for nowt.

Maybe she can invite herself on someone elses holiday for free.....

Yanbu. What a cheek. I would say that unfortunately if she isn't paying then she can't come. I don't think you will get much bonding time with your DS anyway with 4 other children there.

YANBU, and even if you didn't mind her coming along three bedroom caravans aren't that massive so going from two adults to three adults and four children would actually be pretty cramped, though I suppose a lot would depend on the ages of the kids. I'd be surprised if it could comfortably accommodate seven for sleeping, eating, toilet, etc.

I am amazed at how many people are complete and utter cheeky fucks.

YANBU

Yanbu! She was cheeky to invite herself in the first place, but to expect you to pay for it as well is way beyond cheeky and extremely rude.
Plus, bedrooms in caravans are normaly tiny aren't they? They only sleep two and so you know what'll happen if she does come don't you. .. she'll want you and your ds to share a room so her and her kids have a bed each.

God, so cheeky, did this come from nowhere, or has she always been this grabby? She must know she's being rude.

She is one cheeky madam.
I would text her back and say that you have decided to downsize to a smaller caravan as she was right that you don't need all that space. So you have gone for a one bed but top spec instead. You don't have to downsize, but she doesn't need to know that.

Don't let her come, caravans are cramped, overcrowded ones would be miserable.

DO NOT under any circumstance even think of letting this person fuck up your holiday, which she will, even if she pays. She will not.

'You are right. I thought it over and decided I really need this holiday alone with DS. Definitely won't work to have anyone else along.'

COMPLETELY unreasonable for her to even suggest coming along, cheeky bitch.

Her ability to afford a holiday is not your problem.