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AIBU?

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Original poster

to think that if you drop a child off at their home you wait to see if they've got in the front door?

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ChaosTrulyReigns · 30/04/2014 20:20

It's only coutreoud isn't it?

Someone was due to drop off DD3 at 7.30pm, bit decided to come apporx 30 mins earlier.

And just dropped and drive off.

We were all in the back garden so couldn't hear the door bring knocked.

Ever the resourceful one, after knocking for a while, she climbed over the dude gate and joined us. To our looks of wtaf have you just come from?

Ffs.

Should I say anything or leave it? Im inclined to leave it btw as am quite non confrontational. But am saddened that she could've been hanging around on the drive fir 30mins.

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ChaosTrulyReigns · 30/04/2014 20:20

COURTEOUS

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LindyHemming · 30/04/2014 20:21

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Icantstopeatinglol · 30/04/2014 20:21

By saying 'Dd3' do you mean she is 3yrs old or your 3rd dd? Sorry just wanted to be sure.

Andrewofgg · 30/04/2014 20:21

Never rely on this person again for your DD's safety - and well done your DD!

ExitPursuedByABear · 30/04/2014 20:22

How old is she dude?

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ChaosTrulyReigns · 30/04/2014 20:22

Ach, missed that one Euphy. SIDE.

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littlewhitebag · 30/04/2014 20:22

How old is your DD?

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ChaosTrulyReigns · 30/04/2014 20:22

She's ten, man.

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ChaosTrulyReigns · 30/04/2014 20:23

Ooh, she's 11 now.

Yus, 3rd DD.

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ChaosTrulyReigns · 30/04/2014 20:24

I watch adult friends that I drop off, making aure they're in the door safely. But I am a perfect friend. Obvis. Wink

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wheresthelight · 30/04/2014 20:25

Because she is only 10 yanbu had she been in her teens I would have a different opinion

CurlsLDN · 30/04/2014 20:25

I'm 28 and taxi drivers still wait to make sure I get in the front door of my own building safely!

I remember my dad would always wait when we were dropping friends off. Perhaps if you don't want to speak to the other parent, you could encourage your dd3 to ask them to wait when dropping off?

BitterAndOnlySlightlyTwisted · 30/04/2014 20:25

Some people make assumptions or Just Don't Think. These are the types of people you should keep away from your children

littlewhitebag · 30/04/2014 20:26

At 11 i think i would probably drop and go. I would obviously be a very bad friend and be talked about on MN. Grin

AgentProvocateur · 30/04/2014 20:27

Ha ha - I was going to say YABU because she's 10! Just shows how opinions differ. It's still light, so I wouldn't expect to see a ten year old in if her parents were expecting her.

AgentProvocateur · 30/04/2014 20:28

You and me both, littlewhitebag.

minniem · 30/04/2014 20:28

I wait till my adult friends are in the door / waving before driving off!

SleepNBooties · 30/04/2014 20:29

Half an hour early though... OP could have been out.

13loki · 30/04/2014 20:30

I drove my 27 yo friend home from a works do. I watched her go in the building, then waited until she put the light on in her flat before I drove off. I would certainly expect someone to wait and see my child got in.

Sparklingbrook · 30/04/2014 20:31

I always wait for anyone to go through the door before I drive off, adult or child. I would never forgive myself if I left them there stranded.

RedHatNoDrawers · 30/04/2014 20:31

I wait for anyone I drop off to get in the front door, that's just polite surely?

FunkyBoldRibena · 30/04/2014 20:32

I'd call and ask where my daughter was. Just to put the frightners up them a bit. 'Did you actually SEE her go into the house?'...that sort of thing.

IorekByrnisonsArmour · 30/04/2014 20:33

This happened to DD, also 10!

We were also in the garden, didn't hear the knock. She came to the side gate and shouted.

I was Shock i still walk her friends to the door!

mathanxiety · 30/04/2014 20:33

I would wait. It gets very cold here in winter. Wouldn't want anyone coming home to find their child frozen on the doorstep.
People the DDs babysit for, if they bring them home they ask DDs to flash the sitting room lights to indicate they're all inside and safe. DDs have their own keys and there is a spare hidden outside too. They have had keys since age 10ish.

Tweasels · 30/04/2014 20:33

Absolutely, adult or child I always watch them go in. Come to think of it, with DS's friends I would get out of the car and take them to the door.

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