I don't want to fly, it scares me and wish DH would stop trying.

[ICanSeeTheSun]

I am sorry to post this here, but is DH right.

I have never been on a plane, don't wish to. The thought of it sends my heart into palpations.

I wish DH would just drop the subject of going abroad on holiday.

The uk have thousands of beautiful places, what is so special about abroad.

I think you know what is so special about abroad. You just don't want to admit to it because you're scared of flying.

But.... what's wrong with catching the train or driving around Europe if flying is so scary?

Your title made me laugh, it sounds like your dh is running in the garden flapping his wings.

Yes the UK is lovely. But your dh wants to go other places with you.

Are you happy to have have separate holidays do he can see places he wants to?

Have you considered trying to get help for your phobia? So you can go along with what others in your family want as well as you?

ICanSeeTheSun whilst I've got a lot of sympathy I think you are being a teensy bit U. You can have desensitisation courses to conquer a fear of flying - and limiting all your future travel to the UK does mean you'd both miss out on cultural experiences which could be wonderful.

Could you compromise and go on very long roadtrips? DH and I drove to Budapest and back a couple of years ago which was ace. Although I'd be very sorry never to visit Asia and the Americas. Has he travelled extensively already and therefore is willing to give it up?

Wouldn't care about getting a train, but DH wants to go to go on a plane.

I'm afraid of flying, but I try to overcome it. I don't blame your DH for wishing that he could experience more of the world.

But yes - you could get the train or drive to many many lovely places in Europe.

Are you prepared to let him visit far-flung locations without you, if you really won't get on a plane?

We both have never travelled, I did go to Amsterdam on coach once.

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YANBU if you won't even consider types of therapy or other means of travel.

I feel for you as it must be very scary and I know the fear is very real to you. But there are treatments, so I think it would be fairer to your DH to at least consider addressing the problem.

He can go any where in the world he want to, he can take the DC with him.

I would be prepared to go on a coach and meet them over the waters.

Well it seems that your DH has gone along with what you want for the past few years, maybe it is time that you went along with what he would like for once?

There is so much help available for you to help you be okay with flying, he cannot get help to experience foreign climbs unless he goes without you and he probably would like to share it with you?

If your phobia only affected you then I would say do (or don't do) whatever you want, but your DH is missing out on an experience with his DW- something so many couples do, because of your fear. Sorry but YABU.

Would you be happy to take something so you can relax more on the flight, or are you dead against the whole idea or flying ?

Oh and sorry, although I sympathise, I do think yabu.

I do feel guilty that I am holding him back.

You should go to the doctor, he gave my BIL tablets and now he flies everywhere.

I hate flying too, but it's so worth it.

Yabu, selfish as this impacts your DH. You seriously think that there's not much to see abroad? I think you should make the effort to address your phobia.

Don't mind taking tablets or getting help, didn't reraleased there was help for this.

I don't think you should feel guilty about holding him back, you have said you're happy for him to go without you.

I do think you should think about doing something about your phobia, not for your dp, but for you.

I think YABU not to seek help for your phobia.

I believe the airlines run a Flying With Confidence course..

www.britishairways.com/en-gb/information/special-assistance/flying-with-confidence

It is clearly important to your DH and it would be unreasonable not to at least see if you can conquer your fears.

ICan but now you do realise there is help so it's got to be worth a try?

It's not flying you should be afraid of OP, it's cr... Sorry being flippant.

Can you honestly say you would not like to go abroad if you could go somewhere without flying? Why not go somewhere by ferry and see how you feel after that.

Tablets aren't the answer, but I think you should get help to address your phobia.

Never fancied taking the kids to Disney in Florida? Cant coach there.

Im terrified to the point of nausea of pigeons. Id lick one if it meant a magical once in a lifetime experience for my child.

wowfudge that's just mean.

There are ferries to the Continent, and the Chunnel. It is possible to travel from London to Tokyo or Australia without ever setting foot in a plane.