Strange playground mum

[Everythingwillbeok]

There is a lady who I have over 3 years of my DD being at school chat to,and she has been to my house once for a drink and has given me a lift to the supermarket once too. So not overly close but I'm friendly with.

When our DDs were in reception she used to have a moan in the morning about my DDs hair styles ie, you're a bloody show off look at her hair today why can't you just do a simple ponytail like everyone else, I laughed it off but it made me feel uncomfy.Her DD and my DD get on ok so no problems there,then comments about the packed lunches started such as:oh for gods sake will you stop making pasta for your DDs packed lunch now my DD wants it what's wrong with sandwiches like everyone else and will you stop putting blueberries in your DDs lunch as my DD wants them now and I know she won't like them things like that all which I laughed off but in the past she has seemed genuinely narked.

My DDs tooth fell out on Tuesday so Wednesday morning so woke to find a £2 coin and a little note saying thanks for the tooth it's lovely and that you are a good girl for your mum keep it up....this is something I've always done even for my eldist DD who is 16.Well this morning I got a real telling off! She walked over to my in the playground and said I've got a bone to pick with you, what's all this about a tooth fairy letter? Why do you have do these things? Why can't you do the bare minimum like the rest of us! I said oh sorry( laughing ) its just something we've always done, well you're not funny she said,I'm not laughing I'm going to have to start this now seriously you're making my like fucking difficult!!

Please AIBU am I doing too much! Please advise as I'm getting a bit scared of her attitude now and is this normal?

I love that book, what gorgeous food that would really appeal to children probably more of something to try on a Saturday afternoon though

Would not have time for any of those in a morning!

Write her a letter from the "tooth fairy" telling her she is being very naughty and should cock off and leave EverythingDD's Mummy alone.

what does it look like after the jiggle to school though? How much are they smiling at the lunch table? those are the photos we really want to see

She's just weird and jealous by the sounds of things. I love your tooth fairy letter idea and am unashamedly going to steal the idea when I get to that stage with the LO.

What a total weirdo. When we were in France and DS's tooth came out and couldn't be located, DMiL and I sat down and painstakingly wrote a letter to the Fee de Dents, in somewhat rusty French, requesting a Euro on the strength of the obvious hole in his mouth. Get us, with our fancy fucking foreign languages. Your friend's head might have exploded with fury if she'd billeted herself at the next gite to us.

Excellent OldBag
made me laugh

Ha ha! OldBag

perhaps give the bento box lunchbox book to the DD's friend for next birthday?

Lmao. Seriously those photos are so funny.

'Friend' clearly has self esteem issues OP.

YANBU I have had lunch box related jibing over always giving DS salad and fruit. He likes it, why wouldn't I?

We have a seriously crap tooth fairy in our house though, older teens warned DS(7) of the fact when he first lost his teeth. It is a long running family joke of how negligent of her duties she is.

To be honest I think the poor cow is just a bit jaded after dealing with 4 kids.

She sounds completely jealous of your parenting skills!
Tell her to concentrate on her parenting and leave you alone.

Stick a tenner under dd's pillow next time, and get someone to dress up as the tooth fairy and pay her a personal visit.

Everything

if she talks to you again that way tell her to back the fuck off.
you can do whatever you want.

if she is a lazy git who does nothing lovely or caring for her kids that's not your problem.
she can explain to her kids that people do things differently.
she doesn't have to "keep up" with you, but her behaviour is borderline threatening so she needs to cut it out.

sheesh.

send her my way, I'll deal with her!

Aw thanks zing

BeCool that's funny you should suggest that it's actually her DDs birthday at the end of May the book would be a lovely addition to any child's library wink

even !!

How about

"Are you on glue?"

(Shamelessly stolen from TidyDancer's Glue-zilla saga)

Sorry to drip feed but I had completely forgotten about homework

That's another minefield too. I dread the moment she says " come on then let's see what masterpiece you've done this week"

It's actually my DD who does it, I do help and suggest ideas as they have a book where they have free reign to be creative as long as its within the set topic such as the solar system but everyone does that right?

You are not being unreasonable - she sounds totally weird and very threatened by your parenting style. You have a right to do exactly what you want with these things. Honestly!

If it wasn't the fact that you'd known her for so long, I'd say it was a mother who we have finally got peace from. She was rather like that!

She sounds absolutely delightful, It must be laugh a minute in that house.

Absolutely what zing said!

Thanks to everyone who has replied to my post.

I have never considered her to be bullying but perhaps it is.I must admit I do worry what she'll say next sometimes and I don't like pissing people off so keep a lot of things to myself because I feet she will think I'm bragging.

I woke my DD one morning last October and asked her if she would like to go to Disneyland Paris for a few days ( been planned months ) but I loved her face and the disbelief it was worth all the saving up and keeping quiet....all my friends and family thought this was lovely but I didn't say a word to her as she would have found something totally negative and sarcastic to say.