Strange playground mum

[Everythingwillbeok]

There is a lady who I have over 3 years of my DD being at school chat to,and she has been to my house once for a drink and has given me a lift to the supermarket once too. So not overly close but I'm friendly with.

When our DDs were in reception she used to have a moan in the morning about my DDs hair styles ie, you're a bloody show off look at her hair today why can't you just do a simple ponytail like everyone else, I laughed it off but it made me feel uncomfy.Her DD and my DD get on ok so no problems there,then comments about the packed lunches started such as:oh for gods sake will you stop making pasta for your DDs packed lunch now my DD wants it what's wrong with sandwiches like everyone else and will you stop putting blueberries in your DDs lunch as my DD wants them now and I know she won't like them things like that all which I laughed off but in the past she has seemed genuinely narked.

My DDs tooth fell out on Tuesday so Wednesday morning so woke to find a £2 coin and a little note saying thanks for the tooth it's lovely and that you are a good girl for your mum keep it up....this is something I've always done even for my eldist DD who is 16.Well this morning I got a real telling off! She walked over to my in the playground and said I've got a bone to pick with you, what's all this about a tooth fairy letter? Why do you have do these things? Why can't you do the bare minimum like the rest of us! I said oh sorry( laughing ) its just something we've always done, well you're not funny she said,I'm not laughing I'm going to have to start this now seriously you're making my like fucking difficult!!

Please AIBU am I doing too much! Please advise as I'm getting a bit scared of her attitude now and is this normal?

You are just doing your thing. She has issues (or a peculiar sense of humour).

Tell her to go boil her head the miserable cow.

If you're honestly not a show off or trying to annoy her, then just avoid her. There are some weird people in this world.

Er... she sounds like a jealous bitch, and can't stand that you are the perfect mother!

Wow, that's awful! You poor thing!

Don't apologise to her, even in jest, that's giving her a way to blame you.

Tell her to cock off.

Freak.

Lol, wind her up and say "aw so sweet she said 2 it was actually a fiver"

She's the one with the problem, why should you change what you do to please her?

I always open these threads hoping its not about me :o

She is weird.

I think your tooth fairy letter is lovely. Dont change what you are doing because of the other mum. All people do things differently.

Thanks everyone I do like her but deep down I feel like she thinks I'm a show off.i know lots of other mums at this school and never encountered anything like this. She seemed quiet angry about the tooth fairy letter and kept saying : you're not funny, which was odd, like when I wrote it I was thinking this will piss off!!

If she starts on at you again, ask her if she is being serious as you really can't tell, and if she says she is then reply with a drawn out, ooookkkkay, and back off. Make it clear that you think SHE is the one with the problem.
YANBU, why should you change your parenting in order to make her life easier? Besides which, why does she have to do all these things just because you are? She sounds weird.

I know someone like this. If you don't shop where they shop, buy what they buy, eat what they eat, and do what they do you're a stuck up snob.
It helps them feel better about their shitty choices I suppose.
Ignore her, she sounds horrible.

Wow, how awful.

This is not normal and I would keep away from her from now on. If she tells you off again about anything, just say calmly that you don't like being told what to do by her and sidle away quietly.

weird woman

LittleMiss same here

I'd gently retreat from friendliness.

I'd be tempted to do stuff to piss her off

She sounds like an absolute loon. Avoid and/or ignore.

Stop apologising to her and tell her to fuck off and mind her own business the next time she approaches you with a rude comment. If she comes back a second time, put your hand up and say "I don't want to hear it, go lecture someone else" and carry on doing whatever you're doing.

From now on, blank her but be ready to tell her where to stick it.

She has ishoos I'm afraid. Avoid.

Do you know what..If she wants to do the bare minimum let her..thats her problem...

I don't do the bare minimum...Obviously your DC is enjoying these things which is why it is getting back to her via her child.

My DS wanted pasta for lunch after he saw someone else have it.I thought fabulous change from sandwhiches..Saves going to the shop for more bread at the end of the week.

She sounds a lazy parent who wants you to be the same so she can carry on been lazy.

ENormaSnob, sorry I had to laugh 'Cock off' I used to say this all the timer after watching 'Wish you were here' the film when I was younger...

So OP I digress... that is appalling behavior - avoid avoid avoid. What a very strange woman (by the way I am going to steal your 'Tooth Fairy Letter' idea for when DD loses her first tooth!!).

YANBU. She sounds completely off her rocker, though I do feel so sorry for her daughter.

Oh please. People like this drive me crazy. They are completely threatened by other peoples achievements. I have had similar comments from other mums down the years, Where DO you find the time? (Said in annoying voice) I soon gave them short shrift and avoided in future. In fairness I am a total sucker for all things daft and nonsense like when it comes to dc, lovely themed parties, crafts galore, homemade bits and bobs. We always go ott for halloween, christmas etc. But not for a single second does it occur to me to do any of these things to show anyone else up. I happen to love shit like that. Give me making an easter bonnet any day over housework. I most importantly love to make everything magical for my dc. I get that other people arent into that stuff but why get so defensive and attack someone elses efforts. Any mums that know me well have learnt to appreciate my talents and I am usually always on hand to help with everyone elses costumes, parties too now.
If she says it again just be incredibly serious and say, well you must not love your dd as much as I do

I think I as a bit harsh calling her strange she is nice and normal 90% of the time, it's just little digs she comes out with that sometimes I think " you don't like me". Many,many times over the years I've noticed some other mum doing things differently to me and thought " I like that " or " that's a good idea" and stole it!but I would never be annoyed that's what I find strange.Another example is I saw them in Asda and she noticed my DD had a small toy and said ffs why has she got that? I was like... Because she's been good all week and she said " you'll never have any money and your a soft arse"

But she does nice things for her DD too she went to Lapland in December and I said how nice that was and her DD was very lucky. Don't get why she gets irritated!