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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Strange playground mum

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Everythingwillbeok · 08/05/2014 12:10

There is a lady who I have over 3 years of my DD being at school chat to,and she has been to my house once for a drink and has given me a lift to the supermarket once too. So not overly close but I'm friendly with.

When our DDs were in reception she used to have a moan in the morning about my DDs hair styles ie, you're a bloody show off look at her hair today why can't you just do a simple ponytail like everyone else, I laughed it off but it made me feel uncomfy.Her DD and my DD get on ok so no problems there,then comments about the packed lunches started such as:oh for gods sake will you stop making pasta for your DDs packed lunch now my DD wants it what's wrong with sandwiches like everyone else and will you stop putting blueberries in your DDs lunch as my DD wants them now and I know she won't like them things like that all which I laughed off but in the past she has seemed genuinely narked.

My DDs tooth fell out on Tuesday so Wednesday morning so woke to find a £2 coin and a little note saying thanks for the tooth it's lovely and that you are a good girl for your mum keep it up....this is something I've always done even for my eldist DD who is 16.Well this morning I got a real telling off! She walked over to my in the playground and said I've got a bone to pick with you, what's all this about a tooth fairy letter? Why do you have do these things? Why can't you do the bare minimum like the rest of us! I said oh sorry( laughing ) its just something we've always done, well you're not funny she said,I'm not laughing I'm going to have to start this now seriously you're making my like fucking difficult!!

Please AIBU am I doing too much! Please advise as I'm getting a bit scared of her attitude now and is this normal?

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Angelto5 · 08/05/2014 12:54

We do letters frm the tooth fairy as well(her name is Mary)They r good ways of giving praise but also reinforcing the importance of brushing teeth.
This woman is obviously upset that u r making her look like a bad mom in her child's eyes-I have lot count of the times my kids have said so & so's mom does this.
Just carry on & ignore her. If she says hi just politely say hi bak but don't engage.
Reminds me of when my eldest started high school & he has wraps instead of sandwiches & then all his mates had them.lol never thought u could start a trend 4 lunch box food!!!

FryOneFatManic · 08/05/2014 12:54

She's definitely the one with the problem. I'd distance myself if I were you. She sounds really lazy as a parent.

I work full time, don't have a lot of time for little touches, etc, but still make an effort with my DCs so we definitely don't do the bare minimum.

I actually feel sorry for her DD.

aquashiv · 08/05/2014 12:55

Smile vacantly wave over her shoulder and walk away.

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Everythingwillbeok · 08/05/2014 12:56

Ha ha lego love the idea of a cock- off letter! Just feel like she is telling me off sometimes which is ridiculous I'm nearly 40!

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FryOneFatManic · 08/05/2014 12:57

She may have taken her DD to Lapland, but really, don't children remember the day to day stuff more?

Purpleroxy · 08/05/2014 12:57

I would ignore her. She has got some serious problems if she thinks it's ok to speak to you like that.

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Everythingwillbeok · 08/05/2014 12:59

Angelto5 ours is called Emelda! Been coming round our way years!
My DD makes her tiny clothes lol I have to laugh I've put them all away in a box

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momb · 08/05/2014 12:59

I think she's trying to compliment you but going about it the wrong way. (I'm a bit like this).

ChaosTrulyReigns · 08/05/2014 13:00

Could you up your game?

Handmade wild animal shaped bread rolls in the lunchbox?

Glittered tandem bike ride to school each day?

Collect yiur DD from school each Friday with a bouquet of flowers and a helium heart-shapd ballion?

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Everythingwillbeok · 08/05/2014 13:02

Yeah I think they remember little things to..I do I remember little things my mum did for me sadly she has passed away but I had a lovely childhood I know not everybody has the time or the inclination but that's not my fault

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HiImBarryScott · 08/05/2014 13:03

She does sound a bit extreme - like she wants to justify her own lazy parenting by belittling your efforts!

I got a bit of stick last year from some of the mums when I made a fancy dress costume for DS (most people have bought ones here), but it was all jolly pisstaking and not done in a nasty manner.

Just laugh it off with a breezy "oh well - everyone does things differently" and avoid her.

You sound like a lovely mum. And I am the worst tooth fairy in the world :(

MrsAlexVause · 08/05/2014 13:03

I would definitely start doing stuff to piss her off now

LEMmingaround · 08/05/2014 13:03

Is she quite well??

Aeroflotgirl · 08/05/2014 13:03

My goodness she is rude and awful. I would tell have as little to do with her as possible. Don't tell her everything, she sounds a nightmear

MadAsFish · 08/05/2014 13:03

She's quite peculiar. I'd avoid her.

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Everythingwillbeok · 08/05/2014 13:04

Chaos I'm laughing my head off! I love the suggestions seeing as its Friday tomorrow I'm well tempted to do the balloon thing!! And say " well it is weekend" when I see her

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Littledidsheknow · 08/05/2014 13:06

Do NOT apologise to this woman for your (wonderful)parenting. None of her chuffing business. Tell her you'll bring up your children as you see fit, just as she does. Be less polite than that, actually.

Pregnantberry · 08/05/2014 13:06

Just another person coming along to tell you that that woman is bat-shit crazy and you sound nice.

The idea of upping your game is funny but I would just avoid her as best as I could if I were you in future... Maybe tell her it's none of her business what you do in your house with your DC if she gets worse!

BigRedBall · 08/05/2014 13:07

Tomorrow, send your dd into school with something like this:

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Everythingwillbeok · 08/05/2014 13:09

The more I think about things she has done the more puzzled I am, I've never let it bother me to this extent before but it was the " you're making my life fucking difficult comment " that's upset me,

If I make her feel inadequate then why make a bee- line every day for me! And why turn up on the same campsite we were at last summer? Mmmm.

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TheReluctantCountess · 08/05/2014 13:09

Her comments say more about her than you.

greenfolder · 08/05/2014 13:10

i would actually just blank her completely and utterly.

carry on doing what you are doing. if she is witless enough not to be able to react to her kids and the fact that other kids do stuff differently that is not your fault.

there was a woman at my dds school who made her daughter a costume for book day- it was the hungry caterpillar that morphed into a butterfly at lunch. my reaction to my daughter was- you cant compete against that- you have the wrong mother! and i genuinely congratulated her on such a brilliant idea! they also had perfect hair.

piratecat · 08/05/2014 13:10

bloody hell, very strange.

Backtobedlam · 08/05/2014 13:11

She sounds like she's not quite right, and also ultra competitive. Just because you do something why does she have to? There's always going to be someone who can do/have something that her dd can't, it's just weird to copy and then moan about it. Definitely distance yourself from her as much as possible.

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Everythingwillbeok · 08/05/2014 13:11

BigRedBall that is amazing !!i couldn't bring myself to eat that is that one of your creations?

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