to think that if you drop a child off at their home you wait to see if they've got in the front door?

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It's only coutreoud isn't it?

Someone was due to drop off DD3 at 7.30pm, bit decided to come apporx 30 mins earlier.

And just dropped and drive off.

We were all in the back garden so couldn't hear the door bring knocked.

Ever the resourceful one, after knocking for a while, she climbed over the dude gate and joined us. To our looks of wtaf have you just come from?

Ffs.

Should I say anything or leave it? Im inclined to leave it btw as am quite non confrontational. But am saddened that she could've been hanging around on the drive fir 30mins.

I would wait till friends were in if it was dark or late, but not at 7pm.

I always check people have got in the house. What if they suddenly realised they dropped their keys in the car?

Yanbu. I also wait and watch. Even if they have a key to get in, keys sometimes fail.

Funky

I always wait until DD's friends go inside, but I often drop off after dark (her friends are 13 and 14 BTW).

I watch too - for exactly the reason of knowing they are inside and have keys etc. I just thought it was polite.

But with a 10yo I would have thought it common sense and not even thought to do otherwise.

Good plan, Funky.

Tbh, the cars were on the drve, so the assumption that we were in was correct, I just think it's NOTMAL BEHAVIOUR to do this.

YANBU

That's terrible dropping off etiquette to just dump and run.

I check adults are safely in the house (but then I have mates that regularly forget / lose their keys).

I'd wait but I know that where my sister lives, most children of ten are very independent and come and go as they please....so she'd not bat an eyelid. Maybe these parents are the same?

Always.

shocking utterly shocking. I dont know how people can be so cavalier about this sort of thing, even when older and my parents were taxi drivers they dropped people home and made sure they could get in, I was abandoned once in rough town center with no money and no way to get home.

I wait for anyone, child or adult. I wouldn't leave until I've seen them turn the key in the latch.

I wouldn't have heard them. I guess if I was in their postion I'd have phoned the parent's mobile?

Yanbu I would wait to see if a friend or colleague got in the front door let alone a child I was dropping off 39 minutes early.

At age 11 I don't think I would wait - I wouldn't drop off half an hour early though and I would expect the front door to be open or for them to have a key.

"At age 11 I don't think I would wait"

I think that is rather thoughtless and inconsiderate. During the day you can't tell if our house is empty or not. Would you drive off without waiting after dark as well?

If you don't want to argue but want to get your point across I would casually mention something along the lines of oh my you were early last time we were all out back we got a real shock when dd3 climbed over the gate. Hope this helps x

I wouldn't drop and go with a 10 year old, I would be knocking on the door with the child and handing her over to the parents and, you know, talking to them even if just to say hello, Annie was fine and we all had a lovely time. See you soon.

I'd wait and watch them go in at any age I think. But I'm paranoid

I always wait, even when dropping off teenagers, and even though they give me the look.

I really, really need a dude gate

Child or adult, I always make sure they have got in - anyone can forget their key.

I always make sure a person I am dropping off gets in safely - adult or child, male or female. DH is the same as are other members of our family.

Dude gate

Be excellent to each other that's what I say.

I also make sure adult friends make it in the house YANBU I'd never leave unless I knew a child was safely indoors