Strange playground mum

[Everythingwillbeok]

There is a lady who I have over 3 years of my DD being at school chat to,and she has been to my house once for a drink and has given me a lift to the supermarket once too. So not overly close but I'm friendly with.

When our DDs were in reception she used to have a moan in the morning about my DDs hair styles ie, you're a bloody show off look at her hair today why can't you just do a simple ponytail like everyone else, I laughed it off but it made me feel uncomfy.Her DD and my DD get on ok so no problems there,then comments about the packed lunches started such as:oh for gods sake will you stop making pasta for your DDs packed lunch now my DD wants it what's wrong with sandwiches like everyone else and will you stop putting blueberries in your DDs lunch as my DD wants them now and I know she won't like them things like that all which I laughed off but in the past she has seemed genuinely narked.

My DDs tooth fell out on Tuesday so Wednesday morning so woke to find a £2 coin and a little note saying thanks for the tooth it's lovely and that you are a good girl for your mum keep it up....this is something I've always done even for my eldist DD who is 16.Well this morning I got a real telling off! She walked over to my in the playground and said I've got a bone to pick with you, what's all this about a tooth fairy letter? Why do you have do these things? Why can't you do the bare minimum like the rest of us! I said oh sorry( laughing ) its just something we've always done, well you're not funny she said,I'm not laughing I'm going to have to start this now seriously you're making my like fucking difficult!!

Please AIBU am I doing too much! Please advise as I'm getting a bit scared of her attitude now and is this normal?

I would say "seriously? Well pull your finger out and do similar for your child then and butt out and stop worrying about what I am doing for mine!"

How bloody dare you put fruit in your childs lunchbox! !

Is this women for real? Does she do this with other parents or is it just you she feels she is competing with?

craaazy bitch!

Me and my friends joke with each other about this but it's a JOKE and this woman founds like a fruit loop.
Avoid!!

I think she's kidding. I must admit to groaning after hearing that the tooth fairy had written to my DD's class mates. I can actually imagine joking that you're showing me up. I wouldn't mean you should stop doing it really; it would actually be meant as a dig at my (relative) laziness. If she's normally nice put it down to a quirky sense of humour.

She wants to be like you, but she can't so she resorts to put downs to make herself feel better. Ignore her and avoid.

She sound jealous! She should absolutely keep her thoughts to herself though.

I know I know!! Blueberries too of all things !!!she may have been a bit more understanding if it were a banana!

I'm getting a good laugh here

No way Everythingwillbeok! if only I could make something like that!
It's a Japanese lunch (googled image!). It's a really big thing in Japan. My dd's friend used to bring in lunches like this at school and wow everyone.

I'd just continue to smile and take it all as a massive complement that she's so concerned about your parenting skills making hers look shit

I think she's just jealous. You carry on doing what you're doing! You sound lovely!
We've also had little notes from the Tooth Fairy! She always leaves DS £5 (got a few shocked looks for that one!).
Very lucky here, as every Christmas a little Christmas Elf will pop over on Christmas Eve and drop a very tiny note and present through the door. DS LOVES THIS!! We also this year had a visit from a MASSIVE Easter Bunny who dropped off the Easter Egg hunt, and then there's the Birthday Fairy (who DS always writes a birthday list to each year). I think he now realises that I am the Birthday Fairy! But he firmly believes in all the others. Why not! By the way... he's never seen the tiny elf or the massive bunny - they alway visit while he's out or asleep. But he believes they come and will chat about it for ages afterwards. Makes me happy!

She has got a weird sense of honour very dry, but she honestly was annoyed I could see it in her face, about the letter which made my laugh more and that's when I got the " you're not funny " comment

I'm obviously a little bit evil... as I would now be trying to think of things to wind her up even more. Sorry!

Surely she is just trying to be funny but it's coming out a bit wrong?

By the way what are you doing to your DD's hair?

What a weird women, it's not like pasta and a note from the tooth fairy is something she can't do or that will take hours.

I often add bits to make DD's lunch fun, like cutting her sandwiches into a nice shape (I got some special cutters off amazon) and sometimes there will be a theme, so like today she has butterfly sandwiches, ladybird biscuits (short bread with raisins for spots) and a caterpillar made of grapes, for snack I've stuck a label on her raisins saying squashed flies, no ones ever had a go at me for it, I've had a few mums ask me where I got a cookie cutter from and the TA frequently laughs at me but I've never had any nasty comments.

I like Lego's idea of a note from the cock off fairy.

Is her daughter whining at her to do the stuff you do then?
Does your daughter mention this stuff making the above likely??

Have never written a tooth fairy letter or given £2 for a tooth & hope to goodness I wouldn't feel I had to just because someone else had done it with their kid.

Certainly not to the extent of mentioning it!

If she says anything else tell her that you do what you want to with your daughter & that's that!

Maybe her daughter does moan about what others do / have , perhaps she getting annoyed with all that in which case tell your DD off not me!!

I couldn't care less what others do but think its lovely when children are well looked after and parents go out of their way to make their kids smile. My DD is a good kid, so kind and easy going so I do spoil her sometimes

Was her DD upset that she hadn't got a note perhaps and was feeling she had done something wrong? I hope it's just her sense of humour...

our tooth fairy is Bluebell, the DC know there are lots of tooth fairies though

I think you've found your answer - just say every time

"Well it's hardly Lapland"

What a weird person.

crispyFern nothing special really just a French plait or a scruffy bun. Sometimes a fishtail, usually just a pony though depends how much time I have

If you want to piss her off tell her "well it's hardly an effort!"

OMG yes........it's hardy Lapland I LOVE IT